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There is such behavior

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By LonetoftPublished about a year ago 10 min read
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There is such behavior
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01 love of vanity, false show-off

Early in the morning, my neighbor Xiaoping came knocking on the door, and the makeup on her face smoked so much that I took two steps backward and yawned two times in quick succession.

Xiaoping said: "Auntie, I like the jade bracelet you're wearing, can I take a picture? I want to ...... buy one for my mom." She spoke with some stammering, but I could tell she was sincere. I didn't hesitate to raise my wrist and say kindly, "Go ahead and take the picture." And told her where I bought this bracelet and how much it cost her.

Finally, also and I added We Chat.

Although we live across the street, not have much correspondence. I don't know her character, let alone what she does for a living. The bracelet I have is worth a lot of money, it was a wedding anniversary gift from my husband, and I especially cherish it.

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In any case, Xiaoping has this filial heart, and I will reach her wish. Besides, it's just taking a picture and adding a web. I feel happy for her mother to have such a daughter.

In the evening, I was eating when Xiaoping's sister-in-law called me upstairs and said, "Sister, how did your bracelet appear in Xiaoping's circle of friends, how did she get it?"

I have a quirk unless I want to understand a person to look through her circle of friends, otherwise, I do not look, and my We Chat friends are also a lot, the circle of friends simply can not look over.

I quickly open the phone, and a look at the circle of friends scared me. My bracelet, even net three photos, taken at different angles, is beautiful. The bottom also notes a line: Thank you boyfriend for my gift, love you.

Although she beautified the wrist and the bracelet, I have a black mole on my wrist, and how to get it, there are traces.

I then sent a message to Xiaoping and asked her what was going on.

She was unashamed and said, "He hi, same model, same model, from her boyfriend."

At that time, I had to shake my head, and feel that this little girl is letting people be speechless, ah, At a young age, do not learn well, and have the time to show others things, so why not learn knowledge, and improve themselves to earn money?

Later I heard that Xiaoping's ex-boyfriend is a rich second generation, two months of love, dumped her. To show off their own, net shot some high-grade jewelry what to send to friends, to show off their life well.

A few days ago, she also took a picture of her sister-in-law's ring and sent it to her circle of friends. At that time she did not pay attention, later, the more you look like. It is also said to have been bought for her mother and was taken off and placed on the table.

Her sister-in-law and I have a good relationship, no matter who bought a big piece, we have to appreciate each other. My bracelet is not good to take off, only to wear and shoot. The mole on my wrist and then beautify can not go, sister-in-law is also through this mole to recognize.

That's what got through.

Writer Yiddish once said a paragraph.

"A real lady with class never shows off everything she has, she won't tell others what she has read, what places she has been, how many clothes she has, what jewelry she has bought because she has no sense of inferiority." How many people hold this quote as a classic."

Yes, people with real strength do not need to show off their presence by showing off their appearance. On the contrary, the more you lack something inside, the more you go to show off something, which in turn is a manifestation of an inferiority complex.

After knowing the truth, I decisively deleted Xiaoping's We Chat and no longer became friends with this kind of vain person.

02 love to complain, do not reflect on their people, low level

Xian Zhang and Xian Wang graduated from the same school and were hired to do sales in the same unit. Xian Zhang's diligent study, the function of each product, and the characteristics of the master as well. He also taught himself psychology, and can always speak to the customer's heart. Therefore, his performance soared, and soon became a well-known figure in the circle.

Wang was not aggressive in school, and always think that with a college diploma will have a meal. The work is sloppy. Customers asked him what and also stammered. Do not know why.

His performance down, and three days to fish and two days to sunbathe, so that the leadership of his headache, and soon, he also had a name in the industry.

Colleagues introduced his experience, he did not listen but said that they meddle and look at his jokes. The relationship slowly alienated.

Leaders to talk to him, he not only defied but also all kinds of complaints.

He is the best in his circle of friends, complaining, saying what met a bad, bad boss, colleagues to his sarcasm, sarcasm.

In this way, the boss finally could not stand it and looked for an opportunity to fire him.

But Wang still does not reflect on themselves, a variety of complaints, not only their unhappiness but also bring trouble and stress to those around them.

Complaining is a relatively easy thing to do and is also a lot of failed people commonly used to comfort themselves, but you take it to temporarily balance the psyche is okay, but can not always use it to anesthetize yourself.

Because of the constant complaints, do not dare to admit their shortcomings and failures, naturally, they are not willing to change and take action, which will only make them lose the opportunity for self-improvement and development, and the results will only get worse.

In our life, to make something, both talent and hard work, and persistence are needed. Just like running a marathon, in the beginning, we all go hand in hand, not knowing who will lead, who will excel, we will find that the ability to be strong will be in front, however, the ultimate success, but also need to persist, strong ability without persistence, the results are no good, the ability is not strong, but also the ability to persist, then you still expect to be able to succeed?

Therefore, on the road to growth, please be open-minded listen to the views of others, take the strengths of others, and make up for their shortcomings. Only then can you recognize yourself, have the talent you insist, you will become the industry leader, no talent, you insist will always do better and better, and gradually stand out.

And you always do not know how to reflect, grumble, for people and themselves are not any good, so please stop being childish, too low.

03 in the circle of friends crying poor, selling miserable people, try not to contact, do not contact

Xiaoping used to be in the clothing business, the doorstep is very prosperous. I often buy clothes for her, became a close friend. Her husband opened a small restaurant, business is also booming, and there are a lot of savings. The company's main goal is to provide a good solution to the problem.

It is said that the full-time wife also has a full-time wife of the years, but I did not expect that her circle of friends now in addition to crying poverty is selling misery.

The first thing you need to do is to get a plate of pickles and a bowl of soup, plus a sad expression.

The clothes are also many years old, also with a sad expression.

In the last few days, another picture was posted of a child's toy. The note is: to buy this toy for the child, three days do not eat meat, with a tearful expression.

At first, I thought she was quite sad, after all, two children, spending more, they can not go to work, plus the special circumstances of this year, the restaurant is also not good, I take care of her with some clothes or daily necessities, she is very grateful, so she talked to me about her.

It turns out that the reason for the matter is this.

Hubby's business is not good recently, but some years ago, good to burst, and then she did full-time wife for a few years, not a penny earned, so the position of the two people in the family is tilted, the husband has someone outside, so she was a very nest.

I advised her that this can not be tolerated, and to think long-term about their plans. If you don't show your cards, then you should get a job, have the strength, and then talk about divorce, if not, you should get hold of his property information, and make a good calculation.

But Xiaoping can not stand divorce, so she does not want to showdown, however, let her go to find a job, and she refused, she just wants to live and live on, really sad to go to send some friends.

To be honest, I have some "grief for her, angry at her". You rely on friends every day to vent their emotions, but you still let your husband cheat on you, what good is that to yourself? You have the reason, but can not take action, and finally may be swept away by the husband, you finally do not want to divorce, but also to be divorced, how?

And you so every day in the circle of friends crying poor, selling misery, so that web friends are annoying, negative energy full of, and finally provoke acquaintances may have to stay away from you, you are why the pain?

She still does not listen, still, every day so send, I really can not tolerate these negative effects, and finally blocked her circle of friends.

04 Me Goiania said

The level of a person's level, is emanating from the inside out, rather than by material accumulation out, the real level of high people, will not deliberately show off their own, not to prove anything by showing off; at the same time, if he made a mistake, will also be open to advise, to correct themselves, rather than complaining everywhere, shirking responsibility; when he encountered difficulties and problems, will always reflect on themselves first, ideas to solve, rather than just want to vent, back. Instead of just wanting to vent and avoid the problem.

A person's circle of friends is a person's image, from many small aspects, you can see a lot of things, you send a circle of friends of each state, indeed, can directly reflect what kind of person you are, they are invisible exposure of your level, reflecting your value.

So, your circle of friends, determine your level: don't send anything to your circle of friends.

Social psychology tells us that social relationships will implicitly determine the direction of a person's development, so we all need to manage our circle of friends with care. I hope those who realize that they are at a low level, improve themselves, rebuild self-esteem and self-confidence, and do not let the people who love them, just want to pull black, away from them.

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