Receiver or exchanger

To complement the post about the faces of the relationship and the opposites to the comment, today I would like to discuss "acceptance".

So, should you accept or be a exchanger? The following is purely my interesting point of view, which is strongly influenced by Access' insights. Namely, in the case of the term "exchanger", starts a film about a person who has something but no longer needs it and exchanges it for something he needs. In itself, completely normal behavior by an economically thinking person.

But the relationship is not a mechanism for economic gain. Yes, I agree with people who say that if a relationship doesn't help you live financially secure, then it shouldn't exist at all. However, in order to enable this economic well-being, in a relationship, a synergy both energetically and physically, must first be created, which makes it possible for money energy to flow into this relationship.

In other words, a partnership where the partners jointly contribute to this so-called love bank, a common love account, so that there is a perception and feeling of abundance.

From here I come to the next term - "Receiver". How often do we think that giving is enough? To give love, to share it wherever we see that there is an opportunity to give. Where is the hole to stuff it. At the same time, without thinking whether this giving is really needed where we give it. Here comes an important ability. Ability to receive. There are a lot of people who are now grumbling that somehow, “just give me the big bucks, I'll take it all. Pamper me and I will accept it all!” Still sure it's an acceptance? Or is it more like a demand? “You MUST give it to me!”

In order to really understand what self-acceptance means, it makes sense to start observing how people react to a simple saying, "Thank you", then to something that the "giver" doesn't even consider to be anything, and does/is/gives. With what answers do we "treat" our thanksgivers? How often can we ACCEPT gratitude? What do we say when we are thanked?

Based on my life experience and observing the behavior of many people, I can say that actually this "acceptance" is a much more difficult topic than we dare to admit to ourselves. We have been taught not to show off. Therefore, when someone praises or thanks us, we MUST respond by reducing our part - "Oh, what about that, that wasn't hard at all!" "It didn't take away from me!" "Ohh, it was nothing!". But in fact, WE PUSH BACK what the other WANTS to GIVE us. To begin with, a simple thank you. The energy he feels at that moment and WANTS TO SHARE WITH US. But we can't accept this the least.

And then, having closed the "door" through which abundance and well-being would flow to us, we are unhappy and don't understand why we don't get what we want or need.

A little bit from the other side, that is, the one who gives and shares, he can no longer be the recipient either - being the giver, because this giving was canceled by us, and in the energetic sense, the shipment did not have the recipient's address, which simply took this Energy to the trash. Leaving an empty feeling in the air. Of course, all this does not mean that we should now start accepting the "gifts" of "benevolent" aunts and uncles, i.e. "living the lives of others", but the matter is actually rather easier (or harder), we have to learn to value what who we are and what we actually do. This really sincerely and WITHOUT DEMANDING that others notice it. In other words, one big stone on this road is thinking that if we do/be something, others MUST see and acknowledge it.

This entire train of thought may seem complicated and sprawling at first glance, but it is only a slight surface scratch of the topic, which will take at least a week to explain, because in order to UNDERSTAND all of this, you need to perceive it within yourself. However, this requires so-called practical experience. But if you have already discovered this first step for yourself (accepting the other's gratitude for your actions/being/words), then it will all fall into place much more clearly.🙂

Elle Vihman From Time YEAR 2016, 4. SEPTEMBER.