manipulation techniques

Manipulation techniques and how they are applied

In the first technique, when asking for something from the opposite side, asking for something small first and then something big

While practicing this technique, the manipulator first asks you for a small thing, gains your trust during this, and then begins to demand bigger things. For example, first he asks you for a small amount of debt, because it is a small and insignificant amount, you accept it immediately and lend it, the manipulator pays it in a short time, and then asks you to borrow a larger amount of money, because he immediately gave the debt the previous time, he trusts you before giving this amount and you lend the request. If he asks you for a large amount of debt at his first request, you would not trust him so much.
The second manipulation technique is to make the person in front of him feel indebted to him

I would like to start this technique by transmitting to you an information given by the guides to tourists in Turkey; guides in Turkey warn tourists to be careful of shoe painters many times during or just before the trip. The reason for this warning is that shoeshine painters use this technique we are going to talk about, albeit unknowingly. According to what is known, shoe painters deliberately drop their paintbrushes while walking on the road and carry on pretending not to notice, then someone notices this situation and picks up the brush from the ground and gives it to the painter, the shoeshine boy offers to paint his shoes in return, even if the person who gave the brush does not want to accept this offer, he starts painting very persistently. The shoeshine boy does various shows during painting and normally continues to do his job by making the other person feel that he is being forced, as if he is doing a more difficult job, and when the other person sees all this work, he wants to pay back and offers money, so the painter found his own customer. In other words, the manipulator seems to help someone and manipulates him by making him feel the need to repay someone by making a normal job or, as we will see in the example, the reward for the help grow so much that it almost looks like a show or by showing it in a more laborious way than it is.
The third method is self-confidence destruction

The person who applies the technique insults the person he targets at every opportunity and humiliates him with every move, breaking his self-confidence and keeping him connected to himself. The manipulator says so many insulting and humiliating words that the target's self-confidence is completely destroyed and he connects to the person who applies the technique, feeling worthless. To give an example, consider a couple. The man humiliates her by gradually insulting the girl at every turn and every movement of the girl. Laughing as if he were joking, he jokingly insults the other person like "you're half a world away from eating" when eating, "can't you see that outfit won't happen to you" when buying clothes, “you're already incompetent” if he makes a mistake when dealing with a job. Even if she wants to leave and get rid of the girl after a while because her self-confidence is broken, she continues to stick to that man, thinking that she is not attractive to anyone, incompetent, talentless and worthless, and thinking that no one will show interest in her. If you look around a little carefully, you may encounter many people who practice this technique even if they are not aware of it. Even if these people are not aware of it, they always insult and humiliate the people around them and take them under their influence by breaking their self-confidence. By training yourself and mastering these techniques, you can use them against others, but there are many people around you who do them unintentionally.


The fourth technique is humiliation and provocation

It is one of the most widely used methods. Imagine a manager who constantly humiliates employees in front of other colleagues, makes words, breaks their self-confidence. A manager who constantly offends the other person with sentences like “I'm not sure you're skilled enough to do this, but there's a job that needs to be done, I'm going to give you this job,” even when he's giving you a job. Because the manager reacts in this way, the employee does the job more carefully and carefully in order to show himself to the boss, or just to embarrass the manager who gives these reactions that he is doing this. This method we are talking about is sometimes exaggerated by the manipulator and applied so much that the person under its influence feels insignificant. As a result of the application of this technique, when the staff receives a raise in salary, despite all the bad behavior and insults, at least he agrees without any objection to the amount of raise he receives, which provides the manipulator with the result of this technique. While applying this technique, you may think that the motivation of the staff will decrease and perform worse, but as I said before, the manipulators know the people very well and apply the techniques accordingly.







The fifth technique is the gradually increasing demand

With this technique, when shopping in a large goods or electrical-electronics store, or when shopping for computers, motorcycles, etc. it has definitely happened to everyone when buying. For example, you went to a technology store to buy a computer, and the seller showed you a suitable computer, the price was “2000 TL”, you looked at the price, examined the laptop and found it very convenient, and went to the safe. The seller tells you, “this laptop is FREEDOS, so there is no operating system, and the trial version of the installed operating system ends in a month, if you want, don't bother after a month, let's install it already, ” and you agree, and then “this laptop also has 2 GB of ram, do you want to upgrade the ram?” he asks you, if you accept this offer, this time he will tell you, “ There is a 512 GB HARD DRIVE on this laptop, if you buy an SSD with him now, both the laptop you will get will work faster and you will get a discount for the SSD because you bought the computer,” he will say, and if you accept this, you will pay 3000TL for the laptop that is 2000TL. If you had known that the price was 3000TL at the very beginning of the sale, you would have found this laptop very expensive and would not have wanted to buy it.
The sixth technique is to demand something big and then something small from you first

In this technique, unlike the first technique, the manipulator first makes a big offer to the other party that he will not accept, and when the other party does not accept, this time the manipulator offers his own offer, which is smaller. In such a case, both you feel guilty for not accepting the previous offer and you accept the offer because you think this offer is more acceptable. The main purpose of this method is both to make the offer he offers seem more reasonable and to make you feel guilty for saying no to the first offer and to put psychological pressure on you for the next offer. As an example of this method, your boss tells you, “you need to work 2 hours more every day next month,” and you rightly do not accept this situation and refuse, then your boss says, “okay, okay, just stay on extra time for this weekend, let's finish this job, then there will be no need for extra time,” and you think it's tempting to stay on the weekend instead of staying on every day for a month, and you accept without question. But first of all, if this had said “you need to work two hours extra on the weekend”, this offer would have bothered you more than the previous one and you would not have accepted comfortably.


The seventh technique of manipulation does not oblige him to apply

Using the other side as a slave who meets his own needs, restricting the person to what he wants the most in order to guide him in the way he wants is one of the most used techniques. It can deprive the other person of these feelings and desires from situations such as materialism, sensuality, freedom or sexuality. Gaining your own financial freedom and making your own decisions as an individual is the best method to prevent this technique from being applied to you. In order for the manipulator to apply this technique to you, you need to need something, you need to be in need of something. Family is the best example for this method. As I mentioned earlier, people who engage in manipulation do not realize this from time to time, this also applies to the family. Since you do not have personal financial freedom, being connected to your family elders both spiritually and financially causes you to get permission from them before you can do something freely when you want to do it, or whatever they want, it forces you to fulfill this request, even if you don't want to. This situation continues until you gain your material freedom and become an individual.
Don't play the eighth technical victim

There are several methods of this technique, the first method is to pretend to be an idiot as if you don't know how to do it,” I often do most things wrong, but I don't know what it is”, the second is to pretend to be a victim of fate,” okay, it's okay, I'm used to it all the time anyway", the third is self-pity,” okay, I'll do it alone, it doesn't matter, I'll go by myself”, by attracting attention to himself, he plays the victim and gains the upper hand by exploiting emotions.

The ninth technique is using the other person's ego

It is one of the popular techniques of emotional manipulation. The manipulator inflates the other person's ego by lying rather than by fawning to the other party, and in return, the person who is emotionally manipulated begins to make more positive decisions and think more positively about the manipulator. You have definitely seen the types of friends around you who glorify the other person by humiliating him. “Either you are very charismatic, look at our type”,” You are a very nice and attractive girl”, “You are the bottom of the guy, the bottom..." you must have come across people around you who have uttered these phrases over and over again, like ". These people tell the other person that you are like this, make him feel good and think more positively about himself, and sometimes influence him to do things for his own benefit.

Tenth technique don't make the other person feel guilty