Why Isn’t It Easy for Some People To Be Happy and Not Others?

Let me begin with a short story about a dog and the house of mirrors

It was the day off at a theme park in New York. Among other joy rides and ghost houses, there was a house of mirrors. It was very unique as it was filled with mirrors of different sizes and shapes on all sides. When I say filled, I mean the ceiling as well.

A street dog that dwells in the theme park somehow made it inside the house of mirrors. He went through the narrow entrance into the wide main area full of mirrors.

He was in shock, seeing his reflection in every mirror he turned to. He stood frozen in utter surprise in the middle of the area. He could see a whole pack of dogs surrounding him on all sides. He started moving and so did the dogs. He moved closer to the mirrors and the other dogs came closer.

He was outraged and panicked at the same time. He bared his teeth and barked at all the reflections. The reflections reciprocated the message. Frightened, the dog barked frantically, and again the dog’s many reflections imitated it and increased the effect several folds.

The dog barked even louder with all his strength, and the echo was magnified as it was a closed room. The dog ran to each and every reflection of his and started a brawl. He did that with all the other hundreds of reflections. It drove him crazy and he acted like an aggressive maniac.

The next morning, the security guard who opened the house of mirrors found a miserable, tired and exhausted dog surrounded by thousands of reflections of the miserable and exhausted dog. Nobody really harmed or physically abused the dog. He almost killed himself by fighting his own reflections.

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Now let’s replace the dog with us, me or you, and the mirrors to the world we live in. So, mirrors are people living with us.

In our world, if we smile at others, we will get the same response, at least most of the time. If we frown, we will certainly get frowned back.

To happy and positive people, their world and the people they attract and have in their lives will appear happy and positive. To someone who thinks negatively and constantly finds fault in others, the world around them and the kind of people they attract and have in their lives would appear sad and negative.

The irony here is happy, optimistic people don’t really notice these as they are busy being happy and positive. They live a life with others who are also happy and positive. They can only attract positive people by nature. Happiness is a positive emotion and so there’s no debate about why one should be happy and positive.

Birds of the same feather fly together

Negative thinking, pessimistic people are sad and depressed most of the time. They live a life with others who are also just like them. They can only attract negative people in their lives, be it friends, dates, spouses. Even if they accidentally attract a positive person, they will have a fallout in no time. This is so true and I can vouch for it.

Sadness and negativity are negative emotions and negative people can feel them very well. They know they are sad and miserable, even without anyone telling them so. They suffer but find it difficult to overcome their addicted state of mind.

Smiling in the mirror comes easily to positive, happy people. They are hardwired that way. The same cannot be said about a negative, sad person. Faking a smile is an option, but it won’t give real satisfaction.

Life is an echo. What you send out comes back. What you sow, you reap. What you give, you get. What you see in others exists in you. — Zig Zaglar

So the only way to overcome a negative person’s eternal suffering is to understand that everything good or bad starts within a person.

No magic tricks, wellness techniques, spiritual practices would be of any real help here. You may have already tried some of them. I mean, they are all good and exciting, but when you are done with them, how do you feel after a day or two?

Did they change you for good?

Did it transform you into an easy-going, positive person?

If you want to be happy, you must get out of the gutter of negativity and negative people and push yourself out of your comfort zone time and time again.

There’s no other way.

It’s very similar to quitting smoking. Being sad and negative is an addiction that needs to be overcome by thoughtful planning and execution.

In a way, learning to be happy and positive is also similar to losing body fat.

To lose fat, you have to eat right and stop eating junk.

Your brain will try all kinds of crazy tricks to make you give up and go back to eating junk.

In both cases, it’s a fight that has to be fought with your own brain.

Now, alongside doing the above, you may certainly try out other things like yoga, spa, spiritual practices, meditation, massage, healthy morning and evening routines, and so on. These will only help after you’ve made up your mind to be happy by thinking and acting differently. Here you are treating the root cause of a disease and not just the symptoms.

Some exercise, a good diet, and quality sleep will also certainly help along the way to facilitate the process of learning to be happy. But the most important thing to remember is to change the way you think and act, time and time again, until happiness becomes you and you become happiness.

Nothing good or bad happens by accident in the world. A person’s thoughts, feelings, wishes, and deeds are all reflected in the world around them. The entire world serves as a big mirror. So, let’s get into position and strike a nice pose!

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