How To Impress Her in Bed

Interestingly the chronological timeline reaching to this question starts like this.

“I know it all” —>” Is there any problem with her?” —>” Am I that bad? —> “How to Impress her in Bed”

That said, the problem lies in men perceiving sex in a bookish way. While many try to imitate tactics preached in flashy porn contents on the web, the more intellectual types turn to books and weird yogic postures. Somehow, people forget that most problems have a rather simple solution, i.e. in doing the basics right.

A woman’s sexual drives and organs are quite complex and hence, even guys who consider themselves experts in a knowing a woman’s body may not be able to instil a similar feeling of exuberance in some other girl. The reason; every woman is different; every woman is unique.

Flowers, chocolate, candlelit meals although they are all well and good, to begin with, the best way to get a girl coming back is to impress her in the bed. A man who knows what he is doing and makes a woman feel amazing in bed can be rare and can be exactly what she needs.

Anyone can buy some flowers, but it takes a real sensitive man to be able to listen to what a woman wants and make a woman orgasm.And here are some ways to impress her in bed.

Initiate sex when she least expects it

Initiating sex in typical environments like your bedroom or getting it on during the same time slots can make sex predictable. You need to understand that the surroundings or situations in which you make love have an important role in turning her on.

So, give her a heads-up on what she can expect. It can be a morning smoochy whisper before leaving for work, a sextext at lunch or even a couple of minutes of dirty talk on the phone. Or if you are feeling creative, you can even leave a message on a dinner napkin, saying, “Your presence is requested in the master bathroom from 8:35 pm onwards.”

This builds up her anticipation and even before the act, she would be soaked down, thinking about it. Also, you can use these quick chats to finalize the location; it can be a romp in the car, the kitchen countertop(Who can forget Kate Winslet on the kitchen top in Revolutionary Road) or even the laundry room(again Kate Winslet in Little Children).

Remember spontaneity leaves you with little time so a bit of planning can help you succeed big time and leave you both satisfied with the results.

Undress to impress

Don’t rip her clothes off. When you’re with someone for so long, the sex can become routine and stale. So instead of taking her clothes off in your usual way, take it slow.

In her book The Alchemy of Love and Lust, sex therapist Dr. Theresa Crenshaw says that the chemicals and hormones released into a woman’s bloodstream during sex can cause her to become “emotionally stoned”. This chemical avalanche starts well before the foreplay stage, and way before you “get genital”. So even the act of removing her clothes can maximize her levels of arousal to skyrocketing levels.

Tease her by taking off pieces of her clothing slowly and sensually. Make it slow and deliberate as you gently remove her high heels and unbutton her shirt buttons one by one. As you do it, kiss her neck and back and admire her body as though you are unwrapping a piece of art. Make her feel special and like a goddess. Keep your clothes on so that you can devote your undivided attention to her.

Remember the key here is anticipation. Anticipation leads to desire which in turn leads to great sex. Your very move of slow undressing makes her feel exquisitely feminine and delectable and she will all set to do anything for you.

Give her an orgasm before intercourse starts

In the book, The Women Who Love Sex, sex researcher Gina Ogden writes that 50 percent of women in her studies achieved orgasm from non-genital stimulation. And this is the biggest thing most women wish in bed.

But men ignore this wish royally and instead, they clumsily plough straight to intercourse as fast as possible. The foreplay is usually treated as a few minutes of mandatory formality which includes some kissing, a teeny-weeny session of cunnilingus and some squeezing and licking of breasts. This is not what a woman wants.

If you can give her an orgasm before you penetrate her, then good sex is 100% guaranteed afterward. And on top of this, giving her an orgasm will make her more responsive and is much more pleasurable for her than mindless plodding later on. Sex becomes better for you, and for her.

Remember there are 2000 “hidden” erogenous zones on her body that can give her pleasure, and they can actually give her more pleasure than vaginal stimulation. The right way to explore is to give her an exquisite building sensation in each of these areas that should become almost unbearable to her. Alternatively, you can even do it harder and faster for a more intense sensation.

Remember, if you are a man who has taken the time and explored each one of her erogenous areas, you can surely rock her in bed.

Don’t sweat about the orgasm

If she gets it, awesome. But if she doesn’t, no worries (and the same goes for you). The orgasm expectation is the major let down that prevents both of you from enjoying the pleasure that comes from sex.

Sure, getting the big O is great and is the ultimate triumph of sex. But if you focus on pleasure, orgasm is more likely to come and come more quickly.

And to all girls, you want more exciting sex, don’t fake an orgasm. If you do that, he will never know what he was doing wrong and he will continue doing it. Instead, let him know when something feels amazing, either by speaking up or giving the appropriate body signal. That way there’s no confusion about what you really like in bed.

Remember, great sex is also possible even without an orgasm. So just chill and focus on the pleasure of the moment.

Lastly, have a postgame plan

After sex, she is completely open and vulnerable to you. Don’t squander this wonderful opportunity to display your affection by going off to sleep.

As Yvonne K. Fulbright, author of The Hot Guide to Safer Sex rightly says.

"To make her feel like you're present and into her, you have to keep up that connection. She knows you are tired and it is an effort for you and despite that, if you do something, she will appreciate it.”

You need not do anything drastic. Just snuggling against her, holding her hands and sharing a bowl of ice-cream is enough for her to feel loved. Even taking a shower together or simply lazing around the bed whittling away time talking sweet nothings to her will strengthen your sexual bond with her and maker her eager to have sex with you whenever you want it. Plus, it is an icing on the cake, a treat that goes beyond your usual sex routine and she will undoubtedly love it.

And finally, make love to her seriously. By making love, I mean going much beyond sex; take time to caress her, worship her sensually and kiss her all over in places never been explored before. Make her feel desired like a sexual goddess at all times. If your girl is convinced that you just cannot get enough of her, she will never be disappointed by you in bed.

As Hunter Thompson has rightly said.

“Sex without love is as hollow and ridiculous as love without sex.”