Psychological pressure is too great, in fact, is caused by individual with their own

Always contend with their own strength, how can your psychological pressure not big!

Psychological pressure is a double-edged sword: a certain degree of pressure can stimulate our potential, which is conducive to our growth. However, if the psychological pressure exceeds a certain degree, it is not only detrimental to our growth, but will form personality disorders. Beyond a certain level of psychological pressure, will constantly wear down our will, is a hindrance to our growth. Some people think that pressure is motivation, in this kind of self-limiting thinking, restrict our creativity. The road that you can't walk may be the wrong road for you. If you had been flexible and taken a different path, you could have made a big difference. If you insist that stress is motivation, you will fall into the trap of thinking, and continue to frustrate, continue to undermine your confidence.

The psychological pressure of what degree, be a kind of kill to volition?

A persistent feeling of suffocation

If your inner pressure causes you to have persistent difficulty breathing, or even a sense of suffocation, then the pressure has gone beyond its proper limit. Moderate psychological stress, will not produce a sense of suffocation, but can provide us with internal motivation. If you're choking for more than three months, you're under more stress than you need to grow. People in such a state, cognition will become narrow, emotional loss of elasticity, even action will become tied. Because you're afraid of making a mistake, and you can't accept it in your heart. So you get into catastrophic thinking, and you scare yourself, and the stress increases exponentially.

Full of worry and fear

When psychological stress comes, if you are filled with worry and fear, and it lasts for at least three months, the stress is beyond the normal level of growth. Beneficial to the growth of psychological pressure, is not so much a kind of pressure as a kind of spontaneous force. We don't worry and fear about normal stress because it is good for us. It's like, I'm going to go over this mountain. This is an individual's spontaneous behavior, indicating that individuals take the initiative to meet challenges and difficulties. Although full of stress, there is no worry or fear for the individual. On the contrary, passively coping with external pressure affects the inner heart of the individual beyond the extent needed for growth.

Unable to handle daily tasks

When psychological stress sets in and causes you to be unable to perform daily tasks, it shows that the stress exceeds the need for growth. When people are under psychological stress, they can't eat, sleep, or even get distracted at work or study. As a beneficial pressure to the individual, itself should not prevent the individual's development needs. In other words, moderate psychological stress should be a support for oneself, not a hindrance. If the psychological pressure to their own obstruction, it means that the psychological pressure is too great, beyond the extent of health. Our effort to distinguish healthy psychological stress from unhealthy psychological stress is to let the reader understand that psychological stress beyond a certain limit is of no value to your growth.

The pressure to grow beyond your needs is actually competing with your abilities

vanity

"I can't let others look down on me, so I must not be worse than others." Vanity strong people, virtually increased too much psychological pressure. The problems they encounter are not big in themselves, because vanity is so strong that negative emotions are brewing inside. I keep telling myself that I can't do worse than others, or I will be looked down upon by others. But from another point of view, why should anyone else have to do worse than you? Only by breaking the inner vanity, can we reduce the psychological pressure. To recognize the good in others, to accept the mediocre in yourself. If you are not willing to let go of vanity, then no matter how big the psychological pressure, in fact, with their own strength.

The pursuit of perfect

"I will never allow myself to make mistakes, or I will not be perfect." People who are stubborn in their pursuit of perfection are subconsciously unable to accept their bad side. Fundamentally, the internal pressure is formed, which constantly strikes the bad side of itself. No one is perfect. No one is perfect. A man who can't accept his bad side is like tearing himself in two. He can only accept his good side, for the bad side either negate, ignore, or suppress, strike. The result of tearing oneself apart for a long time is to fall into internal friction. Your stress doesn't come from the outside, it comes from within. Even if you're not in trouble, you're under a lot of pressure.

Rigid thinking

The so-called rigid thinking, colloquially speaking is "drill into the bull's corner", "hit the southern wall also do not know to turn back". We know that we should stick to some qualities, but if we look at the problem too stereotyped, we will form a rigid thinking. When we encounter problems, we should know how to be flexible, rather than a stubborn road to go black. Why do you feel so stressed? Because you feel like you have to. You feel that there is no other way out, and your narrow perception prevents you from seeing other options as effective. Rigid thinking is not only in action, but also in cognition. For example, as a doctoral student, life is already difficult, but it is unacceptable to deliver food. This is rigid thinking.

How do you avoid competing with yourself?

Psychological stress goes beyond the need for growth, which means you are competing with yourself. To avoid competing with yourself, accept yourself. To understand that they are not omnipotent, there are many things that can not be done; Know that you are not God and will make mistakes. To understand that you are not perfect, there is a good side, there is a mediocre side. To learn to accept all the results, whether everyday delicacies, or everyday basic food, can calmly accept. Don't feel too guilty about your inability to give your family happiness. You are not there for other people, even your parents, lovers, or children.

In short, how can a man who tries to lift himself by his ankles with his hands succeed? Don't take things so hard with yourself. Let it go.