I've never been asked what I wanted to do for Valentine's Day. I do assume, though, that it's a stereotypical novelty for the events of Valentine's Day to be a bit of a surprise each year. We mind-read a lot on V-Day, and while the men of the world grace us women with roses and chocolates each year, we women continue to wonder what is an acceptable gift for the men in our lives. Now this is not to say that roses and chocolates are the only acceptable gifts to give a woman on February 14. The truth is that there is no male equivalent for women to default to. Can't do ties, those are for Father's Day. A shaving kit... should that be more of a necessity? Will he think I'm trying to send him a message? It's a never-ending struggle to find a gift for your man to show him how much you love him. So I went on a bit of an internet-fueled hunt to find out if there were really any solid answers to what men wanted for Valentine's Day. I eventually stumbled upon this Reddit thread that shared a lot of great tips from men themselves about what the perfect V-Day gift is to them. Naturally, as a woman, I curiously cruised through the entire list. (oops-kinda.)If you are still unsure what the wonderful man of your life would like to receive this V-Day, I have some good news: they probably don't want anything at all. To confirm, here are replies from ten men on Reddit about what they're hoping for this February 14:
Yes yes, we know, Valentine's Day sucks when you're single. You succumb to the scrutiny of your mother every year around this time about grandchildren and when she is going to get any. The glowing reality of red hearts and pink roses are everywhere, reminding you that you're still, after a number of failed attempts at love, very, very single. Or perhaps it was a choice—then by all means! But it doesn't mean that Valentine's Day will be any less frustrating.
So it's almost Valentine's Day again. The day that society pressures the boyfriends of the world to spend the amount of how much they really love you, while simultaneously pressuring the girlfriends of the world to post the cheesiest, category-red-'est photos on their social media pages to the judgment of their peers and social media followers.
So last year you did a classic: roses and chocolates. The year before that you got her a pretty bottle of her favorite perfume and a nice candlelit dinner. And the year before that was home baked cookies and a box of lingerie. You're running out of ideas and there is only a week left before you're expected to do it all over again... well not to fear, my friend. If you're looking for something a bit more creative and out-of-the-box but still ridiculously romantic, try something from this list. They're sure to bring a bit more personality to your gift-giving this Valentine's Day.
Many people consider relationships as 'having found their other half'. We go from being whole to being half of something, a complete person only when we are with someone else. We allow our minds to be content with the fact that our lives are not truly our own, and that the ultimate definition of love is to forgo part of yourself with someone else by choice, believing that our lives are enhanced by the presence of something foreign to you. I am by no means an expert in the love department. I've had my fair share of boyfriends who have cheated on me, broken up with me, discovered their sexuality with me and even given the v-card by a boy I loved who trusted that I would know what to do. Even then, I am no love expert. What I do know is that while none of the men in my past have much in common with one another, there is still one deep, underlying fact that remains the same: our relationships eventually ended because we succumbed to self-abandonment in some way, shape or form.The honest definition of self-abandonment is to allow your true self to lie dormant in your relationship emotionally, physically, mentally, financially, spiritually and even socially, which opens the door for your partner to be responsible for you as a person.
Valentine's Day: The time of year when the universe celebrates the obvious timely successes of Purdys, Hallmark, and Kleenex. In the advanced world of social media, it is this such once-a-year date that V-Day stomps into our lives with its Godzilla-sized foot, putting its scaly pressure on the boyfriends of the world to get their sh*t together without the help of Netflix-and-Procrastination, while the girlfriends of the world are pushed to post their cheesiest, most red-heart-filled photos showing just how in love they are with their masculine counterparts. Now, we all know how difficult it can be to navigate the dangerous waters of Valentine's Day. So, to make everyone's lives just a bit easier and perhaps also to prepare you for what's in store this chocolate-decorated season, I've compiled an organized list of creatures you might come across this V-Day for you to keep an eye on. Bonus points if you can spot one of each this 14th of Feb.