20 Things Confident People Don't Do

20 Things Confident People Don’t Do

True confidence is very different from egotistical swagger. When people believe in themselves and their abilities without bravado, there are things they simply don’t do. Don’t get me wrong, learning to be confident is important. But, there are certain behaviors that set highly confident people apart from everyone else. In this video, we are going to highlight the core habits they share, so that you too can incorporate them into your repertoire.

Number 1 - They Don’t Over-Focus On Appearance When someone is self-confident, they have a healthy relationship with their appearance. They stay fit and well-groomed, and they eat healthy foods, because they know their bodies deserve to be cared for properly. Confident people improve the things they can, strive to put their best foot forward, and then accept themselves as they are.

Number 2 - They Don’t Try To Change Their Personality Whether someone’s an introvert or an extrovert, they can still be confident. Confident people understand that self-assurance comes from feeling good about who they are and what they can achieve by being completely authentic. They don't try to be someone they're not, because they understand that self-acceptance is a vital element of self-confidence.

Number 3 - They Don’t Chase Likes And Follows On Social Media For confident people, social media is about sharing what’s happening - and not a place for being worshiped. They don’t get disappointed when they post something and get only two thumbs up on it. You may also find their profiles to be more interesting, and less self-centered than insecure people. They would rather post a quote they love, or a picture of a tree than a flaming hot selfie!

Number 4 - They Don’t Ignore Their Own Judgment Self-confident people don't assume other people have all the answers or know best. They value their own good judgment and listen to their own intuition. They recognize that they have the ability, on their own, to come up with the answers for most situations. They may seek input and guidance, but they are comfortable making a final decision when the time comes.

Number 5 - They Don’t Put Others Down To Feel Good Confident people don't need to undermine others or make negative comments about them, their success, or wealth, in order to build themselves up. They are genuinely happy for the success of others, and allow themselves to feel inspired by those successes. Furthermore, they don't assume successful people have something special that others don't have! They look to other happy, successful people for ideas and motivation - to create the same success in their lives.

Number 6 - They Don’t Dominate Conversations A confident person understands that a conversation is an exchange of thoughts, and not a solo act. They take the time to learn what others are passionate about - even if they aren’t particularly interested in the topic. They know that by actively listening and paying attention to others, they are much more likely to learn and grow.

Number 7 - They Don’t Avoid Conflict Confident people know that conflict is part of life, and they don’t see it as something to be completely avoided - they see it as something to manage effectively. They don’t go along to get along - even when it means having uncomfortable conversations or making unpleasant decisions.

Number 8 - They Don’t Cling To People People with confidence can stand on their own two feet. It’s not to say that they don’t enjoy the company of others… but, they are integral enough to enjoy their own company, and to feel confident - even when they are alone, or in a new social situation.

Number 9 - They Don’t Wait For Permission To Act Confident people don’t need somebody to tell them what to do, or when to do it. They don’t waste time asking themselves questions like “Can I?” or “Should I?” If they ask themselves anything, it’s “Why wouldn’t I?” Whether it’s running a meeting when the chairperson doesn’t show up, or going the extra mile to solve a customer’s problem, it doesn’t even occur to them to wait for someone else to take care of it. They see what needs to be done, and they do it.

Number 10 - They Don’t Seek Happiness From The Outside Happiness is a critical element of confidence, because in order to be confident in what you do, you have to be happy with who you are. People who brim with confidence derive their sense of pleasure and satisfaction from their own accomplishments - as opposed to what other people think. They understand that no matter what anyone says - you’re never as good or bad as people say you are.

Number 11 - They Don’t Focus On Weaknesses Most people think it’s worthwhile to put more time into strengthening their weaknesses. Those with confidence however, understand that success comes with continuing to improve upon your strengths. They are able to accept their own weaknesses gracefully, and put more time and effort into endeavors where they know they'll have more likelihood of success. They maximize their time and energy this way.

Number 12 - They Don’t Settle For Mediocre Self-assured people have a vision of what they want, and they go for it. They don't hold back and allow their fears to keep them from trying. They push themselves to go above and beyond. They set the bar high for themselves and demand excellence. They know they are as deserving of the best - in both work and life - as anyone else.

Number 13 - They Don’t Neglect Their Skills So much of low self-confidence comes from not having the skills or training needed for great success. Those with confidence see clearly what they need to do to improve their chances of success. They are willing to commit the time and energy to improving their skills, advancing their training, or getting more education, in order to be more confident in their abilities.

Number 14 - They Don’t Need Constant Praise Have you ever been around someone who constantly needs to hear how great they are? Well, confident people are not like this - they don’t need constant praise. They know that their success does not depend on other people’s approval, and they understand that no matter how well they perform, there’s always going to be somebody out there offering nothing but criticism. Confident people also know that the kind of confidence that’s dependent on praise from other people, isn’t really confidence at all - it’s narcissism.

Number 15 - They Don’t Resist Learning New Things People with confidence, are life-long learners. Even when they are experts in their field, they have a learner's mindset. They know that there is so much more in life to achieve, and so many ways to grow. They aren't entrenched in old ways of doing things, or old beliefs about what is right or best. They look for ways to stretch themselves, through new endeavors.

Number 16 - They Don’t Get Too Comfortable Confident people understand that getting too comfortable is the mortal enemy of achieving goals. That’s because they know that comfort leads to contentment, and contentment leads to stagnation. When they start feeling comfortable, they take it as a red flag, and start pushing their boundaries, so that they can continue to grow. They understand that a little discomfort is a good thing.

Number 17 - They Don’t Tell Themselves Stories Confident people don't lie to themselves. They don't tell themselves things like, “I'm too old,” or “I'm not smart enough,” or “I'm not attractive enough.” They don't hide behind denial or limiting beliefs that simply offer an excuse to remain stuck in the status quo. They are real with themselves, even when the truth seems daunting.

Number 18 - They Don’t Put Things Off Why do people procrastinate? Sometimes it’s because they’re lazy. A lot of times, though, it’s because they’re afraid - afraid of change, failure, or maybe even success. Confident people don’t put things off. They don’t sit around waiting for the right time or the perfect circumstances, because they believe in themselves, and expect that their actions will lead them closer to their goals. They know that today is the only time that matters. If they don’t think it’s the right time, they make it the right time.

Number 19 - They Don’t Force Their Views on Others Confident people don’t force their beliefs on anyone else - whether those beliefs are political or religious. They have a clear understanding that these beliefs and choices are personal for everyone. They may stand up for themselves when others oppose - but will never challenge what other people think, nor feel the need to tell them that they are wrong.

Number 20 - They Don’t Compromise Their Values Having ‘defined core values’ gives foundational principles to any pursuit in life. Confident people live in alignment with their values, and will never compromise themselves or what they hold dear. They use these values as they make decisions in both life and work - even if it means giving up something desirable in the short term.

When it comes to confidence, one thing is certain: Truly confident people always have the upper hand over the doubtful and the skittish, because they inspire others, and they make things happen. Embracing the behaviors of confident people is a great way to increase your odds for success, which in turn, will lead to more confidence. Remember, building confidence is a journey, not a destination! We wanna know what you think! Do you see yourself in any of these behaviors? Did we miss anything? Share your thoughts and comments below!