How to get along with others

For a long time, some people have been deeply troubled by the question, that is, how to get along with others? They get confused and then complain about their bad luck. God is not fair to them, making the circle of life around them too few good people to have satisfactory communication. In fact, it is mainly because there are many cognitive misunderstandings in the process of communication, that is, these misunderstandings to a certain extent, hinder the further development of interpersonal relationship. Understanding and staying away from these misunderstandings will help us learn how to communicate with others and build good relationships. These misunderstandings mainly include the following aspects:

Misconceptions about keeping your Word

The social interaction between people is based on mutual trust. People who don't keep their word can't find their place in society.

In the present real life, this kind of dishonest person is also very common. He promised to do it for you today, and then he couldn't even find his shadow; His promise to do it again tomorrow came to nothing. Over time, no one will pay for such a man.

Misunderstanding of self-centeredness

In interpersonal communication, some people only care about their own needs and interests from their own perspective, emphasize their own feelings, and treat others as tools to achieve their goals and satisfy their desires. They do not respect the value and personality of others and ignore their own situation and interests. Communication arrogance; Don't care about the situation or the mood of others when meeting your companions; Happy, talk, dance; When you're unhappy, you get frustrated or lose your temper. Such people lack a correct understanding of themselves in their interactions, and no matter how smart they are, they will never establish a strong, lasting, good interpersonal relationship with others. Only those who are kind-hearted, treat others sincerely and put themselves in others' shoes can make good friends.

The misunderstanding of anger

People have worldly desires, joys and sorrows, this is human nature. But if you get angry casually, you will hurt yourself and lose the trust between your friends. Random anger, forcing others to adapt to their own, or forcing their own opinions on others, itself is a kind of equal treatment of oneself and others of bad psychology, is a kind of disrespect for others, impolite behavior. Can suppress their emotions, is the process of rationality over sensibility; On the other hand, rationality happens to be the unique hallmark of a successful person.

A misunderstanding of loneliness and indifference

In real life, some people like to play it cool and deep, and tend to cover up their true thoughts, feelings and needs when interacting with others. In their eyes, everything in the world is so boring, boring, flat and meaningless. They tend to have an indifferent attitude to life, focusing only on their own inner experiences, and their behaviors and habits are sometimes difficult to understand. The fundamental reason why such people fail to communicate is that they have built up psychological barriers, closed themselves off and have no way to communicate with others. Therefore, only by increasing your "transparency", open your heart, and win the understanding of others with enthusiasm and candor, can you succeed in interpersonal communication.

A misunderstanding of paranoia and low self-esteem

In social interactions, some people lack a correct evaluation of themselves. To put it bluntly, they are not confident and have no confidence in themselves. For example, some people feel that their appearance lacks charm, and some people feel that they lack ability, which leads to inferiority. In fact, they are not necessarily unattractive, incompetent or low-achieving in their careers. On the contrary, they have too high or unrealistic expectations of themselves, are overly sensitive to the opinions of others, and always think that others look down on them. In their inner world, they despise themselves. They fear setbacks and failure, especially in front of leaders, strongmen or unreasonable people. They always feel overwhelmed, and sometimes they exhibit a kind of wariness and hostility. If it continues to develop, it will be artificially confined to the small circle of relatives and families, and some will have a world-weary mentality. Such a person must have a clear understanding of themselves, no matter who they interact with to be humble, neither to please others, nor to show off in front of others. Only in this way can we gradually eliminate the bad psychology of inferiority and paranoia, so as to obtain the true friendship.

The misunderstanding of hurtful words

A good word in winter is warm, a bad word in June hurts. It is very immoral to call people names. Not only should we not say it ourselves, but we should not spread it freely when we hear it. Why is the same sentence persuasive to some but not good for others? Rude and dismissive language will make people feel insulted, while arrogant and arrogant language will alienate you. Therefore, we should make good use of language as a tool of communication, and try our best to avoid insults that harm others' dignity, harm everyone's harmony, and affect unity and harmony.

The mistake of making a joke of other people's physical inadequacies

Whether on stage or in real life, people who like to make fun of other people's physical defects are inhuman villains. Because of some physical defects, these people with physical defects are filled with endless distress and sadness, which is also the reason why they are generally introverted. As a result of their physical disabilities, they bear a heavy burden on their spirit, which makes them pay more attention to their spiritual needs rather than material ones, and yearn more for sincere friendship and the respect, trust and equality of others. They are more likely to cause sadness or other emotions when they are laughed at, given the cold shoulder or treated unfairly by others. Because of this, they need more care, help, support and encouragement from others than ordinary people, so that they can see the value of life and feel the warmth of the big family.

I want to be liked by the people around me

No one is perfect without gold. Trying to be appreciated by everyone is itself a perfectionist interpersonal standard. In this world, no one can be loved and appreciated by all. Because we are surrounded by all kinds of people, each with different values and codes of conduct, it is impossible for people to meet everyone's requirements. It is very unrealistic for a person to be truly appreciated by all.

★ Meditation and Whispering:

Misunderstandings in communication often take away our peace of mind. Recognizing these misconceptions helps us to face everything calmly. A calm heart is like a tumbler's center of gravity, so that you will never fall, fall will stand up again.