Don't You Feel Attractive Anymore?

I, you and any other woman, sooner or later go over some psychological thresholds such as that moment when you no longer feel beautiful and you start to lose confidence in your own strength.

Let's imagine that you are involved in a long-term relationship with someone. So much so that you seem to have forgotten how he made you feel when he fought to win your heart.

Try to remember how any of his gestures made you feel like a real woman, really beautiful and wanted. Now he seems so convinced that he no longer needs to prove that he loves you because you already know that the relationship between you has become commonplace.

You no longer feel the need to arrange when you meet him. It wouldn't make sense, because he probably wouldn't notice anyway. Or if he noticed, he would probably not tell you anything. Maybe it's not his fault. Maybe it's all in your mind. You don't even know what to think, what the exact cause is.

Every woman has personal motives that create the context of diminished self-confidence. However, we can identify a general cause of these transformations, namely what in specialized terms is called "narcissistic injury". This is caused by body changes over time (wrinkles, fattening, white hair).

Loss of self-confidence vs. depression

Last summer, I had an experience like this. A very good friend had been in a relationship with someone for many years.

The feelings between them remained intact, but little by little, the passion faded. It wasn't long before my girlfriend began to blame herself for what had happened between them, to lose all confidence in her, and all this led to one thing - depression.

The opinion of the psychologist is that insofar as the decrease in self-confidence and self-strength leads to a generalized state of dissatisfaction, feelings of dissatisfaction, uselessness and inadequacy, then we can talk about the appearance of symptoms of depression.

Most of the time, when they stop recovering, women go through, without realizing it, periods of minor depression.

I could not help but wonder to what extent this is caused by the influence of others or if everything happens in our imagination. Given that any type of behavior generates reactions from others, decreased self-confidence, an internal mental process, generates reactions of rejection or support.

Therefore, the feedback of the people around you qualitatively accentuates your negative opinion about yourself. What starts in us affects those around us. So we are the ones who can put an end to this period of our lives. The remaining question is: HOW?

A new stage of life

The specialist says that any such psychological threshold can be exceeded when the new needs of the body and the psyche are realized. Adapting to the new stage of life is done after a re-evaluation of your own needs, desires, aspirations and after a negotiation with yourself and those close to you, in which the new principles of organizing internal and external life are sought. "

A solution, which does not want advice, would be for the woman who is going through a period of psychological crisis to try not to relate to the past and to the image of what was, but to the continuous present and what is.

Even if it is not concrete advice, I believe that the attempt to find one's own definition of the self will also lead to the means by which the woman will act in her favor. "

We are all complex, we have a strong personality and distinct needs. Every woman has her own way of regaining her self-confidence, of feeling beautiful again.

We are the ones who have to reconcile with ourselves, with failures or with less pleasant experiences.

As I was writing this article, I decided that from now on I would not spend a single day locked up in the house just because I had gained a few pounds, not even an hour in front of the mirror, crying out for pity.