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Do you wait or do you make the first move?

Do you wait or do you make the first move?

By Elora HaysPublished about a year ago 7 min read

Xiao Luo is very disappointed in the company. He worked here conscientiously for several years. In terms of skill, ability, dedication, and hard work, who can be better than him? Unexpectedly, the opportunity to be promoted to supervisor was given to a colleague who came a year after him. Xiao Luo doesn't see any way his colleagues are better than him, "except that they are better than me in front of the leader."

After hearing his story, Xiao Luo's friend asked, "Is there anything that your colleague does not qualify for, or does he violate the rules for promotion as a supervisor?" Russell hesitated for a moment, but could not figure it out. His friend advised Russell to take the initiative and let his boss know what he was doing. Even if you don't get promoted this time, see if you can get another opportunity, or at least the next time you get one, your boss will think of him.

This suggestion LET SMALL LUO makes a difficult: "Take the initiative to want, this how I GOOD OPENING?" For him, it was more difficult than conquering a technical problem.

Does good work automatically lead to promotion?

It is not easy to take the initiative to fight for people, often hidden in the heart of the outside world's expectations. I once heard a professional say: I hope the company can be like this, excellent work will be promoted naturally, and I don't have to worry about other concerns.

If that's a requirement for choosing a job, fine -- if you want to stick to some inner standard, search widely, find a job that meets that standard, and dive in. After all, in a two-way selection process between people and institutions, what is the scope for job development? What's the working atmosphere like? What qualities do you value? What are the conditions to see for promotion and salary increase? ... All these questions can be put on the table. Some people abroad suggest that college graduates do the first job before, had better interview no less than 25 organizations, believe is also to better know oneself, find suitable for their job.

Having entered an organization that does not live up to your ideals, it is necessary to find a balance between your ideals and reality. If you still inadvertently adhere to the expectation of the environment, it makes you wonder, where does such expectation come from? Many people have a similar idea: when I was in school, I got used to teachers taking the initiative to care about me. After work, I unconsciously thought that my boss should see what I did, without me saying it. However, when you become a leader, you realize that when you are in charge of 10 or 20 people, you don't notice everything everyone is doing...

Wouldn't it be nice to know that a little earlier? After entering the workplace, the environment has changed, always expecting the current environment to conform to their past habits or imagination, which means they want to stay in the past and haven't faced and integrated into the reality of today. Ready people are more likely to get opportunities; Can't face the reality, clearly not ready. It's especially paradoxical to complain that you're not getting the opportunities, recognition, and recognition you want, while at the same time finding it hard to go about taking the initiative to get opportunities, present yourself, and earn recognition.

Accustomed to waiting for opportunities, but not used to actively striving for or showing their strengths, the disadvantage of their own is obvious. "I am one of those people who only do things and don't show myself, which is not good for me," said one professional woman who rose to the middle level after years of working. Your boss won't notice you. He'll be late to realize your value."

You need to communicate more than just doing things

It's human to yearn for opportunities and to be recognized for your worth. What you want, and go for it, is the routine. When past expectations and habits do not support today's goals, and you refuse to change them, your growth has stopped. In addition to making a living, work is originally a way to improve themselves and create value. If a person does not grow, when can he truly achieve himself?

Of course, success often requires multiple conditions at the same time, just like the college entrance examination is to see the total score of several subjects, not just the score of a single subject. For people who want to be recognized in the workplace, it's both about making a difference and letting the company or your boss know about your accomplishments, strengths, and potential. Those who can do things already have the former; Adding a little initiative and flexibility to what you're good at can go a long way.

In moving from passive to proactive, you may need to let go of some misconceptions: for example, it's bad to volunteer, it's bad to ask for favors, being too close to your boss is suspected of networking, flattery, and so on. As long as the performance, and strength are true, I come out to show the truth, there is no wrong. If the person has done something worthy of a higher reward, then you can be honest and say so.

In the workplace, some people will be honest about what they've done, what they've learned, what they want to do next, and a willingness to take on more responsibility, either in a performance review meeting or in any appropriate meeting with their boss. At the same time, also want to understand the boss's views, feedback, advice, guidance, and suggestions, including when there is no opportunity for promotion, clearly ask the boss if you want to get a chance, what kind of conditions you need to have or create... This is normal workplace communication, not flattery.

Otherwise, you may well become the subject of the following story:

Effective staff is dissatisfied with the treatment, silently waiting for a long time still did not change, and finally unbearable to resign. The ex-boss was shocked and confused: "I didn't think he'd leave! I thought he was happy with the pay. He never said he wanted more."

The odds are better for people who have multiple needs

When you do your best for yourself and increase your initiative and flexibility, you'll move from focusing only on the job to focusing on both the job and your interactions with coworkers and the relationships around you. Being able to take care of people and things is often more likely to be successful than just focusing on things.

To enhance effective communication with people is also to get out of the habit of self-centeredness, and integrate into the real environment. The "I've worked so hard, why haven't I had a chance?" complaint is a single perspective that "starts with me." From this perspective, all you see is "what I give" and "what I don't get," and it's easy to feel out of balance.

However, when you take the initiative to understand what I need to pay or do to get what I want in this environment, you will go out of the original perspective of personal habits and begin to understand the needs and requirements of organizations or others. There's a lot of teamwork and very little solo work. Taking care of each other's needs is an important part of the sense of cooperation. It will be easier to realize rapid growth if we can consciously find out the connection between our own needs and the needs of the organization and make efforts from here.

We often say that people who are open and flexible are more influential in any setting. Similarly, the person who can understand and accommodate the needs of both parties or even multiple parties will have a better chance than the person who only sees "what I want".

Read a foreign case: a manager, let's call him John. John is good at his job and happy with it, except that he doesn't get along with his immediate boss. He was so upset that he wanted to quit. At this time, John happened to attend a creativity course. He began to think outside the box to solve problems. Instead of asking a headhunter to recommend him for a job, he quietly handed over his boss's resume. The boss had better qualifications, background, and abilities, and the headhunter quickly found the right position for him. And the boss stayed here for a long time, also some tired, suddenly see a good opportunity to send to the door, readily accepted. After the boss left, the company made a comprehensive evaluation and selected John to take his place.

This is a happy ending that benefits all parties. It is conceivable that when you fully open your eyes and mind to seek creative solutions, how many unimagined opportunities are hidden in the dilemma that you thought there was no way out of?


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