Acknowledging mediocrity

Anxiety, rather abstract, is a state of indefinable, indefinable as if you are a "monster" in this era if you do not have some anxiety.

So, we attribute our bad emotions to anxiety, and we keep consuming ourselves in anxiety until we are exhausted.

Open the anxiety, go to the depths of anxiety, and find out where it comes from.

Let's sum it up in a sentence, not necessarily accurate, but just summarize the reason why anxiety arises, because the inner is not strong enough.

For example, we are reluctant to show our vulnerability, most of us see patience as generosity, we often feel "unworthy", we are afraid of being alone, and we cannot accept uncertainty.

These are all signs of inner weakness, and it is this that leads to anxiety and puts us in a miserable situation. Therefore, we began to reject anxiety, trying to get rid of "anxiety" by all means.

However, there is anxiety, there will be thinking, there will be a breakthrough, continuous breakthrough to have a better future.

Today, we will talk about the benefits of living with anxiety.

01Boldly reveal your vulnerability

Most of us have been taught from childhood that "don't give others trouble" and that we will express negative emotions only if we are not strong inside, which is a big misunderstanding.

When are we vulnerable?

When we wait for a reply, when we have nothing to do, when we are rejected, when we lose someone or something we love, and so on, we are inevitably lost and frustrated, and even vulnerable to the point of being vulnerable.

You see, isn't this something that everyone has had, so why the anti-humanity of packing and fighting it?

When you believe that you are worthy of being taken seriously, only then can you risk not being accepted, revealing you're true side, and expressing weak self-remembering, which is exactly the expression of high self-worth.

Expressing authentically is often easier to reap the benefits of genuine relationships and love, as well as, get a true sense of belonging.

Anxiety reminds you to take off the mask of being strong.

02 Not holding back emotions and protecting a sense of boundaries

Not all generosity can make up for a relationship and a happy ending. Sometimes, it is necessary to express our grievances, even anger authentically, as long as it does not hurt others.

When you are morally abducted, you can say "no" loudly, everyone has a moral bottom line, we do not touch the bottom line of others, but also protect the sense of boundary with others.

Once the self-defense is breached, to do is not to hold back, but to express anger, the true expression of inner feelings is not to hurt others but to let others understand the real you and your thoughts.

When we look at love, friendship, and various relationships in the workplace that fall apart, it is often a process like this.

Initially, the other party misunderstood; in the middle of the strong tolerance, which the other party used; later tolerated, both sides explode and then terminate the relationship.

Sometimes, you are inauthentic, and not to maintain your good image, return to simplicity, it is easier to approach each other distance and go long.

Anxiety allows you to learn to simplify the complexity.

03 Stabilize the sense of self-worth

The "unworthy" mentality will let us pass by success, this incorrect self-perception comes from the inability to affirm self-worth.

The self-worth we are talking about here is not confidence, but the ability to know clearly that you are valuable, no matter what time it is.

For example, if we fail in a job application, often the first thought will be to label ourselves as "worthless".

Do not do a good job, or letting others down, does not mean that you do not have value, just value here is not reflected in it.

At all times, we need to understand that we have value, no matter good times or bad times our value has always existed.

Stabilize our sense of self-worth, and play their role, to believe that everyone who exists in this world must have meaning and value.

And confidence is different from the sense of self-worth, not that there is confidence to reflect self-worth, confidence is only a firm belief in doing things, no confidence does not mean that we have no value.

You have value, that's a very definite statement.

Anxiety enhances your awareness.

04 Growth is all done alone

In an era of impatience, the ease of access to massive amounts of information instead makes us less and less likely to be alone. Our achievements need to be recognized, our sorrows need to be soothed.

Asking for something from the outside makes you more and more anxious, and our happiness or lack of it is not controlled by ourselves, but by the evaluation of others.

We seem to forget to accept ourselves and live well with ourselves.

We seem to forget to accept ourselves and to live well with ourselves. By desperately looking outward, we are getting farther and farther away from our original intention, and the relationships we are trying to maintain are not well-rounded.

Each person's growth is alone, no one can replace it, through learning, thinking, or acting, which does not require you to do personally.

You can only see prosperity if you can keep the loneliness.

Being alone is an ability that

Henry David Thoreau of "Walden Lake" More than 170 years ago, under internal and external difficulties, he was resentful, anxious, confused, and could not find an outlet.

One day, he came to Walden Lake and started a solitary life, away from people, where he had most of the time to spend with himself, which gave him purity of mind.

People who have the time to increase their spiritual wealth are the ones who enjoy contentment.

Return to the truth, return to the heart, in the utopia they have constructed, unload the body full of fatigue, and the messy mind will be released.

Anxiety teaches you independence.

05The only certainty is uncertainty

Take a closer look at the causes of our anxiety and see if they all stem from disrupting plans and exceeding expectations.

For example, a job we've worked hard to complete doesn't get a commendation, and bad feelings reach their icing point.

Another example is a trip that we planned, but was broken by the epidemic and had no choice but to close our home.

When we encounter something that goes against the original plan, we immediately feel bad, and this bad is the inability to accept "uncertainty".

Life is full of all kinds of uncertainties and does not progress in the way you want it to.

Living the life we want requires us to learn to live with uncertainty.

The only way to coexist with uncertainty is, roughly, to

Acknowledge and accept that uncertainty is the only certain thing.

Do the things that make you feel alive and give up fighting "uncertainty".

Anxiety makes you learn to accept.

A final thought.

Anxiety does not mean the absence of pain. The process of anxiety may also haunt you emotionally.