The mother's mood is stable, the father's three views are positive, the child knows gratitude

"A good family is the root of all happiness and strength."

Walking in the world, home, is the foundation of a person, is the source of all the confidence in life.

People live a lifetime, the greatest happiness is: to be born in a home full of laughter, to be longer than a family with good doors, to be in a home can always rely on.

After the age of 40, I understand: an emotional stability of the mother, a very positive father, a grateful child, is better than thousands of wealth.

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Mother in a steady mood, the family will not be scattered

British writer Lori Lee once recalled the past in Rosie and the Cider:

"Although it was the end of the First World War and social unrest, in my childhood memory, the seasons were full of joy.

All because I had a mother who was strong and optimistic no matter what."

Admittedly, the mother's mood, to a great extent, affects the growth of children, but also determine the temperature of a home.

An optimistic mother, always can make the home full of vitality, let the child always see the hope of life.

A mother full of anger, always let the family clouds gather, let the child grow up in worry and fear.

Just like the tragic story in the movie "Ten Thousand Arrows Through the Heart" :

After Li Baoli and her husband Ma Xuewu marry, the Ma Xuewu of rural origin is despised all the time.

In her eyes, her husband is not worthy of her, let alone deserve to be treated well.

When chatting with friends, she would complain: "I chose him as a countryman, with my appearance, he why not treat me well."

In front of outsiders, she will also swear at her husband: "You are really cheap!"

On a weekday, any small thing would become her emotional fuse, the family is always filled with abuse.

Day after day of repression, Ma Xuewu unbearable divorce, then derailed female colleagues.

That her husband betrayed him, Li Baoli reported Ma Xuewu in a rage, because of this move, Ma Xuewu laid off, not long before he jumped into the river to commit suicide.

After her husband passed away, Li Baoli supported the family by carrying a pole for more than a decade.

Many years later, her son became the top scorer in the college entrance examination. Just when she thought that she had finally come out of her hardship, her son proposed to sever ties with her.

Because in his son's eyes, it was Li Baoli who killed his father and destroyed the originally happy family.

Looking closely at Li Baoli's life, it seems that she has been experiencing "ten thousand arrows piercing her heart" all the time.

When her husband is around, her knife and mouth and bad temper are like arrows in life, which may hurt herself at any time.

After her husband left, her heart was always being stung by "ten thousand arrows", without half a chance to breathe.

In a family, the mother's mood is stable, the family can feel relaxed and happy, get along with will not have negative tired.

Mo Yan once mentioned in his article "Mother" :

"What I can't forget is that my mother, with her sad face, was humming a little song while she was working hard!"

Mo Yan's mother's open-minded and positive attitude towards life has been a profound influence on Mo Yan, making him dare to try and become a better person.

It is also because of the strength given by his mother that he not only made great achievements in the literary world, but also had a harmonious and beautiful family.

Mother control their own emotions, is a good grasp of the family feng shui.

In every happy family, there will be a good-tempered mother, and a warm heart temperature forever.

Mother's gentleness, is the soul of the home; Mother's smile, is the energy of the family.

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Father three view is, the home will not mess

Some time ago, a piece of news caused a hot discussion on the Internet.

Under the hot sun in Xianning, Hubei province, a father takes his 11-year-old daughter to dig lotus roots in a river.

The reason for his decision was that his rebellious daughter refused to study hard and talked back to the teacher.

Therefore, he would like to take this opportunity to let the child understand: you do not eat the pain of reading, you must eat the pain of life.

Four hours of exposure to the sun, the child's blush, some places are also exposed to peeling, although the father is very distressed, but also can only hold back.

Father said, hope to improve the child's cognitive level, let her know the importance of reading, reading is just bitter for a while, and the bitter life may be bitter for a lifetime.

After her father's instruction, the girl finally woke up and decided to study hard from now on.

Some people say that a father with three views is the leader of his children's growth and the core of a stable family.

Father three view is, the child's road will not go crooked, the road of life will go more and more real.

The thinker Montaigne famously said:

"As a father, the greatest pleasure is: in his lifetime, can be based on their own path to educate children."

If a man has a good outlook, his children can be taught by good words and deeds and become an excellent person. His wife can gain security and feel full of happiness; His family has the strength to rely on.

In the hit drama "Worldly", Zhou's old father is such a presence.

When Zhou Bingyi became mayor, he said to his brother Bingkun, "My father doesn't care about the high and low officials, he only cares about how well things are done."

In the eyes of the public, Zhou Fu work principles, work diligently, honest and kind.

His attitude to others has also influenced the three children of Zhou's family, so that the children are on a bright road.

Later, Bingkun becomes a father, and the quality of these precious to the son Zhou Nan, teach him to live up to his conscience.

Father, is the pillar of a family, only the pillar is stable enough, the family will not mess.

The more correct the father's three views, the more outstanding the children, the family tradition can be passed down from generation to generation, the family can accumulate more blessings.

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Children know how to be grateful, the family can thrive

Philosophic said.

"Life needs to be created by a grateful heart, and a grateful heart needs to be nourished by life."

Gratitude, is a person's most basic education, is an indispensable part of family education.

Really promising children, are grateful.

A few years ago, a student named Pang Zhongwang was so popular on the Internet with his score of 744 that the president of Tsinghua University even led a team to pick him up at home.

When they arrived at Pang's home, they learned that Pang's family was very poor, with his mother in a wheelchair and his father suffering from mental illness.

The yard is filled with all kinds of old cardboard and bottles, and the house does not even have a table, only two beds.

See this situation this scene, the headmaster Qiu Yong heart a burst of bitterness, call this child is too not easy.

But when Pang Zhongwang mentions family circumstance and family, never had a complaint however.

When he was young, he had congenital heart disease, his mother in order to treat him, looking for people to borrow money, owe a large debt.

Even though the family was poor, his parents never wanted to give him up, and he always remembered the love from his family.

Parents pay for his efforts, he saw in the eyes, so he would like to through their own efforts, study hard, repay the parents' kindness.

His parents could not do heavy work because of physical reasons, so every morning, he would get up early and finish the housework first, prepare meals for his mother, and then go out to school.

At an age when other children are playing, he can single-handedly support the weight of a family.

During the interview, Pang smiled at the camera and said:

"I don't feel like there's anything about my family that I can't give away.

My mother is so good, my grandparents are so good, everyone in my family is so good, I don't feel they give me shame.

On the contrary, I think people should envy me."

As the saying goes: Raise a grateful child, is a family's deepest blessing.

A child with love in his heart is better than a perfect score. Children have a grateful heart, more important than intelligence.

People who know how to be grateful will cherish everything they get, love their closest family members, and harvest all the good things in the world.

A luxurious house, an expensive car, are not as good as to cultivate a grateful child.

Heart has grace, life is blessed. Children know how to be grateful, and the family will naturally thrive and be happy for a long time.

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Sun Qifeng, a neo-Confucianism scholar in the late Ming and early Qing Dynasties, once said:

"The ups and downs of a family's fortune cannot be exercised by heaven, nor by man, but by himself."

Mother emotional stability, family happy; Father three view is, family style will be good; Children know how to be grateful, no matter how poor they are, they can become rich.

A prosperous home and a prosperous life, a prosperous person and everything. Even if you don't have a lot of money, life can still be interesting.

May your home be prosperous and enduring, and the rest of your life and family together, to manage life into the best shape.