Do not count, is to win

We are surrounded by more or less the existence of such people, they always complain about the bad life, counting the trivial things, chanting about the worries of being a human being, as if living is not half as much fun, everywhere is the need to count things.

However, ask yourself, life is only bitter, not sweet?

The five tastes of life, mixed with them, and how can only one taste, but sometimes people are more, more annoying things naturally, can not help but complain about life, feel that they do not live as they wish.

I heard a saying: "Some people are unhappy because they are not too little, but too much."

Indeed, we care more about what we lose than what we get, and we think that it should have been our own, but we don't think about the fact that the loss is already a foregone conclusion, and that counting too much will only add unnecessary worries, like sticking in the throat.

How about, learning to relax, enlarge the pattern, let yourself go, and live your own little life?

1, relaxed mind, self-gratification

I have seen a video, of a woman in a friend complaining about her son, has changed, no longer listening to their own words, always obeying, guessing that this must be the daughter-in-law who just entered the door to bring bad.

And the friend waited until she had finished venting before she calmly said.

"It's not that your son has changed, it's that you're not used to having other people around your son and feel that you're no longer first.

He is married, has his own small home, there is a companion to grow old, you care too much, will only drive your son further and further away.

Why don't you take advantage of your free time, go out more with your partner and live your own life well, your children and grandchildren have their blessings, we can't care too much."

Most of the discord in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law comes from counting too much, thinking that what the other party is doing is not to their liking, but she is living with your son, not with you, so counting too much is only asking for trouble.

Many times, you think there is no way not to take into account things, look at them from a different perspective, and you will find no big deal.

A camel was walking in the hot desert, the midday sun made it hungry and thirsty, anxious, full of fire, and nowhere to vent when a glass bottle fragment choked its paw.

It would have been fine if it had continued on its way without caring about the shard.

However, in anger, it raised its foot and kicked the shard out, which flew far away but also cut its palm with a deep wound, and blood sprayed out, soon staining the sand.

When it reached the edge of the desert, the strong smell of blood attracted the wolves in the desert, and it ran in panic and panic when it was tired and bleeding too much, and finally ran near the nest of the cannibal ants, and was eaten up by them, never leaving the desert again.

Most of the time, when you encounter something unsatisfactory, instead of complaining about the environment, you should change your mentality and treat the problem calmly to reverse the situation, otherwise, you will only make yourself worse off.

Romain Rolland said, "Only the mood of complaining about the environment, into the motivation to move up, is the guarantee of success."

A relaxed mind, to enjoy themselves, step by step out of the dangerous situation.

And counting too much, the final anger, it is easy to make the loss of reason, only to push things to the irreparable.

Learn to relax, do not care, the trouble will naturally become less.

2, enlarge the pattern, lightly look at gains and losses

Do you have such people around you?

The coupons are only for yourself and others are given at the original price.

In other people's single, buy a just to make up the price of things, give the money by the way to get the full reduction of the gift away.

Rarely treat someone to a meal, but later asked someone to treat him back at a more expensive restaurant ......

In life, you will inevitably encounter some people who are calculating about food and drink.

Calculating more becomes a calculation, always feeling that is looking for ways to take advantage of others, once or twice is okay, the most fear is that every time this will only make people do not want to be close, do not make friends.

For people to do things, to know the sense of proportion, calculating too much will seem too petty, low vision, and small pattern.

Go to the market to buy food, the front of a stall is always better than the back of a stalled business, I heard people say that because the boss is generous, ask him to send some onions and garlic to give a good, unlike the back of the boss less than a penny refused, always calculate a special clear.

So, most of the people who go to buy food are more willing to go to the front to buy, only less knowledgeable people will go to the back.

Very often, doing business, know the appropriate concessions, in fact, more absorbing customers.

Rather than calculating, it is better to enlarge the pattern and be generous, business will naturally get better and better.

Whether you are a person or do something, enlarge the pattern, and look lightly at gains and losses, to become a winner.