5 Signs That Your Partner Wants To Control Your Life

Your partner doesn't give you any freedom and everything you do is questioned. If your relationship is making you unhappy, it's time to identify it and fix it.

Therefore, we will show you five signs to know if your partner is taking control of your life.

1. He is very jealous and possessive

Your partner is very jealous of the way you live your life. He wants an explanation every time you go out with your friends.

He is also very possessive and insecure, so he wants to be in control of your phone and the people you meet.

He expects you to spend all your time around him and not with other people.

2. He gets abusive

To take control of your life, he becomes violent and abuses you physically and emotionally.

This is his way of telling you that you have to listen to him and do what he says.

3. He isolates you from your family and friends.

He keeps you away from your friends and family. He doesn't like you spending time with others.

He doesn't like the fact that you have more friends and a good social life. He even tries to make you feel bad when you are around other people, in order to isolate you and make you suffer.

4. He questions your beliefs

Your partner does not agree with your beliefs. Whether it's your religious faith or your way of life, he constantly questions the things you believe.

In fact, he keeps challenging your convictions with the intention of changing what you believe. This shows that he is trying to take control of everything in your life.

5. He makes you feel worthless

He constantly tells you that you are not good enough. This makes you insecure and vulnerable.

You feel pressured, weak and vulnerable. This gives him the opportunity to control your life in every way. Don't let it.

What to do when you have a controlling partner

You should know that a relationship in which either partner wants to impose his or her ideas or needs on the other is a negative relationship that causes suffering.

Someone who wants to control you does not love you, it is a relationship in which he/she does not treat you as a person, but as an object of their property.

In a healthy relationship there must be trust, respect, acceptance, when there are threats, blackmails so that the partner stops doing, or does something, it becomes a toxic relationship of which it is better to say goodbye.

Signs of someone controlling you or trying to control you:

1. Suggests how you should dress
2. Wants to know your passwords
3. Wants to control your cards, finances
4. Calls you constantly to know what you are doing
5. Asks you to stop hanging out with family members
6. Asks you to stay away from certain friends
7. Controls every penny you spend
8. Always makes decisions about where to go, where to travel, where to eat.
9. The things you do, like cleaning, cooking, never seem good enough for him or her
10. Feels like lying gives you a little freedom
11. Can be hurtful with his sarcasm or jokes
12. Blames you for things that happen to him
13. Spies on you or follows you

The more signs you find in your relationship is more worrying, all these types of actions are isolating and depersonalizing you, you should not allow them to take control of your life, you deserve to be an authentic person and feel free.

You must have self-love and value what is happening, you must stop allowing these actions that limit you.

Communication is essential, tell your partner how you feel about this, if he or she does not understand what is wrong, if it seems normal to him or her, then you should question yourself: Is this what I want? Am I happy like this?

Someone who does not accept the obvious, who does not recognize it, is someone who is not going to change, and no one changes because they ask for it, or because they see that you suffer or get angry, what you can do is walk away, if they do not care about you then who?

You yourself must value yourself, there is the option of seeking professional help to help you face your situation, so that you do not feel offended or judged, but as a person like any other with problems that can be solved to be better both.

If your partner does not agree to attend the help then there is nothing to do, you should know that people can get used to everything, and if you continue there you will end up getting used to be unhappy and be under his control.