Stop Being A Victim of Your Own Expectations

You must have often come to the conclusion that the crux of your problems may sometimes be because of your own monumental expectations from people or situations.

And then let's say you did some kind of introspection and even found out that the foundation of the problems are your own expectations and decided that now you will stop having any kind of expectations, but ultimately you are just human and it doesn't last very long so you become utterly restless and irritated seeing your expectations skyrocketing.

You come to this realization that your expectations are your own worst enemies but at the same time, you can't help it at all. Does the predicament seem familiar? If yes, then by all means, continue ahead. If no, then what the hell are you doing there? Go make yourselves useful somewhere else.

Having no Expectations is a Pretty Big Expectation

All right now, so let me give it to you straight, there's nobody, and I literally mean NOBODY, on the face of the earth who doesn't have expectations. From a beggar living in a filthy street to Jeff Bezos, they all do have some kind of expectations.

Now, when does it become a problem? You must have heard that you should detach yourself from everything and blah blah but we didn't clearly understand it. It doesn't mean that your expectations will come to an end. It never will.

The problem arises when we say that we shouldn't have any kind of expectations whatsoever. This initiates a fight within ourselves that is almost next to impossible to win.

As long as you are alive, you are bound to have some kind of expectation. You will have the expectation that people with whom you are in a relationship, show some respect. Isn't this an important expectation to have? Isn't it normal to expect your partner to stay loyal to you? If you don't like smoking then isn't it usual to expect your partner to not smoke right in your face?

How can you forego such basic genuine expectations? Even if you want to, don't; because then you would lose your own identity.

So, the wise thing to do will be to accept the reality and forget about expecting to not expect anything. Then you have some chances of being at peace. Sure there will be problems in your path so even expecting that you won't have any problems is just like expecting that your body remains free of any and every kind of disease.

It's not practical. If you have a body it is bound to be at dis-ease from time to time. Always remember; the darker the night gets, the brighter the star appears.

I got one more thing to explain this. It takes both sunshine and rain to form a rainbow. (my 8th-grade teacher told me this, and it got engraved in my mind ever since.)

Understand the Game of Universe

We don't understand the game. The universe has got its own rules and doesn't give a rat's ass to what you believe or expect. We gotta align our thinking according to the universe we are living in by understanding the reality and accepting it. The moment you accept that "yes, I am a human and I have some expectations just like every other human," then you are one battle up already.

Now at least you won't be pissed off when you expect something as opposed to those who will get livid the minute they start expecting something when they think they shouldn't. The more you say, "I shouldn't have expectations", the more expectations you will have and the more irritated you will get.

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