Submissive Rules..

When you let a submissive into your life you not letting in the average woman. She will change your world if you let her. It's not her job to serve your every whim, or be your every fantasy. If she lets you in her world, she is letting you have a sacred duty. She expects that you will do what you say and you make her fall in love with you have a duty to protect her from other people hurting her.

She is not you house slave or to made into your creation. She has wants, desires, and dreams. Your job number one is to support those dreams, guide her and in return you become her world.

She ultimately has the power in the relationship. At any time she can revoke her consent. She doesn't need to be micromanaged, or studied. She has every right to walk away when you have crossed any line she made clear. She is not to be controlled. because no one can but her. Don't mistake her love or kindness for weakness. She does not need to earn you. If you think that hand over your Man Card.

No good Dom wants someone they can order around. They want a woman who speaks her mind, has an IQ and the ability to use.

When you hurt one of these woman, you become every man who as ever hurt her, and the reason she doesn't trust the guy who truly loves her. What you say to her becomes her inner voice, the things she remembers when she is scared and alone. Subdrop is not a physical thing but it has physical consequences as well as emotional ones. The physical wounds heal but the distrust and fear of trusting others is something that lingers. When she thinks back on you she should remember the big things you did for her, though they might seem insignificant to you. She is not an obligation, or a pet or hobby to be shelved when you become bored.

How you treat her has consequences to how she perceives the world. Safe, Sane and Consensual. In terms of dating, her it isn't any different from dating any other woman. Once she is yours, you are responsible for her. That never ends. She will move mountains to help you, to do for you and never tell you the cost, because she does it because she cares. She is the same way with her friends. It is in her DNA not to serve others, or be used , or abused ..if that is the woman you are dealing with you have someone who needs therapy not a Dom. Brute force does nothing for her, it only tells her you are the kind of man who when he doesn't get his way, or everything he wants uses an means to get it. Lie to her and she will never trust you, abandon her and good luck trying to get her respect you again.

These women have a uncanny ability to sense asshole, and they will stay as far away from it as they can. It is like their superpower. Once you have made her a promise she expects you to be a man of your word, to be there when everything is falling apart and she needs a safe harbor. No amount of trickery will endear her to you. She will put up a barrier so high and so thick unless you do something to show her she can believe in you she will never trust you again.

Just because she doesn't mention it, doesn't mean she doesn't remember, isn't hurting over it and you don't have responsibility to fix what you broke. Should you hurt her, she will feel the pain so deep it will physically tear at her. That pain never goes away. She just builds a wall until someone will take the time to chip away at it. She may be representation of you in her behavior, but you are also a representation of the ideal to her. Breaking her down does nothing to correct her behavior.

When you pop the bubble of subspace without explanation and simply ignore her, you are exactly what you despised. It is possible but it takes effort and not on her part. If you can't be a man of your word , you will never win her. She kneels out of choice and never out of force or requirement.