25 warm consolations to yourself to regroup and start living a spontaneous life

l The first comfort: be careful not to live too tired; often people lament that living is tiring. Tired, is the mental pressure; tired, is the psychological burden of heavy. Tired and not tired is always relative, in order not to be tired, we must learn to relax, life is valuable to have open and free. A tired heart, so that people are trapped in a long-term sub-health state; tired heart, will make their spirit. The heart won't be too tired, learn to relieve yourself.

The second comfort: do not be a slave to desire; people always sigh "moth to a flame", people always ridicule "fish on the hook", and people joke "self-induced mud". But if you think about it, in our life around, the tragedy of this desire is still less. The human heart is not enough to swallow the elephant. People who indulge their souls will eventually lose their true freedom! One must always be on guard against bad desires.

The third consolation: life should be joyful in moderation; appropriate recreational activities can regulate emotions, but endless joy can easily be turned into harm. The extreme of things is the opposite, the number of poor is the change, "Where there is pleasure, there is much sickness." "Chess can be used for leisure, easy to move the heart fire." A shallow life, often in return for painful remorse. The best is a life of optimism, joy is not limited to entertainment, and involves all aspects of life. Joy and sorrow are concomitant, joy has a degree will be joyful and always accompanied.

l The fourth consolation: do not be too concerned about the evaluation of others; there is no painting that is not evaluated by others, and there is no person that is not discussed by others. If you are silent, someone will accuse you of being "too deep in the city"; if you are good at talking, someone will accuse you of boasting; if you praise others, someone will accuse you of having ulterior motives; if you criticize with good intentions, someone will be even more furious, thinking that nosy. Just look at other people's faces, they do not live, have the self, and are not caught in the self.

The fifth consolation: do not have to please others; pleasing everyone is impossible and unnecessary, pleasing everyone is the same as offending everyone, deliberately pleasing others will only make others disgusted, close to others to natural, speculative mentality to change, there is time to please, rather than down-to-earth work, pleasing others is always unreliable, their efforts to be real. A desire to please others will lose themselves, it is important to enrich themselves.

The sixth consolation: the most important thing is the heart of today; why lose the mood of the present for the painful regret, why worry about the inexplicable and fearful of the day? The past is gone, and no amount of regret is going to help. The future is still unattainable, how to worrying will also be empty and sad. Today's heart, today's events, and present people, but the real, but also feel good. Of course, it is wise to summarize the experience and prevent future risks. Yesterday is gone, and tomorrow has not yet come; today is real.

l The seventh comfort: it is important to live life to the fullest; to live each day well is the greatest happiness, happiness comes from feeling good every day, always worrying about the risks of tomorrow, and always can not erase the shadow of yesterday, how can today's life be as desired? Always compare those incomparable, always fantasize those can not be achieved, how can today's mood quiet? Any unrealistic things, are the source of pain, life's biggest killer is worry and anxiety, and pain from the lack of a full, full life will not be thoughtless.

The eighth consolation: it may be worth throwing away the troubles for a while; life is too short, why should you always live unhappily? Trouble is normal, no trouble is not normal. If you are in a bad mood, you may want to go to a movie, you may want to listen to a piece of music, you may want to sing a song, you may want to make a phone call, you may want to enjoy the sun ...... let the worries mind to hell with it, first happy.

l the ninth comfort: don't always get on your own with yourself; learn to appreciate yourself, equal to having the golden key to get happy, appreciate yourself is not a loner, appreciate yourself is not the only one, appreciate yourself is not self-absorbed, appreciate yourself is not the same ...... give yourself some information, give yourself a little The happy, smile at yourself, why worry about not having the joy of life? Often have to give themselves a holiday, and learn to find a pleasant mood.

l The tenth consolation: extremes are not desirable; some people often cause themselves to be mentally disturbed because of excessive worry, while others cause themselves to be indifferent to anything because of numbness. The former often suffer from the search for sanity and are decayed by over-intelligence, and the folly is rooted in remorse for everything. The latter are unaware of what remorse is, and live all day long in a muddle, living and dying with little difference. Going to extremes always fails miserably to find the wisdom of life.

l The eleventh consolation: like yourself to embrace life; blind arrogance and self-esteem, is a proud and ignorant life, and a bent on self-abandonment, is a pessimistic life. It is more difficult to understand oneself than to understand others, and it is less easy to like oneself than to like others. Having a healthy and proper self-esteem mentality will show extra strength in the face of setbacks. Do not lose yourself to the temptation of the outside world, do not deny yourself for a momentary setback, evaluate yourself objectively and calmly at all times, and appreciate yourself with certainty in optimism every time.

The twelfth consolation: although the material is poor, the psychological is not poor; material poverty is not terrible, the terrible is psychological poverty. Poverty is often linked to poverty, and poverty is often linked to a short will. If you are psychologically poor, you will become poor, but if you are psychologically rich, you will become rich. Material poverty coupled with a million thoughts will soon destroy a person's body, self-confidence, and self-improvement, although temporary material poverty and good days will soon come, and people poor will not be short of self-improvement.

The thirteenth consolation: the foundation of happiness is in oneself; generally people always put the happiness of life on external things, attaching to the world's approval, valuing status, property, treatment, reputation, and other things, and once they lose these, it is a heavy blow, often painful, and the foundation of their happiness and joy is destroyed. If you live your life like this, then happiness is far away from us, why should we let others evaluate their degree of happiness and grasp themselves?

The fourteenth consolation: do what you have to do with your heart; life is so short, which have the heart to waste it? A wise philosopher once said: someone on the street scolded me, I am not even head back, simply do not want to know this boring person!" We should neither hurt people nor be swayed by others' criticism, but follow our wishes and learn our skills first in a practical manner. Especially when you are a teenager, you should give your best effort to learn your skills and not be distracted.

l The fifteenth comfort: feeling happy is happiness. Many are deliberately pursuing the so-called happiness; some have got it, but its cost is huge. Many philosophers say that happiness is a feeling. The feeling of happiness decreases with the degree of satisfaction and is closely related to the state of mind and mentality of the person. The philosophers said: the more difficult it is to get, the deeper it is to love, to have happiness, and always think about the difficulties. It is the greatest sorrow for a person to always feel unhappy. Happiness is a feeling, do not know enough, about and will never be happy about.

The sixteenth consolation: there is a disaster in the blessing there is a blessing in the disaster; do not be overwhelmed by the momentary gains and losses, and revel in the temporary victory, you must be prepared for danger, do not be proud of your achievements, complacent, intoxicated victory, means stopping, intoxicated victory, means losing vigilance, life road to never restless, victory is only a small road map. To achieve the final victory, only efforts, efforts, and efforts. Do not be confused by the momentary gain, who laughs the latest, who laughs the happiest.

The only sensible way is how to properly deal with the things behind, don't let things get worse, the water that is spilled can't be retrieved, the wood that has been carved into the boat can't be restored to its original state, knowing these simple truths, you can deal with the remaining problems in a peaceful manner. Regret does not do any good, do not make things worse.

l The eighteenth consolation: See the world more with good eyes; water is not fish until it is clear, and people are not friends until they are checked. If you cannot tolerate the shortcomings of others in every way, then everyone becomes a bad person, and you cannot live in peace. If you look at the world with an evil eye, the world will be broken everywhere; if you look at the world with a good eye, the world will always be lovely. The more you look at the strengths of others, the more lovely you will see.

The nineteenth consolation: a different way of life may be happier; when you are extremely unhappy in your work and feel that there are walls everywhere, is it necessary to change the environment? When you are extremely unhappy in your marriage, you feel like you are in an ice cellar, do you have the courage to break through the wall? When you are used to being submissive, will you stand up and say "no"? People with self-confidence and self-improvement are good at adjusting their state of life, don't live too much in the sack, and comfort is the genie of happiness.

l The twentieth comfort: to live a relaxed and happy; not to blindly compare with others, they will be relaxed, not to set the goal of life too high, they will always be happy, not deliberately pursuing perfection, they will be away from pain, not always demanding themselves, they will live freely, not every blow, they will be relaxed. Live too tired will be painful, contentedness!

l twenty-first comfort: a good state of mind is created by themselves; we often can not go to change the views of others, can change precisely only our own. Bad life does not lie in the sins of others, but in our mood becoming bad. The golden key to a better life is not in someone else's hands. By giving up our resentment and sighing, a better life is at hand. We subjectively want to live well, but objectively there is no good life, the reason is always want to wait for others to improve their lives, do not expect to change others, and do their own master of life.

l Twenty-second consolation: Do not chase after worldly honors; a lifelong search for what is supposedly approved by others will always painfully lose your joy and happiness. Vulgar comments will smoke out one's personality, and worldly pointers will overwhelm one. The real me is the deliberate pursuit that will become a piece of debris fluttering in the wind, the worldly me has become an abomination. Got the fawning, lost the real, to firm confidence, have self.

l Twenty-third consolation: the more evil thoughts the deeper the pain; why can't you live in peace and harmony? The key is not to exorcise the demons in the heart in time. Because the mind has evil thoughts, it does not restrain itself sensibly and often does remorseful and foolish things. Because the dust of the mind is not cleared in time, the weak-willed will fall into a deep pool from time to time. Because of ghosting from time to time, they will let folly blind them and enter the wrong fork in the road without knowing it. With evil in the heart, the mind becomes distracted and goes to evil thoughts.

l The twenty-fourth consolation: one's heartache can only be healed by oneself; why lose the present mood for painful remorse? Occasional complaints to vent, is also very necessary, but endless complaints will only add to the trouble, only to show others their incompetence, complaining is a deadly negative state of mind, once their complaints become a vice then life will be dark, not only their good mood all gone, and others followed by bad luck. There is no benefit to complaining, optimism is the most important.

l twenty-five comfort: everyone has their way of living; their pain, their understanding of their grievances, their happiness, their feelings, perhaps their own eyes of hell, but the eyes of others in heaven, perhaps their own eyes of heaven, but the eyes of others in hell, life is this kind of funny, do not always suspect the spring in others, the key lies in the adjustment of their mindset to live their own lives the most important It is important not to climb not to compare.