Debunking Myths: What Women Really Want in a Man. The No BS Guide

Status quos are made to be broken.

Life is too short for denial, myths, clichés, and bs!

The truth shall set you free!

1. Do women care about the size of your penis?

Most often than not, no, they don’t.

They do care when it’s humongous or microtiny. Both in a bad way.

Despite what porn would have you believe, being at the receiving end of a massive penis is not pleasure inducing. On the contrary — it hurts.

Does it make a difference in whether a woman will sleep with you? Rarely.

Does it make a difference in whether a woman will be in a relationship with you? No.

And although this is not the first time I say this, men are adamant in believing the contrary and trying to prove it, too.

If they had to choose between small and big women would choose medium.

For example, this is one comment I had on another article stating something similar:

I'll admit I have a very big penis and everytime i take it out women smile and gush. They really seem to like it and if its someone im newly dating always want to touch it first and have sex. So i have to disagree with the writer and they all tell their girl friends about it so clearly its an asset. Just my experience

I had to laugh at this one. I’m sorry, but this is not real life. This is nothing more than a porn scenario. One of the silly ones, too, but unfortunately shared by a lot of guys.

How do I know? Well, I’m a woman. I have women friends. And I used to be a relationship coach.

What’s more, I used to be a trainer for a camming studio and if there is just one line I could choose that men used the most, it’s ‘baby, my d*** is 10 inches, can you handle that?’

Also, an ungodly amount of the nicknames used by these guys involved the words ‘big’ and ‘d***’.

A fulltime obsession with their member and it’s size. It’s not the women who care, it’s the men!

Since the men were nothing more than names on a screen, nobody would actually see their thing unless they wanted to be seen, so there was no reason for them to say that other than they thought the women in front of the camera would be impressed.

Newsflash: they weren’t.

Unfortunately, no matter how many times men will hear that women are not into huge members, they won’t believe it.

So let’s put this to rest once and for all, with verified data.

Studies of women’s penis size preferences typically have relied on their abstract ratings or selecting amongst 2D, flaccid images. This study used haptic stimuli to allow assessment of women’s size recall accuracy for the first time, as well as examine their preferences for erect penis sizes in different relationship contexts. (National Library of Medicine)

As a result of these studies, it’s been concluded that women preferred a penis of 6.3 inches/ 16.0 cm in length, with a circumference of 4.8 inches/ 12.2 cm.

Now that you have the exact numbers, it’s for you to decide if you still believe size is important or not and under what circumstances.

Stop worrying about how big your penis is and start working on how big your brain is.

2. Do women care about how rich you are?

Yes and no.

The truth is not as straightforward as you think.

Of course, anybody would rather have a rich partner than a poor one.

How much money you make is important, but usually, it’s not a deal breaker.

But a woman who truly is into you won’t care about it. However, it’s not a test of love. She might love you but still not choose you.

Women would rather have a partner with money than without because historically women couldn’t make their own money and how well they lived depended on their partner’s finances.

Today, women can make their own money. So you might wonder why they still care if they can provide for themselves. Because long-term societal customs are not so easily broken. What was ingrained into our psyche for thousands of years doesn’t change in 10 years.

However, the importance men think women give to money is highly exaggerated.

And there is a misunderstanding of women’s preference for money. It’s not the money they’re after. It’s a man’s earning capability.

In a series of 3 studies measuring a preference for mates with financial resources, the 668 participants were part of an online survey in which they were asked to state whether they preferred a man who earned or inherited his money in a variety of relationships ranging from marriage to one-night stands.

90 per cent of women preferred having a romantic relationship with a man who earned his money, while only 5 per cent wanted to establish a romantic relationship with a man who inherited his money. (Western Sydney University)

Surprised by this difference? You shouldn’t be.

In a world where women are still not paid the same amount for the same work as men, it’s only natural that they would look for partners that have proved their capacity to earn. The logic is: if a woman’s male partner is capable of earning more than her, why isn’t he? Is he lazy, uninterested, or incapable? Those are the traits that women object to more than the actual size of the male wallet.

3. Do women want a soft or aggressive man?

Neither!

Check out this comment that a reader left on another article, despite countless comments from women agreeing that they like a kind man:

If only those soft skills were actually what was attractive. Kindness, compassion and empathy are what we're told women want, but it's still agression, dominance and arrogance that win the day.

There is a huge misunderstanding here.

Women like men who have soft skills. Not men who are soft.

No, women are not into yes-men, pushovers, and simps. But they do love a confident man. And despite the popular opinion of incels and bullies everywhere, aggression is not confidence.

No matter what women say, a lot of men insist on believing women don’t like compassionate, caring, good men. And that’s because they think of themselves as good men and still, they have trouble getting a woman.

That’s where the misunderstanding is: most men who think they are good are nothing but soft. They don’t have soft skills.

Soft skills include effective communication, critical thinking, empathy, and a problem-solving attitude. These skills work everywhere. At work, in business, in relationships, at home, and in the bedroom.

These are the skills that will make you or break you.

Women like them, your boss likes them, and everybody you interact with likes them.

Soft fails. Aggressive fails. Confidence and soft skills win the day. And the girl!

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