We live in a time where women are particularly open about their periods, either through an abject desire to make the world listen, or just because they’re so used to them that it doesn’t cross their minds to be discreet. So, why, if this is the case, are so many men so afraid of one of the most natural occurrences when it comes to the female body?
I had come out to my best friend months earlier when I first turned 21, but kept it from my parents until I was a few months from moving to New Zealand in case they reacted negatively. I can feel my heart in my throat beating like a drum in my ears and my whole face and ears feel warm as I slide up to the breakfast bar in front of the kitchen.
You know PornHub, but for the sake of appearances let's say this is the first time you've ever heard of the site. It is, hands down, one of the biggest, most popular porn sites on the internet. We're talking more than 78 billion views in 2014 (which was about 5,800 views per second, in case you were curious) kind of popular. In fact, the site has so much traffic that when Fallout 4 wanted to brag about how popular it was, it cited the fact that it had dropped PornHub's traffic by 10 percent on release day.
NoFap: a movement to abstain from porn and masturbation. The premise is simple, porn affects our brains, it warps our view on sexuality and derails our lives. Through masturbating to porn we program our brains to be stimulated by porn’s pixilated titillations and, as a result, the brain becomes desensitized to real sexual stimulation. Over time the need for porn increases, ten minutes grows to an hour and so on. What was once appealing becomes boring, resulting in the porn user watching more extreme sexual films. Through abstaining, Fapstronauts, as they are known, undergo a“reboot.” Rebooting describes the “rewiring” of the brain through abstinence.
Pornographic movies were once shown as a “part-comic, part-serious” tool to educate soon-to-be-married men. Today, pornography has become a $56 billion industry. Overall, the increase in accessibility of pornography in the 1960s and 1970s was detrimental for society because it led to an increase in infidelity and sexual violence.