How Married Men in Ghana Find Men to Have Sex With a Trend Popular Throughout Africa

Saturday, 13 May 2023

By: TB Obwoge

In Ghana it's easy to recognize the fact that women are often times raising children with the absence of fathers. Something that would bring shame to a woman in the western world but is common place.

Churches are filled with women and children on Sundays. There is actually an overwhelming large number of women filling church pews in Ghana. Where a phenomenon of having children out of wedlock with married men is also common practice. The side-chick jokes even spill over into the media, in a country that is self-proclaimed Christian.

Ghana is where men boast about having wives and side chicks, yet there is a world of underground gay sex. Where men have created a secretive network for finding other men to have sex with.

Men have also used this network to beat gay men. In Ghana there is no such thing as rape of a man, especially from man to man. Imagine how many men have been raped by another man and can't report it as this isn't considered a crime.

There are several African countries that don't consider rape of a man as rape at all.

Some accounts on TikTok are Ghanian men openly advertising their sexuality. Though there are men in the military, police, immigration and fire services that also engage in hook-ups with gay men.

Unbelievable: GH man drugs and ‘gay’ rapes visiting male friend

In an February 2023 article a Ghanian man invited a friend over with the intentions of drugging him to have sex with him. There was a video posted and screenshots as well within the article, in Ghana there is no such thing as rape of a man. 

Unbelievable: GH man drugs and 'gay' rapes visiting male friend

In the article by Ghana Web it tells how the man invited the male friend over to his home, hoping on 'vibing with him'. It then goes onto tell how the unidentified perpetrator offered his companion a drug laced with some unknown drug. 

The person drank the drink and fell out, this incident was posted to Snapchat. No one was able to identify any of those involves as their faces were covered.

Source: Ghana Web

The anti-LGTBQ bill in Ghana or any other African country won't stop homosexuality, it'll just push it underground. Men especially will find a way to have sex with other men. Even if they start a group where the men will engage with sex with their own friends, like much of what has been alleged to be happening already in places like Ghana and Nigeria. 

Men will just have sex with their close male friend groups, they will take a day to spend with them, watching football, drinking and having sex with their peers. This is nothing new in Africa & the Middle East and nothing will ever stop it, even the threat of death.

Journalists in Ghana via UTV Ghana have often posted stories to infuriate Ghanians hatred towards gay people. UTV News posted an old quote form Uganda's homophobic president, which was used just to infuriate Ghanians about homosexuality in their country.

What was their reasoning for posting a comment made a year prior? It was nothing but to make sure Ghanians were angry and fired up against homosexuals. They also need someone to blame for their declining economy.

A Ghanian man posted last week how he would burn homosexuals as punishment. This was a Facebook comment under yet another UTV News video about homosexuals and the economic state of Ghana.

In a shift from using Grindr, people are using TikTok, Facebook, Snapchat, Instagram and Twitter to meet gay men. Men in Ghana who are married with children often don't view sex with men as homosexuality. This is common practice for men on the DL (down low) where certain types of sex with men isn't considered sex to them.

Those who don't receive anal sex yet just give it also think that they're different than other men who they consider openly gay.

Homophobia: Africa’s moral blind spot

On April 17, Sheila Adhiambo Lumumba, a 25-year-old non-binary lesbian, was found murdered in Karatina, Kenya. Lumumba had been missing for several days before their body was found. An autopsy report revealed that Lumumba was raped, strangled, stabbed several times in the neck and eyes and their legs had been broken.

Human rights groups lamented Lumumba’s untimely and violent passing. The hashtag #JusticeForSheila trended on Kenyan Twitter for several days after their passing. The Kenya Human Rights Commission called on authorities to investigate the gruesome murder and stressed that “too many queer Kenyans are getting killed with no accountability for perpetrators”. Amnesty Kenya shared similar sentiments and asserted, “no one deserves such cruel treatment. Sheila didn’t have to experience all this pain”, and the National Gay and Lesbian Human Rights Commission described Lumumba’s death as “part of a pattern of attacks and violence against LGBTIQ+ persons in the country”.

Source: Al Jazeera

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