What you always wanted to know about squirting

For many people, female ejaculation is either a wet fantasy of porn directors or a big sexual myth. Maybe you’ve heard stories about a friend’s acquaintance who supposedly jerks off like a sprinkler during sex.

A female orgasm, gushing like a man’s? Is there really anything to it? Spoiler: Yes. But it’s completely different than you might imagine — and it’s probably happened to you yourself.

Squirting: What is female ejaculation?

“Arousal during sex and stimulation of the G-zone produces a watery fluid in a woman’s so-called Skene’s glands, which flows out through the urethra. This ‘ejaculation’, of course, has nothing to do with semen. That’s why the word ejaculation is slightly misleading,” explains sexologist Ann-Marlene Henning.

How does it happen? When you’re aroused, the G-spot gets more blood flow and swells slightly. For some, this triggers an orgasm, for others it actually gets the juices flowing. Orgasm and female ejaculation are not necessarily connected.

Is the liquid during squirting urine?

No. The liquid comes from the urethra — so far so disturbing. But you can breathe easy, because: It’s not urine! “It can feel like you have to pee just before you squirt because of the proximity of the G-zone and Skene’s glands to the urethra,” says the sexologist.

“However, it is a liquid that only fills about a teaspoon. If the amount is larger, some urine may have already been added from the bladder.” This happens especially in women who push very hard during arousal. Pelvic floor muscles and sphincters are then affected, the bladder gives way and lets a small amount of very dilute urine run to it.”

Is it embarrassing to ejaculate as a woman?

There is nothing embarrassing about it at all! Look at it in a relaxed way: For many men, their wet finale is a special compliment to your qualities as a lover.

Sexologist Henning says, “Anything sexual can be embarrassing if you’re not well versed in a process.” Those in the know see it quite differently: “It’s different in some older cultures, for example in Japan. There, this feminine liquid was considered divine nectar! Viewed in this way, squirting can also be enjoyed at some point and associated with positive feelings.”

What is the difference between squirting and ejaculation?

According to sexologist Henning, there is actually no difference. They are simply two different expressions for the (almost) same phenomenon.

However, many people think of sperm when they hear the word ‘ejaculation’, which of course is not present in female ejaculation. Therefore, the English term ‘squirting’ — translated as squirting — is the more appropriate term.

Is the orgasm more intense when squirting?

If you thought that the ultimate orgasm awaits you with the female ejaculation, we have to disappoint you. As we said, female ejaculation does not have anything to do with orgasm.

“In the case of the woman, it can come together that she ejaculates and has an orgasm at the same time. But the squirting can also be triggered quite mechanically, so it happens almost without arousal,” explains Henning.

How women can learn to ejaculate

“Every woman can learn to do this ‘squirting,’ but it doesn’t happen on its own for every woman. It takes two things: Touch in the area of the G-zone and prostate and practice in letting go at the right moment. The corresponding brain cells must first learn to distinguish the urge to urinate from the G-zone desire, otherwise women will stop exactly when they should actually ‘let go’.”