Coffee Dates

I asked over a hundred women and men in total, do they prefer coffee dates or a sit down dinner date for the first date. Though the results weren’t shocking, the misleading idea of coffee dates are. Most people said they do prefer dinner dates but coffee dates were very close in ratings. Dining out lead by 52% while grabbing coffee was 48% but people had shocking reasons as to why they did not like just grabbing coffee.

Let me just say since it is 2020, you would think that the certain misconceptions of the dating world would have been left in the past. That not the case for a lot of things but I hope to clear a few things up about grabbing coffee.

As I learned that most people would prefer to go dining for the first date, I noticed that also believed that coffee date were short lived. I can see why people think that, I mean grabbing coffee by yourselves is just an in and out process. But it does not apply to dating. Coffee dates aren’t just; meeting up with the person, ordering your drinks, grabbing a seat for 30 minutes to an hour and leaving. Though they can go similar to my example that is not the case 76%, believe me I asked. People who prefer grabbing coffee on the first date stated that they ended up spending hours with their date after the date was supposed to end. So, you can spend more time with your date as long as you two want. Another misconception is that you have to grab coffee. No, not at all guys! A coffee date is just a general title for the date. You could simply order tea, water, ice cream, smoothies, a slice of cake, wine, a shot of rum, or (insert your favorite liquor/ drink here).

I know 2019 people had really been into budgeting and journaling. So if you’re on that journey to save and manage your life as much as possible, coffee dates are a budget winner. Because you’re not focused on a movie, doing other activities, or at dinner table where you’re likely to pull out your phone this force you guys to get to know each other. I love this date idea because hello, it plays as an easy safety plan as well. What do I mean be this? Here’s an example, let’s say your meeting this person for the first time off a dating app, online the person seemed to just your type and in the beginning the date is going well but then the date starts going south. Date settings like this place you in a public place and an easy way to say “Hey I have to go” or “This is not working” and leave, no hesitation as you are likely to get your orders faster. People have expressed the concern of not knowing if they should wait the 10 to 30 minutes for the food to come out since they’ve already ordered, eat, and pay. Or when you do pick a time to leave do you pay for your food or let them and other understandable concerns. Unfortunately, some people do experience these types of dates and dining dates, can put more pressure on the person to stay in an uncomfortable situation for longer than they should. Even other situations may happen such as having something come up with your kid and having to leave early or maybe you want to meet this person but have class or work later that day. These types of dates are flexible and most people can get a sense of someone within 30 minutes. Studies also show it takes up to three minutes for someone to know if the like you.

Don’t take this as me bashing dining out on the first date, that’s not what this is, at all. I, too, love dining out I mean who doesn’t but when it comes to first dates, safety is first. I hope this put some rumors to rest. Let’s discuss what your opinion is on first dates below in the comments.