How does the narcissist really feel about you?

They might act like they hate you and have no interest in you or anything you are doing. Deep down they love the way you look, they love your personality, they love everything about you. The problem is when they realize that these qualities cannot be theirs. Their love for you soon turns to hate and anger because they cannot be like you, they cannot do what you do or have done. They become envious of the attention and admiration you are receiving just from being you. If they cannot have these qualities which you possess, they will do whatever they can to destroy them. They will try to destroy you as a person. They will redefine you and rewrite your past. They use gas-lighting to make you doubt your own eyes, ears, and brain. They abuse you psychologically, emotionally, and sometimes even physically. This is all because they loved your qualities and you as a person so much. But then realized that your qualities could not be theirs, so now they want to destroy your qualities and you.

They are fueled by hate, anger, envy, and jealousy. When they were with us, they got lucky and they know it. That's why they had to manipulate and devalue us. Making us believe that we are not worthy of them. When the truth is they were not worthy of us. They already knew this, which is why they created a false personality, a false character. They only got with us because we were physically attracted to them, had status, money, power, charisma or anything else that they wanted, but did not have. We were like fashion accessories to them, tools to assist them in obtaining their narcissistic supply. After us they go back to their true standards, they go back to the hole where they belong. The reality of what they were before they met us. We were only attracted to them because as Empaths we are not shallow people. We look for people who honor honesty, loyalty, and trust. People who have genuine, loving personalities just like us. The narcissist mirrored us and showed us what we wanted to see in the beginning, so we were attracted to their false personalities. They manipulated us in the beginning and love-bombed so that we overlooked the red flags. They have to compensate for how insecure and unworthy they really feel. This is part of what creates these narcissists. If you truly knew deep down that you are secure, worthy, and deserving. You wouldn't abuse or manipulate anyone. At the beginning of the relationship they like that we are attractive, they like our inner qualities. They will even tell you this themselves. They value you. But over time they became very competitive like they were trying to outdo us. This is because they believe that we are above their level both on physical attraction and the depth of our personalities. If they really believed that they were better looking or had superior personalities, there is no way they would abuse, manipulate, devalue, or compete with us in any way. It is the fear of being rejected, looked down upon, or inferior that drives them to insult us in one way or another. An abuser's intentions are just as clear as a narcissist's. They want to control and hurt us in some way. In order to do this, they will level threats, insults, humiliation, and physical or sexual violence against us. Although they may not fight fair at first, it is important that you remember that often the abuser has a history of abuse and is even more likely to be violent than the narcissist in their lives.