What Does Submissive/Dominant Mean Sexually?

If you have ever watched the movie “Fifty Shades of Grey”, you may have got the first impression for BDSM lifestyle. Have you had a lot of questions when you see the scene of Ana visiting Christian’s playroom? How do you feel about seeing such a room that stocked with a variety of BDSM toys? There must be thousands of questions in your head if you are new to BDSM field. Then let’s move on to introduce you some basic information about BDSM.

What does dominant/submissive mean sexually?

Dominance and Submission, also called as D/s, is a typical subset of BDSM. To get better understanding, let’s start with what BDSM is stand for. BDSM represents some erotic practices which involve bandage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism. These aspects are usually short for B/D, D/S, S/M, thus BDSM.

Bandage and Discipline (B/D)

Bandage and discipline refers to the physical restraint of a sexual partner for the purpose of inflicting pain, punishment or humiliation. The person being bound is usually referred to as submissive or a bottom. Bandage can help generate sexual excitement for people who are abscessed with this. Some people enjoy the sensation of struggling against bonds while others may enjoy and derive sexual pleasure from the pain inflicted by their partner. And discipline refers to the training or punishment of a submissive by a dominant.

Dominance and Submission (D/S)

Dominance and submission is a set of behaviors, customs and rituals involving the submission of one person to another in an erotic lifestyle. Usually, the dominant partner takes psychological control over the submissive. This type of D/S relationship is not only about sex itself, it can actually be seen in many aspects of life. The dom and sub involve in the relationship can communicate and negotiate their own terms and rules for their relationship to work out. Then the dominant partner would guide and lead the submissive, while the sub would act as a servant to please their master. You may think that the female would be sub since men usually has more power. But it’s not necessary the case, there are a lot of men who are dying for the touch of a hot dominatrix.

Sadism and Masochism (S/M)

Sadism is the practice of obtaining pleasure by inflicting pain and suffering on another. On the contrary, masochism is the practice of obtaining pleasure by inflicting pain and suffering on oneself. So the abbreviation S&M is often used for Sadomasochism (or Sadism and Masochism). Practitioners of sadomasochism may seek sexual pleasure from their acts.

Some basic rules for a dominant and submissive relationship

These may sounds a little over if you are new to this field. But believe it or not, these activities may really bring sexual excitement for those who enjoy them. And it is a fact that more people are curious and would like to give this kinky lifestyle a try. If you would like to taste how it feels like to have a BDSM relationship, you may have these basic rules in mind.

First of all, you have to be open mind to try out these new things. Like it or not, don’t judge a thing before you really understand it or try it. Give the new things a try to see what would happen as long as you don’t hate it that much. You can meet and date like-mined people with BDSM style through sites like ALT FriendFinder. Secondly, lower your expectation. No one is perfect to fulfill all your fantasies. Last, please always remember to keep it safe and healthy. Some partners would set the safe word in case any dangerous thing would happen. These are just some basic rules that can apply if you would like to give it a try. You can always communicate with your partners for your own terms to make your relationship work.