Coping with anxiety

Anxiety, what is it? I know most of you must have seen it from closely while the rest would feel it just doesn’t exist. And people exaggerate their feelings. And some would say why are you feeling anxiety and depression at such a young age? You have no big problem and such a good life. Then why?

There are different kind of people in the world who think that their problem is the biggest and nobody can have that big of a problem. (which could be right) because everybody has a different threshold to their sufferings. For some big might seems less, while for the some less feels like a lot.

Imagine that you're getting ready to go to a party. You feel excited, but also nervous, and you've got this feeling in your stomach almost like another heartbeat. There's something holding you back, holding you back from getting too happy. "No, you mustn't get too happy. Better to be cautious, otherwise, something bad might happen." You start wondering, "Who should I talk to when I get there? What if no one wants to talk to me? What if they'll think I'm weird?" When you arrive at the party, someone comes up to you and starts talking with you, and as this is happening, your mind starts racing, your heart begins pounding, you start sweating, and it feels almost like you're dissociating from yourself, like it's an out-of-body experience, and you're just watching yourself talk. "Keep it together," you say to yourself, but you can't. And it's just getting worse.

That was a scenario of you going to a meetup/party. And what about sitting at home and doing nothing and getting to feel all of this? What about sitting in your classroom among the whole class and getting this feeling? Receiving all those beautiful birthday wishes on your birthday and getting this feeling? Feeling so much happy and next second getting this feeling? Tbh I still don’t know how to cope with this, because I couldn’t find myself a way out of this. But the only thing which I know that THIS FEELING WONT LAST.

I feel the weakest, helpless and so breathless during this. But I couldn’t find the reason behind it. But one thing is for sure it doesn’t just happen to people who are going through something, but it can happen to anybody, anywhere at any time. So instead of finding out the reason behind people’s anxiety just give them a good healthy talk and that’s all they need. Tell them how worthy they are, and how much needed their existence really is.

This is a pure natural feeling and people should try and accept that it exists.

There are a few things which found out to be really helpful for me (atleast).

First one is feeling like you're in control of your life. People who feel like they're more in control of their life Have better mental health. If you feel like you're lacking in control in life, then research shows that you should engage in experiences that give you greater control. I'll show you what I mean: do you sometimes find that you put off starting something? because you just don't feel ready enough? Do you find it hard to make decisions? like what to wear, what to eat, which job to take up? Do you tend to waste a lot of time? deciding what you might do while nothing gets done? A way to overcome indecision and this lack of control in life, is to do it badly.

There's a quote by writer and poet GK Chesterton

that says, "Anything worth doing is worth doing badly the first time."

The reason why this works so well is that it speeds up your decision-making and catapults you straight into action, otherwise, you can spend hours deciding how you should go about doing something or what you should do.

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Do it badly free you up to take action!

The second coping strategy is to forgive yourself, and this is very powerful if you use it. People with anxiety think a lot about what they're doing wrong, their worries, and how bad they're feeling. Imagine if you had a friend who constantly pointed out everything you're doing wrong, and everything that was wrong with your life.

You would probably want to get rid of this person right away, wouldn't you? Well, people with anxiety do this to themselves all day long. They're not kind to themselves. So maybe it's time to start being kinder with ourselves, time to start supporting ourselves, and a way to do this is to forgive yourself for any mistakes you think you might have made just a few moments ago to mistakes made in the past. If you had a panic attack and are embarrassed about it, forgive yourself! If you wanted to talk to someone, but couldn't muster up the courage to do so, don't worry about it, let it go; forgive yourself for anything and everything and this will give you greater compassion towards yourself. You can't begin to heal until you do this.

I hope this helped you in any possible way. Make this your life MOTTO and you will be at so much of peace. Also Don't forget your prayers. it is all a process which will take time. Make your connection with the one who IS ALL YOU WILL EVER NEED.

As I said THIS FEELING WILL NOT LAST. Just stay strong through this and you will get out much stronger. 💓