Our Routine.
I've been fantasizing about my closest friends washing my hair.
1.
I was stoned
and standing
in the shower,
staring at tile,
trying to make out
a new face
in the stone.
Today it was Chubaka.
I was playing with my armpit hair, as I often do,
when the soaping is done and I’m not ready
to leave warm water. Rejoin the world
where one is expected to put on pants and go
out and perform as a decent person
just trying to make a living.
I’m going to shave those in your sleep
if you don’t do it soon.
This is my mother.
I often wonder how many of my decisions are in fact acts of defiance.
The day she threw the training bra out of our cart,
What do you need this for?
was the day she began sneaking into my room in night
with a flashlight to inspect my chest for signs.
I’ve been fantasizing about my closest friends
washing my hair. Multiple hands in my scalp.
cross-legged in a tub. Hold a wrist and scrub
under an arm, a knee cap, a cloth to clean
an unwanted kiss from brow, from mouth
Even sex loses its appeal
when the need
is physical intimacy.
I’m losing my patience
with teaching temporary lovers
how to touch my body.
I’m renegotiating
the contracts
with all of my love languages.
Memory is
the rubber band
that snaps.
Did I lose my mother
the day she taught me
to wash my own hair
Her touch.
Hugs. You need hugs,
she will say.
Reluctance, as she leans in.
She knows this,
because I have taught her
because I have told her
I need her
to be soft.
But she will tell you
I am forever trying
to crawl back in
the womb
this isn’t true
But I do
need
touch.
2.
A routine:
We sprawl, three to a velvet green couch. A joint. A teevee show. We’ve run out of music videos. She gets horizontal. He takes the feet. I take the head. Massage until she’s asleep. Dead. She gets vertical for an ice cream break. A conversation after episode one that might last three hours long. Ting, ting, ting, spoons in the sink, and she’s back to horizontal. The remaining two, we watch another episode. Tomorrow’s work. We should go to bed. Wake her up slow. Sweet pats to the back and head. She doesn’t wanna go. “You get away from me,” she might say, and we might giggle. She works so hard to take care of everyone during the day. “I tried to make it nice,” she’ll often say, of the day. It’s our turn. “It might be a - she sleeps on the couch - kind of night” he says. No. Her back deserves a bed. Another pat or two to the head. We watch each other like two parents, looking for cues. It’s my favorite version of her. I might out myself by saying I think it’s because it’s the only time this fire sign seems to need me, let me use full-sweet, me. “Here let me walk you to bed.” I’m guarding corners that might catch her hip, her head. Turn the covers down and she steps in. Can she bring her blanket and half way up there’d been the move to siting. Rested her head in her hands. “I’m just recharging. I feel drugged. I’ll go in a minute.” I stroke her hair. A mother’s touch is what I’ve been told I have. I have no children, but I often wonder if I came here to mother my friends. The little children screaming inside them, asking to be held.
About the Creator
Jen Parkhill “JP”
Jen Parkhill “JP”, a first generation Cuban-American artist and proud member of the LGBTQIA+ community. Cat dad, writer, filmmaker, actor, friend, and graduate of the Tisch School of the Arts, NYU.
Hurling through time.
@jenparkhill
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