Boys' silence and hesitation

Silence, hesitation, cold war, and speculation are a few factors that hurt a couple's feelings. The silence and hesitation of the boys is a kind of fuse for the girlfriends to make them explode emotionally instantly. Why your girlfriend will somehow get angry with you? Not because you are too able to talk, but because you are too silent.

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Girl's emotions, boy's mind

In a relationship, a boy's mind is more than a girl's; a girl's mind is built under emotions because girls who fall in love tend to become suspicious, become speculative, become emotional.

So, girls' ideas are emotional, often a little paranoid, and even hysterical.

The boys are the opposite, many boys are in love, once they encounter their girlfriend's quarrels and hysteria, often choose silence first.

In this silent process they think in their mind to respond: how do I let my girlfriend quiet down? How do appease her angry emotions?

The result can be several things.

First: the boy took the initiative to admit his fault, to please the angry girlfriend.

One of the wisest and fastest ways to resolve conflicts is to quickly admit your mistake, whether or not the thing you did wrong, never mind, first admit your mistake on the right.

In the admission of fault, to explain the love, move to reason, and finally give your girlfriend some small gifts, or take your girlfriend to eat a good meal, her irritable mood, instantly calmed down.

The second: boys choose silence or cold war.

The more silent you are, the more unstable your girlfriend's mood is, and the anger value towards you will continue to grow, and even hysterical towards you.

And you choose the cold war, not only will your girlfriend feel disappointed in you, but also a little bit to hurt your feelings for each other.

In a relationship, the best way to deal with conflicts is not to be silent, but to respond positively.

The third: the boy will hesitate and finally decide to reason with his girlfriend.

In the relationship, there is a saying that goes like this: If you want to fight with your partner to win or lose, then you don't want feelings; if you want feelings, then don't fight with your partner to win or lose.

Especially when guys face their girlfriends, it is not easy to argue with your girlfriend about right and wrong, win or lose.

You win, she is not happy, or even breaks up with you; you lose, the same is not pleasing, and you both are not happy.

The best way, often, is to temporarily bow your head and admit your mistake, and then reason with her after her emotions have stabilized.

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"Do you love me? Do you miss me? What are you doing?"

Girls always like to ask these questions, even every day, without getting tired of asking them again.

And in the minds of guys, they tend to get tired of such questions, and if you insist on asking him every day, many guys often can't take it.

He will start the bat, into hesitation, then into a few seconds of silence, and then go to reply to your question.

The other day a female reader left a message for me below the article, it was quite interesting.

The female reader said: the other day I asked my boyfriend a question, I said "Do you remember how many days we were together?"

She did not allow her boyfriend to think, let him directly say how many days the two people were together.

Finally, the boyfriend hesitated for several seconds but did not answer the question, and finally blindly said a time.

The female reader was angry, she was angry at her boyfriend's lying, not his failure to remember how many days the two had been together.

There is always such confusion and small contradictions in love: girls will always shift their angry points but are more concerned about the boyfriend's attitude towards her.

Some girls say: If a guy has a 3-second hesitation in answering your question, it means he doesn't love you enough.

But in fact, is it so?

In fact, from a psychological point of view, it can also be analyzed.

A person's subconscious thoughts tend to come out of his mouth, but this is not continuous, but episodic.

Just like: you are in a meeting, but during the meeting, you are not focused, your head thinking about other things; this time, you are too involved, too engrossed, distracted very seriously, then the next second, you may blurt out your thoughts.

But this only happens occasionally, it doesn't mean all.

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If a guy answers your question and has a 3-second hesitation to you, what exactly is he thinking?

From a psychological point of view, when a person reacts with hesitation in the face of a question, the person is often in one of the following states of mind.

First: he is suspicious, guessing the other party's intentions.

Because he is not sure you ask him this question, what exactly does it mean, he has not yet figured out your bottom line and the answer you want, so he does not dare to answer the question easily.

Second: he is thinking about the response.

Just like boys in answer to some tricky questions asked by their girlfriends, they also often have occasional silence, precisely because he does not know how to answer, can not let their girlfriend angry, but also let their girlfriend happy up answer, so there will be hesitation ah.

I think that here is similar to when a guy likes you.

A young, simple boy like you, will become stammering, blushing, some sweating and trembling; because he is afraid to talk to you, do not know how to express good feelings to you, he is just embarrassed to confess to you, so chooses to face you in silence.

Third: he does not want to talk to you.

If you have found a rift between your two feelings, and he is not willing to answer your questions, always hesitant, always silent.

Then, you can not suspect without hesitation, he just does not want to talk to you and wants to use the silence and cold war, to end your feelings between you.

Fourth: his personality itself is more introverted, or even mute.

Please must believe that some boys' character ah itself is introverted, they are not good at expressing love, and do not know how to express their inner good feelings; so they would rather choose to be silent some, more practical things, less sweet words.

However, when you are sad, happy, aggrieved, or need help, he is always very timely to appear in front of you.

This is the way some boys express their good feelings for you by being silent.

If a boy loves you, then he will love you in 100 ways; his occasional silence, does not mean anything, perhaps just that he does not want to talk at that moment, just want to be quiet.

And girls in the relationship should also learn to think differently; if you let your emotions spread, let yourself play small, over time, he will also be tired.

Good love, first of all, is mutually inclusive, and then holds hands together in a better direction.