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My Addiction Didn't Start at 25. It Started at 14.
When we talk about addiction, we often talk about it from a safe distance. We use words like "weakness," "bad choice," "lack of willpower." We unconsciously separate ourselves from the people we call addicts, because we believe it could never happen to us. But life is rarely that simple. Sometimes the only difference between "us" and "them" is the substance a person reached for. Because some people seek relief in illegal substances, and others - in medication prescribed by a doctor. In both cases, however, the question that moves me is the same: What pain is this person trying to silence? I'm not writing this to diminish the role of medicine. On the contrary - professional help is often vital. But I believe that when we treat only the symptoms without turning to the causes, suffering simply changes its form. I know because I lived it. As a teenager, I didn't know I was living with constant anxiety. I didn't know most people don't feel continuous tension in their body. I didn't know inner chaos is not the natural state of a human being. For me, it was normal. By accident, I discovered that certain medications could silence that noise. Suddenly I was braver. Calmer. More confident in communication. Less consumed by family problems. For the first time I felt something I couldn't name back then. Today I know that feeling was inner peace. Those teenage experiments didn't lead to addiction. But they left a very strong memory in me - that somewhere, there is a way for the pain to stop. Ten years later, I found that same feeling in illegal substances. That's when I understood something that changed the way I look at addiction. My addiction didn't start at 25. It started at 14. Not with the first use. But with the first moment I believed that peace could come from the outside. Today I am convinced that real prevention starts long before the first cigarette, the first glass of alcohol, or the first drug. It starts with teaching children to recognize their emotions. To be able to say: "I'm scared," "I'm lonely," "I'm hurting," without being afraid of being judged or misunderstood. Because two children can experience the same situation in a completely different way. One will move on, the other will carry a wound for years. And every unacknowledged pain seeks a way to be soothed. Sometimes that way is healthy. Sometimes - it is not. My work with energy psychology, EFT and Matrix Reimprinting helped me look beyond the symptoms. To meet the causes I had avoided for a long time. I didn't find an enemy to wage war against. I found a wounded girl who was desperately seeking peace. And maybe that's exactly what I want to leave after this text. Not an excuse for addiction. But an invitation to start looking with less judgment and much more humanity. Because behind every addiction there is a story. And every story deserves to be heard first, before it is judged. I
By nataliq ivanova (Нати)2 months ago in Psyche
Marshmallow Test
Remember the famous Marshmallow Test? If you live in the US, your parents probably tried it on you at some point when you were a kid. It was a very popular experiment allegedly predicting that the children with higher levels of self-control will be more successful in their adult life. It was so influential that all books about raising children would discuss the importance of self-control and willpower and provide tips for developing them in kids.
By Lana V Lynx2 months ago in Psyche
The Relief of Death
Something that I don’t see a lot of people talking about is the relief that comes with death. Maybe its because we aren’t supposed to say it, just like mothers aren’t supposed to say yes, I love my children, but if I could do it again, I wouldn’t. There is an uncomfortable honesty that comes with both of these things, and so we just don’t say them. Because we are taught to not make other people uncomfortable and we are taught to keep the honesty in if it doesn’t match up with societal norms. And we are taught that death isn’t something we talk about, and feeling relieved that someone died is most certainly something that should be kept to yourself.
By Morgan Longford2 months ago in Psyche
