Bailey (BayLee) Elease

When you see her

Sunset caressed my face

I began relaxing my hair about 10 or 11 years ago. Getting a relaxer in my hair was totally an accident. One day I had went to get my hair done and the hair assistant put the wrong product in my hair, surprisingly enough my hair didn't fall out thankfully and did I forget to mention I already had a hair softener in my hair. So, I haven't seen my natural hair in a very long time. For those who don’t know the difference in chemicals the softener softens and loosen tough natural hair while a relaxer completely straightens the hair.

Mom once told me

This one is for both parents and children who have experienced separation/divorce. See, I myself come from what some would call a "broken home". My parents split when I was young, I won’t go into detail about how it went down, but I will talk about the effects it has on a child and how it rolls into their adult life based of my own experiences. Sometimes there are signs these things are going to happen, parents constantly fighting, not many happy moments shared together towards the end and a lot of wondering where the other parent is. Children know and are more aware than you may think. They repeat the things they think are normal behavior, they hide the things they know they maybe should not have heard, it’s inevitable we can’t shelter kids from everything even though sometimes we think we are. So, I’m going to list the four things that stuck with me and I feel is the most important to remember within a newly separated home.

With my experience it creeps up on you at the weirdest of times. When you first wake in the morning, when you are watching a movie, driving, simply having a conversation, 3 o’clock in the morning and honestly it sucks. It’s like this uninvited acquaintance that you don't want to show up at the party. It’s the ex that won’t stop knocking on your door. It’s all your insecurities in a bubble waiting to explode.