Teach you to get out of low self-esteem

The inferiority complex at that moment

1. the first meeting, always feel that they are not good enough.

2. the more you like someone you like, the more you are afraid of them.

3. always feel that it's not my turn to win awards and places

4. "Settling for the status quo", "I think this is fine"

5. always in denial, feeling their worthlessness.

6. feeling very nervous when problems arise.

7. always making mistakes and always saying sorry.

8. likes to pretend and show off himself.

9. spraying and blowing up at the drop of a hat.

10. extreme narcissism, feel that they are unbeatable.

Low self-esteem will make you

1. avoid fear

Not as good as others - fear - escape;

2. Pretend not to care

The more you pretend not to care, in fact, the more you care in your heart. Because you have low self-esteem, you are too embarrassed to say, afraid to express.

3. Attack to cover up

I ask you, in addition to touching the bottom line will make you angry situation, you are cursing, hitting, and attacking others at the moment, is not your heart the most false time?

This is pretending to be a wolf, a way of self-protection, pretending to be very powerful, pretending to be able to attack people, hoping that through these appearances to their hearts "false" to hide so that they are subject to the minimum value of harm.

Low self-esteem, is biological nature, and can not be removed, but to come out

1. Core: biological reward mechanism

Countless times mentioned this word - biological incentives.

People to enhance self-confidence, playing chicken blood, and shouting slogans will never work, and not simply a few skills can be obtained.

For one mechanism, we have to use another to overcome: the self-defense mechanism of low self-esteem - the biological reward mechanism of self-confidence.

In everything, you can get a little progress, a little gain. You don't need to make big progress, just a little bit, slowly accumulate, you will regain self-confidence and rebuild your self-improvement ability. The biological reward mechanism is the most important way to fight against low self-esteem and build self-confidence.

2. The first condition: is the ability to improve

Do not let yourself become both an inferior and incompetent person.

Inferiority complex is an abyss, you fall into it, out or not, depending on your ability, your ability is your ability to climb out of the abyss of the ladder, you have a few levels of ability to climb a few levels, the higher the ability, the more you can climb out. If you fall into the abyss, their incompetence, I'm sorry, you'll always stay inside it. No one can help you.

3. Self-worth system to establish

In the biological reward mechanism, you get some benefits, taste some sweets, you and encourage yourself to go forward, this is also the process of the self-worth system to build, in the solution to the problem, and no longer use emotions to guide their behavior. No longer caring whether others pay attention to you, whether you care about yourself, or whether you like yourself, will produce self-certification behavior, to be able to find your value.

For example, if you say you're not liked, you don't have money, can't you have a talent? You can play the guitar and bring joy and happiness to people at parties, and people won't like you? This is self-worth.

You think you have value only when you have money, that is your value system is wrong. Can play the guitar, can draw, can cook, can tell jokes, this is the existence of a person's self-worth form.

4. Improve interpersonal relationships

People are social animals, to change low self-esteem, you must improve interpersonal relationships, more friends, more opportunities, and more forms of interdependence, in this case, you can improve your self-confidence.

Because people are like this, people's sense of value comes from others, when everyone likes you, you are confident? When everyone is around you, are you confident? To improving, interpersonal relationships are also the main way out of low self-esteem. Don't listen to people say what a person alone is normal nonsense, to see what kind of people are saying that kind of words, they all know the happiness of good relationships?

5. Think better, more rational

Many times, people have low self-esteem because they can't think about things, and can't see through, so they like to use emotion to get angry, fight with people, and use emotion to express everything.

But rational people, are not so inferior, they know how to use rational thinking to solve problems.

Faced with problems, when you remove emotions, with rational thinking and acting, you will find that things will be much simpler than you think to solve.

You can change yourself, but if you choose to continue to fall into the abyss, then no one can help you.

We don't need to prove ourselves, we are all ourselves, we just need to know ourselves, change ourselves, get out of low self-esteem, and usher in a new life.