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You Need A Virgo In Your Life
"Just like a Virgo" when I hear people say that I don't know if I should cringe with disgust or smile with pride. I guess it depends on who the messenger. I call being born in September the "sweet spot" where Summer is coming to an end and where fall begins. It has a feeling of warmth, leaves, and hot chocolate. If I told you that being a Virgo is the best sign on the astrological chart, would you believe me? Without the Virgo, you wouldn't have amazing people like Beyoncé, Michael Jackson, Kobe Bryant, Idris Elba, Nick Jonas, Keke Palmer, Zendaya Keanu Reeves, to name a few. These eclectic human beings have made a significant impact in the world of entertainment. I am lucky to be in a class full of hard-working people. So, it saddens me when I see threads on Twitter listing Virgo as the worst sign to date. I'm not here to highlight the negatives like people-pleasing and perfectionism. I'm here to tell you why you need one in your life.
Mystery Man In A Suit
After sitting at my computer for hours on zoom calls, my body's bones started to get stiff like cement. I slowly got up from the table to move around, but every step became harder. At that moment, I promised myself to take more breaks and stand up every twenty minutes. My name is Frida Kahlo Davis, named after the famous painter Frida Kahlo. I'm a contributor to the lifestyle blog "Finding Your Light," my schedule can get hectic during the holidays. Companies tend to reach out to me for listicle articles such as "The top 5 Affordable Gifts This Year" or "Eight Ways to Deal with Your In-Laws During The Holiday Season." With the pandemic in full force, companies that I once worked with decided to cut their staff, including my freelance writer position. Over the past several months, I've had to make some sacrifices; I've found myself using candles as my primary source of light, eating noodles, and reading more books after getting rid of cable and streaming services. My stress levels have been too high, and I'm losing lots of sleep.
Attack Of The Furballs
Picture this: you are one of the wealthiest people in the world, and an army of rabbits attacks you. What if I told you that happened? What's scary about the internet is that it never sleeps. Information on the world wide web is endless. You can go from who won the presidential election to watching Mukbangs. When the Vocal Curation Team asked me if I would be interested in participating in this topic, I immediately said yes. One of my goals as a writer this year is to challenge myself more and not be complacent about different topics. Although I didn't know the TIL subreddit trend, I went to my trusted source Google to see what I can find. When I read that rabbits attacked Napoleon Bonaparte, I laughed. I couldn't believe what I was reading.
I Put My Thing Down, Flip It, And Reverse It
"I want to say one thing to the writers, to the upcoming writers, 'Do not give up.' We all go through writer's block. Sometimes you [..]have to walk away from a record and come back to it. But don't give up because I'm standing here. And this is big for hip-hop, too."-2019 Songwriters Hall of Fame
Labeled As Queen Mother
As a woman in her thirties, sometimes I sit back and wonder why I can't seem to make friends as an adult. I think I'm just as friendly as the next person when it comes to meeting people. I've allowed my introverted behavior to take a backseat and allowed myself to open up to others. But, after a couple of months, those friendships will fizzle out. After conversations with my therapist and self-reflection, I've finally taken accountability for my role in these friendships. I can't help that I have the prowess of motherly instincts and having everyone's best interest at heart. My concern for others has led to distance and disassociation. In the 21st century, I never thought that that would be considered a negative.
Unpopular Opinion: F*ck Your Writer Rules
If you've been on Vocal long enough, you ever so often come across an article on how to become a successful writer. Topics "How I Made A Million Dollars Writing About Cats." In the beginning, I attempted to follow these articles like a handbook but, I noticed that I started to lose who I am as a writer. People often slid in my DMs with questions on becoming a better writer and what they should be doing. I don't know what to tell them. I didn't follow any rules; I just started writing. Whatever stuck on the wall is what I tend to write about, and what I mean by that is I write what's on my heart. I want to be a successful writer, and I want millions of people to read and respect my work. Every once in a while, I have to remind myself why I'm writing in the first place. I've joined a handful of Writer's Clubs on Facebook and the internet. I haven't been delighted with what I've seen thus far, which is why I created the Vocal Creators Saloon Facebook group. What I may say might piss many people off, and to that, I say GOOD. This article is about my unpopular opinion on the matter.
Access Denied: Blocked By A Vocal Creators Facebook Group Admin
Jealousy is the fear or apprehension of superiority: envy our uneasiness under it. -William Shenstone Disclaimer: Under Vocal's Community Guidelines, names are kept anonymous
Solo On Valentine's Day?
Let's face it Valentine's Day is a holiday catered to women. If Christmas wasn't enough, it's the ultimate litmus test for spouses and gift-giving. The size of the gift somehow equivalents to how much women are loved. I think it's time to change that narrative. It's also a day for single women to wish they had someone special in their lives. February 14th isn't a day to sulk, to reach out to old exes, to swipe through social media with jealousy and envy. Last year I posted an article dedicated to self-care practices. Consider this self-care 2.0. In honor of black history month, I decided to curate a list of ways to indulge in self-care while supporting black businesses for women by women for Valentine's Day.