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Put Yourself First; Others will Understand

by Jessica Fontaine 2 years ago in inspirational
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Not everything is about you, but sometimes it needs to be.

Probably the last picture before everything came crashing down

This poem goes out to everyone who needs to love themself. It's always good to make sure your friends and family are happy. As one of my best friends says, it's good to have a lot of love for people. But at some point, you have to save some of that love for yourself. You have to be ok if you care too much, and not be hurt when the other person cares just enough.

'I had a big realization today.

That it’s good to be a nice person

But I think at this point in your life

You need to stop giving so much kindness

So that you can keep it for yourself.

I used to put my friend as my first priority all the time.

I would drop everything, stopping my homework, postponing my run, forgetting about music stuff

To make sure he was ok.

If he needed help with sickness, or his family, or his dogs

I’d take time, maybe too much time

Researching how to relieve stress, home remedies for sickness, and why his dog’s leg is swollen

So that he could sleep just a little bit better.

When he’s texting me worried about something,

I don’t leave the conversation to do something else.

I don’t absentmindedly respond saying it’ll be ok and then leave again.

This friend was my life and happiness.

I couldn’t go on with my day unless I was certain that things were ok with him and with us.

It’s a perfectionist or an ego thing, I don’t know.

So when my boyfriend doesn’t do things my same way,

I perceive it as hurtful and wrong.

When in reality, I’m way too nice. But

He’s the perfect amount of nice.

When he responded with one-word answers

I thought, “Well I wouldn’t do that, so it’s wrong.”

When he does important school work while I’m ranting about my frivolous worries,

I thought, “Well i wouldn’t do that so it’s wrong.”

When he forgot about a sensitive thing that hurt my feelings and thus repeated the action,

I thought, “Well, i wouldn’t do that, because he wouldn’t be hurt over stupid things like I am.”

I realized that I might not get the same effort

from people as I put in.

But that doesn’t make the other person’s effort wrong.

Just because I view him like a god,

Doesn’t mean he’s wrong for not viewing me the same.

Just because I don’t think doing my homework

in a stressful relationship situation is important

Doesn’t mean he’s also gonna stop studying

To cater to my needs.

Either I have to accept

That if I put in 150% effort,

I may only get 100% of it back.

Or I have to stop prioritizing

Someone else’s livelihood

Over my own.'

inspirational

About the author

Jessica Fontaine

Writer, photographer, college student, athlete, journalist.

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