"Night Reading" 4 Habits of a High Self-discipline

1. Make a conspicuous plan to get the habit out of the way.

Why do I always give up halfway after making a plan? Maybe the problem is the way you write your plan is too simplistic. Open your plan book and see if your plan is in this pattern: get up early, exercise for 30 minutes, read... There are so many, many lists. These are too simple and too many plans to motivate you to execute them at all.

My colleague, Sister Wang, is the company's "golden salesman" and is extremely self-disciplined in life. She starts reading at 5:30 every morning and prepares breakfast for her family at 6:00. Habit-forming, she says, is as simple as tweaking the plans listed to make them "conspicuous" enough.

That is, when making a plan, listing the specific time, place and things to be done can greatly improve the power of action.

2. Bind your preferences to make habits more attractive.

Read the story of a university professor. She wakes up at 4:30 every morning to read and take notes. Netizens wondered how she could persevere. The professor said: "I like reading very much and enjoy the process. Getting up early gives me more time to read, so getting up early on time is easy for me."

Anything, as long as you really like it, there is no need for external pressure, and you are willing to take the initiative to implement it. So, if you want to develop a good habit, you might as well tie it to one of your hobbies. Slowly, you will fall in love with the habit too.

3. It’s okay to walk slowly, keep the habit simple and easy.

The key to building good habits is execution, not how fast or how big a task can be accomplished. To get started, replace "30 minutes of reading" with "10 minutes of reading," and "40 minutes of running" with "put on your running shoes," and then add to yourself little by little. You will find that your reading time will be longer and longer, and your running motivation will be more and more sufficient.

There is a saying that goes well: "If you walk every day, you are not afraid of thousands of miles; if you do it often, you are not afraid of thousands of things." I would rather walk slowly than take a step back. No matter how long the road is, no matter how difficult it is, it is not worth taking a small step every day and doing one small thing well. On the road, even if it is a little slower, there must be a day to arrive.

4. Reward yourself and let good habits add up.

I once saw a young couple share their experience of developing frugal habits in the circle of friends. The newlyweds initially knew no cooking and often ordered takeout. Later, they found that some takeaways were expensive and unhealthy, so they wanted to quit takeout and learn to cook. They decided to open a public account called "tourism" and put a takeaway money into the account every time they started cooking. This not only helped them quit takeout and develop the habit of cooking, but the money accumulated over time and became a "huge sum" that could help them achieve many additional little surprises.

People tend to prefer "instant pleasure" to the sense of accomplishment that takes an "invisible" time. Reward yourself with a little reward every time you accomplish a small thing, which will make your brain remember the pleasant feeling in the moment and be happy to repeat it. In this cycle, good habits will slowly be formed.

5. Self-discipline is not about writing a bunch of plans to be implemented, but putting the plan in front of you more clearly; it is not forcing yourself, but skillfully superimposing habits to make you more willing to put it into action; it is not done overnight , but to do every little thing in a down-to-earth manner; not only the sense of accomplishment for being late, but also the "immediate reward" that makes you happy.

People say that if you can't bear the pain of self-discipline, you have to accept the sin of mediocrity. But in fact, as long as you develop good habits, self-discipline is not as hard as we think.

I like this sentence very much: "Don't chase a horse, use the time when chasing a horse to plant grass. When the spring flowers bloom, there will be a group of horses for you to choose."

Self-discipline is not the end, don't be impatient, start with the formation of every tiny habit, and wait for the spring to bloom. We encourage each other.