You know what I find interesting? The fact that we promote an array of human rights and freedom to be ourselves, but sex still feels like a super taboo topic in 2020. Well, that may not be the case in some social circles, but as far as I can remember, when it comes to people in my surroundings, the topic of sex ruffles feathers, causes grown people to blush, and exposes a plethora of misinformation.
If you’ve read my last post, I outlined my manifesto if you will, my formula for tapping into your own potential and frequency for attaining your happiest and healthiest evolution of yourself. The Two Fs (food and fucking), feed the fire, strip away the inessentials and help one get to the core of who they are by assessing and owning one’s sexual prowess and preference while using the raw and abundant power of food to feed and nourish themselves. This formula is based on observation, research, study, regular practice and implementation. However, in this post, I wanted to cover the origins of this algorhythm, my own narrative, my own life, my personal journey.
Our evolution is a fascinating one. From the atom, to an amoeba, to a complex, multi-faceted species, we have evolved with limited means and basic guiding principles. However it seems that the further along that we’ve passed on our genes, the more innovation crafts us gadgets, gizmos and convenience, the more we connect with a vastly growing planet, we seem to have deviated further and further from that which has allowed us to evolve and thrive as a species biologically.
It's not hard to find a reference to masculinity and penis size. In North America, and many cultures across the world, there is a pre-occupation with the concept that a larger penis means more masculinity and power. Many insults, as well as compliments, play into this idea.
Something about sex work has a tendency to bring out a bunch of fake advocates who want to save people who absolutely do not need to be saved. I am not a victim because I worked or work in the porn industry. I am an adult woman now and was one when I made the decision to enter the porn industry. I have always been proud of my work in the porn industry. Despite the fact that people continuously criticize me, try to shame me, and try to categorize me as someone of a lessor class for it.
Our communities are ever-evolving and changing. New people and old hats alike always need to be aware of some of the basic guidelines we must follow as we have seen a drastic decline in old practices of lifestyle families and mentoring. The families and clubs gave newcomers a strong base of ethics and community rules. These venues also allowed a safety net of inclusiveness, non-judgment, and acceptance.
If the thought of talking about sex brings a flush to your cheeks or a nervous flutter to your belly, then don't worry. You are not alone. Many adults are uncomfortable talking about sex, even with their own partners. But what gives us this discomfort? Is it something that's evolved as part of our genetic makeup? Do we have deep-rooted fears of being seen as inadequate by others? Are we taught by society and our parents that it is the correct response to sex? Does it make sex seem more mysterious and seductive? What is the root cause of why we are embarrassed to talk about something that has been an integral part of the human experience?
There are a lot of ways to look at sexuality. People are influenced by their upbringing, culture, religion, and life experiences. Our ideas about sexuality evolve throughout our lives based on all these factors. We may feel embarrassed by the subject or don't know who or when we can talk about it but these kinds of conversations are important.
There are 4 types of consent within our society and I have listed and defined them below. It is so important now, more than ever, that we look at how we see consent. This needs to be a topic of conversation, a topic of education, a topic to be defined. I have put together Active Energetic Consent as a relevant way to explore the mandatory topic.
Sexuality has been around for many of years; however, humans are the only species that shape sexuality by gender. A man has a high pitched voice—oh he’s probably gay, because he sounds “girly.” A woman likes to keep her hair short and she has a firm handshake—well, she’s probably gay. Society shapes sexuality by focusing on the homosexual stereotypes. Heteronormativity is a big factor on why society is like this. Heteronormativity is where heterosexuality being enforced by laws, religious doctrines, and family and employment policies that explicitly and implicitly promote this as the norm. Heteronormativity is constantly and heavily portrayed in the media as being normal and natural.
"Can you believe that slut fucked that dude?" That's a question that can be heard around the Village, Greenwich Village in NYC in this case, most Sunday mornings. As someone who has a gossip podcast, my ears always perk up but then realize this isn't the salacious tea that I trade in. These people are friends, or at least friendly, with the characters in their stories. Even worse is when the person is there too, dying of embarrassment that their sex life is on display for everyone to overhear. It's slut-shaming at its passive-aggressive worst, and the tables need to be turned on them.
If you've ever felt less than beautiful because your body doesn't fit into the endless ads of skinny women and muscular men, then you are surely not alone. International photographer, Rae Threat, has dedicated an entire art show to how cultural views affects the body images of those whose bodies do not conform to how society thinks they should be. Her work features interviews with models, ranging from adult performers to body positivity advocates, of a wide variety of genders, sizes, and identities.