Know how to "bow your head" to stay out of the abyss

When you think there is no way out, you may want to bow your head and calm down, and then look for a new way out, as long as the courage to take the first step, everything will slowly change for the better, and the desperate can also be born.

Just, some people always easy to drop the chain at a critical moment, with the wrong mindset to take the wrong road, looking for a bunch of trouble.

The attitude of the world is the key to success.

1.

It is said that "those who achieve great things, do not stick to small things".

But life is full of calculating people, always justified, afraid of being taken advantage of by others, but do not know that the distance between people is drawn away from the calculating.

In the office, I have met such a person, about people together to order take-out, the discount is their own, others have to pay according to the original price.

After seeing her routine, people would rather order themselves than go with her to make up the bill.

The office relationship was already distant, and then slowly became worse. Later I heard that she resigned and left complaining to the newcomer that she was being targeted in the company, without thinking about what she had done wrong.

No matter who you are, you will relatively prefer to interact with generous people, not that you want to take advantage of each other, but the relationship is easier to get along without the need to be calculating.

Imagine, someone opens and closes his mouth to talk to you about money, calculating to two decimal places, and how can harmonious interaction.

Life is too calculating, not only will be tired of themselves but also hurt feelings, and in the end, even take advantage of the loss.

Lost the pattern, lost the relationship, success, and failure.

2.

It is said that "a moment of peace and calm, a step back to the sea and the sky".

But the emotions are out of control, not to say that you can hold back, a little attention will be emotional manipulation, to do unexpected things.

The fact is that you can find a lot of people who are not able to get a good deal on their own.

Although the heart understands that these words should not be said, the emotions out of control will inevitably be uncontrollable words, that accidentally escalated the quarrel, into a breakup of the fuse.

At that time regret, I'm afraid it was too late.

In the past, the emotional recovery cases, most emotionally out of control made a mistake, and then had no choice but to find help to recover.

However, some problems have not changed, and the conflict will still exist, even if the compound, will also break up.

Learn to control your emotions, look at things with an optimistic attitude, and analyze the problem from a different perspective, you will find that some things are "tolerated" but will be better.

Not everything can rely on the word "courage" out the head, sometimes "forbearance" is the wise move.

When Han Xin endured the humiliation of the crotch, paralyzing the enemy at the same time to get a chance to breathe, to retreat for progress, waiting for a good opportunity to use the time to learn more knowledge, to achieve a better self.

In addition to Han Xin, Sima Qian is also one of the best, ten years to sharpen a sword, pretending to be a fool and conceding most of his life, only at the moment of success to reveal his true nature.

Sometimes, forbearance does not mean weakness but rather is not enough strength when the wise move, to preserve their own, there is hope for the future.

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When you encounter bad people and bad things, it is wise to bow down in time.

Although people should not be divided into three, six, or nine, it can not be denied that some people of low quality, always make a few disgusting things.

Bump into the unreasonable, you talk to him more reason is useless, rather than a different way to solve the problem.

Nietzsche said: "and the dragon too long to wrestle with the dragon, itself also become an evil dragon. If you stare too long into the abyss, the abyss will stare back."

Do not get involved in the trouble should not have, if the other party just wants a small amount of money, or an admission of fault, it does not hurt to bow your head, at least to avoid unnecessary entanglement.

It is important to know that we are in the light, the bad guys in the dark, to mess with the villain, can not prevent.

Instead of that, it is better to bow your head and make amends, more than one thing is better than less.

However, when the situation is serious, and they can not handle it, you must call the police for help.

Don't think you can solve the problem yourself, whenever and wherever you know how to do it.