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I Know Why Men Think About Sex
“Look at those.” “Where?” “You missed it.” It’s annoying when Fabien doesn’t specify, but I know exactly what he’s talking about.
By Zohan Khan28 days ago in Filthy
Everyone Thinks Bisexual People Are Secretly Something Else, And I’m Tired of It
There’s been a lot of conversation online recently about bisexuality. And by “conversation”, I mean people confidently explaining bisexuality to bisexual people.
By No One’s Daughterabout a month ago in Filthy
The Art of Building Anticipation
One of the most erotic and sexy things you can do with your partner is build up the anticipation, not just before sex, but before even the foreplay begins. It can be minutes, it can be hours, or you can go for the all day anticipation. However long it last... it often enhances the entire experience for both partners from start to finish. If done right, it truly is an erotic art.
By Timothy A Rowlandabout a month ago in Filthy
How to Talk About Your Desires Without Shame
This post is for both the men and the women who read it. Men are afraid to talk about their desires and fantasies because they are afraid that their girlfriend or wife will judge them or freak out some how. Women are afraid to talk about their desires and fantasies because they are afraid that their boyfriend or husband will either think less of her or he will possibly take it too far. The sad result is that everybody stays silent, despite both of them often having similar wants and desires. Sad all around, really.
By Timothy A Rowlandabout a month ago in Filthy
Sexuality
We all as human being have sexual experiences in our lives. We all admit, men especially, love it or not love it. We all have good and bad experiences when it comes to sex. Men do too. I mean, just because they are men doesn't mean it's always good for them. Let me tell you what pleases a man in bed the most.
By Danielle Mosley2 months ago in Filthy
Foreplay Matters More Than You Think
When people think about great sex, they often focus on what happens during intercourse. But many overlook one of the most important parts of intimacy: foreplay.
By Mark Lim 2 months ago in Filthy
On Modesty. Content Warning.
Introduction I have written about this before, how the human body must be covered in the name of modesty. I will probably repeat a lot of points that I have previously made but they do need repeating. I often say to people who remark on the number of Vocal stories I publish, that I am a bit like a newspaper, you just read the bits that catch your eye and interest you.
By Mike Singleton 💜 Mikeydred 4 months ago in Filthy
High Sex Drive in Women
Having a high sex drive in women is more common than you might think, yet it remains one of the most misunderstood aspects of female sexuality. The psychology of high female libido involves complex factors including hormones, emotions, stress levels, and personal relationships. If you've ever felt like your sexual desires are "too much" or wondered if something is wrong with you, you're not alone.
By LaMarion Ziegler4 months ago in Filthy
Naked Attraction. Content Warning.
Introduction A few years ago, a friend of mine appeared on the dating program "Naked Attraction", the concept of which is you see the naked body, no faces and choose your date. There are men and women on both sides of the equation.
By Mike Singleton 💜 Mikeydred 4 months ago in Filthy
I Fell in Love With Sex Work Again And I’m Done Pretending That’s Shameful. Content Warning.
If you’ve followed my blog for a while, you’ve probably noticed I disappeared for a few months. For years, I was painfully consistent. I wrote constantly. Through chronic illness, burnout, terrible jobs, relationship drama and every identity crisis imaginable. Even when life was falling apart, I still showed up and wrote.
By No One’s Daughter4 months ago in Filthy
Relationship Boundaries Help Gen Z Avoid Toxic Dating Experiences
Contemporary dating has been profoundly altered, and the most prominent factor that contributed to this shift is the way Gen Z stresses the boundaries of the relationships. In contrast to the previous dating rules when individuals tended to accept the vague expectations or emotionally exhaustive relationships, Gen Z is more concerned about being understandable and self-guarded since the very first date. Boundaries are not perceived as an obstacle to love anymore but are necessary to determine and prevent toxic dating moments.
By Stella Johnson Love6 months ago in Filthy
The Most Powerful Lesson from Ramadan: A Journey That Doesn’t End with Eid
Ramadan doesn’t feel like just another month. There’s something different about it—something calm, something deep. Even people who are usually busy and distracted start slowing down a little. They think more, speak more carefully, and try to become better versions of themselves. But the real question is not what we do during Ramadan. The real question is: what stays with us after it ends? For many people, the most meaningful lesson of Ramadan is self-control. Every day, from morning till sunset, you hold yourself back—not just from food and drink, but from anger, negative thoughts, and harmful behavior. At first, it feels difficult. But slowly, you realize something powerful: you are more in control than you thought. In today’s world, especially in fast-moving places like the United States, life is full of distractions. Social media, work pressure, constant noise—everything pulls your attention in different directions. In the middle of all this, Ramadan teaches you how to pause. It teaches you that you don’t have to react to everything. You can choose your actions. That one realization alone can change your life. But Ramadan is not only about control—it’s also about awareness. During this month, you start noticing things you usually ignore. You think before speaking. You become careful about how you treat others. Even your intentions begin to matter more. This kind of awareness is rare in everyday life, but it is extremely powerful. Imagine carrying this same awareness after Ramadan. Imagine being mindful in your daily conversations, your work, your decisions. It would reduce stress, improve relationships, and bring a sense of calm that most people are searching for. Another beautiful lesson Ramadan teaches is gratitude. When you stay hungry for hours, even a simple meal feels like a blessing. A glass of water feels special. You begin to understand how much you already have. This small shift in thinking changes everything. Instead of focusing on what’s missing, you start appreciating what’s present. And that’s where real peace comes from—not from having more, but from valuing what you already have. Ramadan also gives you time for self-reflection. It creates space in your life where you can sit quietly and think. Who am I becoming? Am I happy with my actions? What do I want to change? These are questions we usually avoid because life is too busy. But during Ramadan, these questions naturally come to the surface. And when you start reflecting, something begins to shift inside you. You become more honest with yourself. You start noticing your weaknesses, but instead of ignoring them, you slowly try to improve. That’s how real growth begins—not suddenly, but step by step. One of the most powerful parts of Ramadan is how it builds empathy. Feeling hunger yourself makes you understand the struggles of others. It softens your heart. You become more generous, more kind, more willing to help. In a world where people often focus only on themselves, this lesson is incredibly important. Ramadan reminds us that we are not alone. We are part of a bigger community. And even small acts of kindness can make a big difference. There’s also a kind of quiet peace that comes with Ramadan. Less noise, fewer distractions, more time for prayer or silence. In a way, it works like a natural reset for the mind. Today, people talk a lot about mental health, mindfulness, and meditation—but Ramadan already brings all of that together in a simple and natural way. It teaches you to slow down. To disconnect from what doesn’t matter. To focus on what truly does. But then Eid comes. There is happiness, celebration, and relief. But along with that, there is also a hidden question: what now? Do we go back to our old habits? Do we forget everything we practiced? Or do we carry something forward? The truth is, Ramadan was never meant to be just a temporary change. It was meant to show us what we are capable of. It proves that we can be disciplined. That we can be patient. That we can be better. Even if we don’t continue everything perfectly, even if we keep just a few habits, it still matters. Maybe you stay more mindful. Maybe you control your anger better. Maybe you remain a little more grateful than before. These small changes, over time, create a big difference. The journey of Ramadan doesn’t end with Eid—it simply changes form. Instead of intense daily practice, it becomes a quiet, ongoing effort. A personal journey of becoming better, little by little. And perhaps that is the most meaningful lesson of all. That life itself is a journey of growth. That change doesn’t happen overnight, but it is always possible. And that the real success is not in being perfect for one month, but in continuing to improve throughout the year. So after Ramadan, don’t feel like it’s over. Think of it as a beginning. A starting point. A reminder of who you can be. Stay curious. Keep learning. Reflect often. Be kind. Be patient with yourself. And most importantly, don’t rush the journey. Because in the end, the real beauty of Ramadan is not just what you do during it—but what it quietly changes inside you forever.
By AngelFace6 months ago in Filthy