Identifying the Energy Vampires in Your Life.

Things are happening very fast these days; people communicate at the speed of light, and sometimes, we give more energy to unnecessary people and situations than we should — those energy vampires that can drain the life out of you.

Often, when we try to help certain people, we want them to grow like we did. But here’s the thing we sometimes forget: the kind of people they are.

That’s what I want to talk to you about in this post. It’s essential to recognize the types of people who can hinder our progress and personal growth.

In my life, I have encountered many types of people, and they have taught me a lot along the way. They learn about and with you and vice versa.

In my early twenties, I offered loyalty and friendship to people who wanted to take advantage of me or my time. Still, because I was insecure and didn’t know how to say no and set boundaries, I let them get away with it.

Especially some of my family members, and let’s be honest, they are the worst. They have no respect, and they know precisely the buttons to push to make you react. I have taken a step away from some family members, and let me tell you, my life has never been more peaceful.

But fear not because in this article, we will expose these sneaky characters and give you the tools to spot them from a mile away.

Let’s dive in…

The Pessimist

We all know someone like this. They always focus on what’s wrong with a situation and never see the good. Unfortunately, they often suffer from depression.

What to do: Reframe in your mind everything this person is saying. Don’t tell them your dreams and ideas.

The Complainer

These people always need more. They always find something to be disappointed about and have difficulty seeing the positive side of things.

What to do: Don’t try to please them; when they start talking and complaining, don’t engage with it.

The Badtalker

Beware of these individuals. They speak ill of everyone, including themselves. They have a habit of putting others down and engaging in endless victimization.

What to do: Don’t talk wrong about the person they are talking about because they will use this fuel to add your name to their monolog.

The Mediocre

These people lack success and originality and criticize those who have it. They don’t strive for anything and are often procrastinators, hoping to achieve the same success. But they miss the point that true fulfillment comes from acting.

No one can help the person unwilling to pay the price or wants to get ahead.

What to do: NEVER feel wrong about your success and who you have become because of others; remember all the effort you put out there to be where you are today.

The Fake

These individuals wear a mask in every situation. They live a life of pretense, have no opinions, and judge others who do. They’re constantly trying to please others and lack integrity.

What to do: Absolutely nothing; let them be and be yourself. Don’t try to help this kind because today they might hug you, tomorrow they might push you.

The Manipulator

Watch out for these people! They use tactics to get what they want, including creating fake situations and emotional manipulation. They drain your energy and joy to feed their own.

Some family members are experts at this, especially if they know you love them and would do anything to make them happy.

In my life, I have to avoid a very near family member who asked me for help twice, and both times, the person manipulated my mom and me, telling us lies and doing things behind our backs and all the person asked for in the first place was to live with us because “poor me I don’t have anyone in my life.”

What to do: Avoid and don’t engage. Gaslighting is there, and sometimes you will lose it, like I did, but as soon as you see who the person is and avoid them, you learn the lesson and move on. Remember, they are trying to put you down to feel better.

The Liar

Who has never told a lie? But compulsive liars take it to another level. They lie about everything, and it can have a significant impact on relationships.

What to do: Listen, think about it, and come to a conclusion in your mind. It is essential to speak with the person who lied about you to others and make it clear if this is the case.

The Fearful

These individuals project their fears onto everything they do. They live in constant suspicion and expect the worst to happen. Being around them can bring you down.

What to do: Remember that they are on their life path, and you are in yours; fear is contagious, and the more you engage with fearful people, the more afraid you get.

Napoleon Hill in “Think and grow rich” book states:

Fear will germinate and grow

without their presence being observed

The Know-It-All

These folks always believe they know better than everyone else. They’re quick to offer unsolicited opinions and correct others with arrogance. A wise person is open to learning from others without imposing their views.

What to do: Be open to learning from them and let them make fools of themselves by showing off.

The Competitive

These people see others as enemies and constantly try to prove they’re better. They bring conversations back to their achievements to make others feel inferior.

What to do: Keep your co-creator mindset and not the competitive attitude where you must be better than others at all costs.

The Victims

These individuals always blame others for their problems and refuse to take responsibility. They seek validation from others and rely on them to achieve their goals.

Those people often do not want to get out of the victimization because it is easier for them to be in this mindset. This is how they think they can get what they want.

What to do: Help them as much as possible, but don’t get into their blame game or try to keep them safe. The cure for victimization is to let them learn on their own.

Conclusion

It’s essential to evaluate and understand the people in your life who exhibit these characteristics.

It’s a huge mistake to try to change people, and a lot of energy is wasted trying that, too. Accept them as they are and let them go.

While you can’t change them, you can distance yourself from their negativity and focus on positive relationships.