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5 Things Men Crave after Orgasm but Won't Admit It

Whatever you do, don't say sleep.

By Jessey AnthonyPublished 2 years ago 4 min read

Do you know what hate doing after sex?

Talking to myself!

I hate it when the guy sleeps off immediately after sex. It’s freaking disrespectful. It makes me feel used.

Guys, would it kill you to wait five minutes to have a conversation before drifting into a long nap?

There are some that literally, passed out while they were still inside me. I had to roll them over to go clean up. *Rolling my eye*

I like cuddling and kissing, and maybe go a second or third round after a passionate sex. But some guys don’t give you that pleasure.

Well, it seems some guys find this habit annoying too. Although is not their fault, it’s a relief to know what happens to our bodies when we get exhausted after having sex.

Believe it or not, sex can unleash all sorts of feelings and actions you may not have even known you had, and that is because it activates certain hormones in our brain and body.

And when we orgasm, these parts of the brain light up four times more. To be more specific, when you stimulate your genitals, your brain sends a signal to your limbic system.

The limbic system is responsible for memory and fantasies. This explains why you suddenly think of sex with your ex or the hot chic next door, right after you orgasm.

Other parts of the brain that lights up when you orgasm are the anterior cingulate cortex and the insular cortex, which respond to painful sex like BDSM.

When these hormones light up in response to pleasure, it’s possible that they can help inhibit pain sensations. This explains why you don’t feel pain during rough sex.

The most interesting and fun part about having an orgasm blast is the response you get from the release of oxytocin and dopamine. These hormones activate feelings of bonding and reward respectively. They make you feel calm, loved, and incredibly wonderful.

Oxytocin gives us that warm and fuzzy feeling after orgasms that make many of us want to nap, snuggle, or get comfy. It makes you feel connected or attached to the person you had sex with.

While dopamine gives us the feeling of a euphoric reward. It makes us feel like we have achieved something wonderful, like winning the lottery.

After orgasm, there is a rapid cooling off in all areas of the brain. In men, the brain may want more sex or intimate connections. So to give you a good idea of what men really crave after orgasm, continue reading till the end.

They like to hear you talk dirty about their performance

Have you been looking for a way to tell your man how great he is in bed? Now will be the best time to do so.

Men like to hear how they pleased you because is an ego boost. You can begin by telling him what he did during sex that turned you on.

Then tell him you would like to try it on him next time. This will keep him thinking about your naughty mind long after you’ve left the room.

They want to share a hot bath with you

Are you the woman who likes to run into the shower alone right after sex? It’s time you stopped that bad habit.

Sex can be messy so if you want to shower and wash off all of the fluids and sweat, go for it, but don’t wash off by yourself.

Men look forward to showering together after a hot intoxicating sex. Because it’s an opportunity to be physically close to each other and prolong the post-orgasm flush the sex session.

They want you wrapped up in their arms naked

To women who are quick to cover up their bodies after sex, you have no idea what you are missing. Cuddling can help keep you aroused for another round.

Remember oxytocin, which I mentioned earlier? It’s also known as the “love hormone” or the “cuddle hormone” and helps you bond with your lover, boyfriend, or husband.

Cuddling up forges intimacy and can help you associate positive feelings with a person or a situation.

They need a moment to feel the sensations rushing through their body

If you’ve ever thought your orgasm drove you “out of your mind,” you’re not actually that far off. This is because the lateral orbitofrontal cortex actually shuts down during orgasm.

The lateral orbitofrontal cortex is the section behind the left eye responsible for sound decision-making.

So when it’s turned off, he cannot process any logical reasoning until it’s switched on again when his brain is calmer.

Give him kisses, lots of it

Just because the sex is over doesn’t mean you should stop making out. I know you are probably thinking, “I can’t. I’m too tired.”

Well, you probably are, especially after a second round or a third, but kissing after sex is known to relax the muscles. Yes, sex is an exercise and you want to feel less tired afterward.

Men crave kisses after sex because the testosterone is still raging like an untamed beast. So instead of hitting the kitchen for food, go for more kisses. It may not stop the hunger, but it will help build an emotional connection between you two.


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Jessey Anthony is a motivational speaker, fitness coach and relationship expert who helps people become confident in themselves in any challenges they face in life. Sign up to my newsletter & more cool stuff.

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  • Kamran Mehmood 2 years ago

    look like you have degree in sexology, lol. by the way nice information for girls.

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