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The Stranger In The Mirror

Who Is It?

By Kabinga Charline MazabaPublished 4 months ago 3 min read
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We all have that moment in the day where we stop and stare at our reflection in the mirror. We take a good, hard look at ourselves and sometimes we don't like what we see. Maybe we don't like our hair, our clothes, or the way we look that day. But have you ever stopped to really think about the person looking back at you? Who are they? What do they want? What are they afraid of?

We often don't like to think about these things because it can be painful. We would rather not face up to our fears or our flaws. But if we want to grow and become better people, we need to have deep, honest conversations with ourselves. We need to be willing to let go of the past and move forward into the future.

Confronting our fears

One of the biggest reasons why we avoid having honest conversations with ourselves is because we are afraid of what we might find out. We might be afraid of facing up to our own weaknesses or confronting our fears. But if we want to grow as people, we need to be willing to face those fears head-on. Only then can we begin to work on overcoming them.

Facing up to our flaws

Another reason why we shy away from honest self-reflection is because we don't want to face up to our flaws. We would rather ignore them and pretend they don't exist. But if we want to become better people, we need to be willing to face up to our faults and work on improving them. Only then can we hope to make progress in our lives.

Letting go of the past

One of the hardest things about having an honest conversation with ourselves is letting go of the past. It can be difficult to forgive ourselves for our mistakes or admit that things didn't turn out the way we wanted them too. But if we want to move forward in life, we need to let go of the past and focus on the present. Only then can we begin to create a better future for ourselves.

Why You Should Talk to Yourself

Talking to yourself may seem like a strange concept, but hear us out. There are actually a lot of good reasons why you should have regular conversations with the person in the mirror. Here are just a few:

It Can Help You Process Your emotions

We all go through tough times in life. Sometimes, it can be helpful to talk through your problems with yourself. Putting your thoughts and feelings into words can help you make sense of them and figure out how to move on.

It Can Help You Achieve Your Goals

If you’re working towards a goal, talking to yourself can help you stay motivated and on track. Telling yourself what you need to do in order to achieve your goals can help you stay focused when things get tough.

It Can Help You Be More Mindful

In a fast-paced world, it’s easy to get caught up in our thoughts and forget about the present moment. Talking to yourself can help you slow down and be more mindful of your thoughts and actions.

It Can Help You Be More Assertive

If you tend to shy away from conflict or avoid speaking up for yourself, talking to yourself can help you practice being more assertive. By saying what you want or need out loud, you’ll be better prepared to speak up for yourself in difficult situations.

It Can Help You Be More Forgiving

It’s easy to dwell on our mistakes and beat ourselves up for things that we’ve done wrong. But if you can learn to forgive yourself, you’ll be happier and healthier as a result. Talking to yourself can help you let go of grudges and move on from past mistakes.

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Talking to ourselves can be scary. But It's Worth It!

The next time you find yourself staring at your reflection in the mirror, take a moment to have a conversation with the person looking back at you. Ask them who they are, what they want, and what they're afraid of. It might be scary, but it's important to have these types of honest conversations with ourselves if want to grow as people. So don't be afraid to confront your fears or face up your flaws—it's only by doing so that you can hope to improve your life and create a better future for yourself."

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About the Creator

Kabinga Charline Mazaba

- Blogger & Content Writer

- Founder of the clothing brand "Lifemotiva": a mission to inspire people to live their best lives.

- I help people who have experienced trauma in their lives to heal and move forward.

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