Karen's eyes fluttered open. Morning light slanted through her bedroom window as a bird sang somewhere close by. She wondered why she was sitting. Had she fallen asleep this way last night? How weird.
Alright so before I get started on this, I need to clarify something. I don't have a foot fetish but I do notice them.
So sub and dom drop is a drop that occurs after an intense scene. Some people also experience a drop after intense sex. This happens because adrenaline and endorphins spike during play, a scene and sex. Bottoms or sub types experience the drop more often. Most doms have never experienced a drop. This is because they may not experience as intense of a high as a bottom type does during a scene. The low percentage of reports of dom drop could also be because they maybe less likely to talk about it especially if it will cause them to be vulnerable.
So this happened at least two years ago and I was so stupid for not ending things sooner. I was on a certain site (I don't think they want this kind of publicity) and I was posting ads looking for a dom. A few days later after posting my first ad, I got a message from an older guy telling me he was looking for a sub type for his sub. I was intrigued so I messaged him back. We all got on a private group chat on Kik to talk to each other. I don't remember how soon this came out but at some point I found out that the guy was married but had this sub on the side of his marriage. I should have left at that point because I reasoned it away by saying his wife knew so it was ok. So I went on like normal and agreed to meet them.
So some men like the idea of seeing the woman they are with lactate, and some men even like tasting it and drinking it. I once had a request from a man to force lactation so that I can breastfeed him. Yep, this is a real fetish and a real request; that's why I'm writing about it to tell you how to do it and what else you need to know.
A Master and Mistress are kinds of doms in the BDSM lifestyle. I may say Master more in this post, but I will mean Master or Mistress. Mistresses and Masters are the same thing, but a Master is the male term and Mistress is female. A lot of people do this lifestyle very differently, but I will tell you the basics and what the majority of the community can agree on. They usually are with a submissive who identifies as a slave. I wrote a whole story on here about slaves. Slaves are sometimes seen as objects and belongings. Most of the time they're seen as property to their Masters, wearing a collar. Masters sometimes even name their slaves.
My day had been long—too long. I'd spent 10 hours on my feet at the diner, then another three in Advanced Geometry 701. Who knew grad school would be so much work? After slogging home through the rain, I was just about ready to throw down my bag and collapse. I dropped my raincoat on a chair, flopped onto our overstuffed green couch, and unhooked my bra. A wiggle here, a shimmy there, and I was finally, gloriously free of its constraints. This was the best part of my day. I can't walk around without a bra because my boobs are just too big and my nipples stick out like lighthouses whenever the temperature drops a degree—or when a cute girl walks in. But being bra-less was the next best thing to walking around naked.
So protocol means different things to different people but everyone can agree that a lot, if not all of it, has to do with respect. Respect and protocol are very important in lifestyle. If anyone that wants to be in your BDSM circle as a friend, play buddy, mentor, or whatever doesn't understand respect or protocol, then they need to keep it moving. Boundaries are a big part of protocol but we will talk about boundaries in another post because boundaries are a vanilla topic too.
Even after doing other posts about this topic, I still found more myths about BDSM. You can say no. You don't always have to do whatever your partner wants. You also always have rights. I have heard so many times that the bottom or sub type doesn't have rights. Sub types can give up their rights if they want to but that's their choice. I may do a whole article about sub rights later. You can have boundaries; most people have them. The list of boundaries can be as long as it needs to be for you.
If you have not read part one or two click on my name to go to my page to do so.
If you hadn't read part one click my name and do so now. So let's get back into this. We all know people judge or make up stuff about stuff they don't understand.
So in one of my past posts I talked about how BDSM isn't abuse but there are so many more lies that people believe about the lifestyle. If you don't understand something you shouldn't judge it. There are some people that are in the lifestyle or have been in the lifestyle that don't understand what it is. There's also people who were in it and then had bad experiences or just really didn't like it and they badmouth the lifestyle. There are people who are doing it wrong and they give it a bad name. Yes, there is a way to do BDSM wrong, and we will talk about it through here.