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  • Mantza
    Published 7 days ago
    Male Sex Education and Porn

    Male Sex Education and Porn

    Now guys, this is getting serious: the amount of men that are mimicking sex the way it's done in pornography is astounding. And I feel it's not being talked about enough. OK, there is nothing wrong with having porn sex, it's just not all that interesting for most women. For the average woman, it highly resembles (if that) the feeling of masturbating. Because that's what porn is made for - masturbation. I know that it can sometimes be fun to do it as they do it in porn, but it can become extremely repetitive regardless to say that sex is so much more than humping, fingering, gagging, licking or sucking. More than you could ever imagine. And no, I'm not talking about necessarily getting emotionally involved - although that is the way to having the time of your life - but just going with the flow, feeling what she wants, asking for what you want, relaxing, making time and space for experiments, for exploration, knowing how and what and where. Whether it be soft or hard, slow or fast, sex is meant to be fulfilling, not just a means of relief. Don't most men want to be just a little bit happier in general when they leave their lover's side? Wouldn't most men want to be their best at satisfying a woman? And no, I'm not talking to you, you egocentric narcissist, who's only goal is to 'cum and go'.
  • Lena Bailey
    Published 7 days ago
    BDSM Mentors and Protectors

    BDSM Mentors and Protectors

    So I wanted to write this post for those who were curious about what these people did and if they need one or both. I also wanted to write this for my mentee to teach them what I should (and could) do for them. I will be putting in what I know and what others around me know into this post. So let's get started — there's a lot to cover.
  • Anna McGhee
    Published 12 days ago
    Daddy or Dick?

    Daddy or Dick?

    Chances are, if you are reading along, you are curious or just beginning your journey into BDSM and the kinky lifestyle. Even better chance if you are reading, is that you have strongly identified with either a submissive/bottom/switch play style and need to find a good top/Dom/daddy/mommy. Where do you even start?? More experienced players can tell you, the scene is littered in human garbage, claiming to be tops while preying on unsuspecting bottoms without the experience needed to tell them to fuck off. In an attempt to spare you abuse, heartache, and a lot of dangerous scenarios, I have constructed a general guide to dominant choosing, to better equip my precious baby bottoms with the tools needed to have fulfilling BDSM experiences.
  • Ashley Lunt
    Published 13 days ago
    How to *Not* Be a Dick at the Strip Club

    How to *Not* Be a Dick at the Strip Club

    Listen, gentlemen, it's called a 'Gentlemen's Club', which means that one must behave as such. Though it is part of the entertainer's job to create a sexy and fun experience for the patrons that walk through the door that does not then mean that regular polite behaviors are negated. Sometimes it's because it's fun to play king for a night or sometimes it's inexperience but the behavior sometimes goes really badly really quickly. Here is what not to do at the strip club, guys:
  • Friday Vibes
    Published 19 days ago
    Sexual Desires

    Sexual Desires

    As humans, we all have something that we desire from sex or within sex. It's either a feeling or a rush. It may be a mental or emotional desire that we seek from the acts of sex. I wanted to share with you all some of my sex stories and moments as well as what I desire.
  • Jaylene Perez
    Published about a month ago
    Why I Waited to Have Sex

    Why I Waited to Have Sex

    It took me a long time to be comfortable with myself as a sexual being. I grew up shy and introverted and suffered from very low self-esteem. I had a range of crushes and fantasies growing up, as any normal child might, but they were secretive and only mine.
  • Isla Wright
    Published about a month ago
    5 Common Misconceptions About Masturbation

    5 Common Misconceptions About Masturbation

    Misconceptions about masturbation exist because it’s portrayed as something that people should be ashamed of. For a long time, it was presented as a mental problem and a perversion. That’s why, even if they hear or read something, people won’t discuss it with anyone and will take those “facts” as true. This mostly happens to younger people who don’t have enough experience to see through someone’s lies, so they stay uneducated on this matter. Not only that it isn’t a mental problem and a perversion, but it’s healthy and acceptable, as almost everyone does it. In this article, you can read about common misconceptions about masturbation and why they’re so wrong.
  • Isla Wright
    Published about a month ago
    5 Sex Tips for Men Who Want to Be Good Lovers

    5 Sex Tips for Men Who Want to Be Good Lovers

    There’s so much more to your everyday sex than most guys have ever thought about. A lot of people find sex just a means to satisfy their needs and don’t really pay attention to their partner’s wishes, no matter if it’s a one-night stand or usual sexy time with their loved one. Some people don’t even care about their performance as long as they enjoy intercourse. However, other people probably wonder about how they should approach sex in a different manner and how to get better at it. If you’re one of them, you’ve stumbled upon the right page. Here you can find some tips you should try implementing into your sex life and see for yourself that they do wonders.
  • Laura Grace
    Published 3 months ago
    Naughty Texts to Get Your Partner in the Mood

    Naughty Texts to Get Your Partner in the Mood

    Crafting the perfect naughty text that doesn’t make the receiver cringe when they read it can be a work of art. Many will overthink it in order to say the right thing. The truth is though, it doesn’t have to be a daunting task. The best naughty texts are short and sweet, and are tailored to what your partner desires.
  • Lena Bailey
    Published 3 months ago
    My BDSM Horror Story Update

    My BDSM Horror Story Update

    I want to start this post off by saying that I am not making any of this up to get attention. I'm doing this so that people will feel like they aren't alone. I want people to be aware that this happens. I also want people to look for the signs. I will mention a new person but this new person decided to block me and possibly ignore my warnings so I think this is fair game to talk about.
  • Lena Bailey
    Published 3 months ago
    Play Buddies and FWB

    Play Buddies and FWB

    I really want to continue doing posts on how to do certain dynamics or teach you about certain dynamics. This one will be really simple and might be enlightening to some of you. So let's jump in, shall we? If you don't know what play buddies are, it's just what it sounds like. It's when two adults decide to do sexual stuff to each other but maybe not go all the way. If they go all the way, it may evolve to friends with benefits (FWB) possibly. Friends with benefits is where two friends (again adults) decide to maintain a friendship but fuck and maybe play on occasion. There's different variations of this, but this is the main dynamic of this variety.
  • Alicenaraa Naraa
    Published 3 months ago
    7 Things to Do Before a Hookup You Need to Know

    7 Things to Do Before a Hookup You Need to Know

    Knowing that you are on the verge of a great hook up experience is a great feeling. When you actually do it, it ends up being exciting, thrilling, embarrassing and even weird sometimes, which just makes it more memorable and enjoyable. For some people, it might be a life changing event and for others it ends up being a memory to cherish for the rest of their lives. There are innumerable ways in which you can be affected by a casual hook up experience. However, if you go about it without exercising caution and common sense, you might end up with the exact opposite. Such a situation will end up leading to an experience that you will not only regret but even one that might put you in a lot of danger.