Once you have been around kink for a while you find that there are two kinds of play that can happen in general. The first between a Top and a bottom having a scene. It’s not a relationship but just something fun for them both. No D/s, just an experience. We all do this one for sure. Then you discover play within a D/s or M/s dynamic and things can change for you. My Mistress is a sadist and she also thought of herself as masochist in her past. I am a masochist and these two things go together very well. At some point, you have to ask yourself why you do this? Why do I love to take pain for her? The easy answer is that she is my Mistress and this is what she wants. I don’t necessarily agree with that thinking. I believe that you have to want to take that pain. I also think that it has to be about more than just the pain. It’s the connection and more so for me my desire to suffer for her.

This article is for sure long overdue. I haven’t posted one on the intriguing world of kinks and fetishes for what feels like actually forever. Honestly, I have to admit researching for these articles is always the most fun for me. I’m just as surprised as you all are half the time at the wild things people do in their everyday life. Just think any stranger you pass on the street could be the king or queen of kinks. Wash your hands kids!

Working in the sex industry can mean many things. For me, it ranged from being a phone sex operator to Professional Dominatrix. Over the course of ten years I saw and did a lot. It’s an experience I learned from and can never regret.

I was a freshman in college the first time I had an open conversation about kinks. My group of loud, socially awkward friends made it a game.

I have had my share of M/s (Mistress/slave) relationships in my life. A few of them were live-in situations that ended after a period of time. I have always wondered what happened in those cases. I know that at that time of my life I hadn’t fully admitted who I was and I think I held some things back. Also, I feel like my Mistress did too. An M/s relationship is multi-layered and not easy. It takes a great deal of communication and a full commitment on both sides. There’s nothing worse than a rule being made and then broken and the Mistress doesn’t follow through to correct it. The same could be said for the slave. It’s my responsibility to follow the rules set out for me that were agreed upon.

Nipple orgasms, breast orgasms, breastgasms, whatever you want to call them - they exist. seriously. If you've never had one, it could be hard to imagine what it's like to orgasm from nipple play alone, but a fair few women and people with breasts have experienced it.

I have spent many years exploring my kinks. At first, I didn’t want to include sex in my play but over the years it has become more and more important. Somewhere along the line, I began to love pain as pleasure too. All of this has now become entwined in who I am now. Ultimately I am a submissive slave who loves to serve. Now I serve my Mistress and my place is at her side. I had always thought that once I transitioned that I would end up with a male to serve. Boy was I wrong. I’ve never had a connection that was stronger with anyone in my life. We are as one and I couldn’t be happier. We both love men so we agreed early on to include them in our lives. However, we are committed to each other and have lots of fun without them too.

As a kinky trans woman, I have always had the fantasy of being cucked by a woman. It started when I was in my male body and now as a woman, I have the same fantasy. I have found that over the years that I get great enjoyment from watching others have sex but more importantly I get joy and turned on by watching those that I care for and love having sex. This is the account of my first cuckquean experience.

Tell someone that is not kinky that you love pain and you will see that little pinched up face that people make when they don’t understand something. Why would you like pain? That makes no sense! To someone who is not kinky, it will never make sense. I am out in this world and I have friends that will say that they are fine with me being kinky but they don’t want to hear about the details. I respect that because they simply can’t understand it. To them when they fall down and get a bruise it’s the body's way of telling them that they are hurt. Kinky people understand this but also stand the pleasure that can come with pain.

I have often been asked by people in the lifestyle communities what roles do I train people for. Often this is a question of exploration and learning to know what more is out there. This has been a topic I have thought about often during my personal development and I am talking about this a lot after the release of my book, The Tao of Relationship Maintenance for Mind Controllers. After a move across country I am about at the start of establishing my House again and I have spent a considerable amount of time contemplating this topic. In my book I talk about what it means to be a servant in O&p culture and how being part of that culture influences my life and art. What I am going to do in this article is discuss traditional roles of servants in Houses and great homes of the past. I’ll also be sharing what these same services cost today. In sharing this information, I hope the reader will see the parallels of power exchange that exist in these roles and society from the past to today. I break down how to think planning to have these roles staffed in our home in order to make it a House of our own design and influence. I share with you the roles that I am seeking to establish at present in my House. Lastly, I share how I think about service. I welcome reader commentary on these roles and stories on how you have made your House operate.

"I'm just gonna go shower real quick," Kellin tells me as he gets out of the bunk and pecks my cheek.

The post is a celebration of experiential mindfulness in our lives and play with one another. This post is designed to assist you in creating a service oriented hypnotic play party in which several people have been consensually conditioned into obedient party servants and/or ornaments. This post explores an actionable plan to enjoy power exchange, brainwashing play, and mind control play in a task oriented themed party plan.