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The best way to control your anger

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By Sigma Published 3 years ago 6 min read
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The best way to control your anger
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Who does not know anger? You have opened this article, it means you must have got angry somewhere. If someone says that he does not get angry, then he is lying or he is a proven man. Everyone must have been angry at some time or the other. Getting angry is simple but how we control it is important.

Sometimes I get angry, but some people get very angry. They do not control their anger. Too much anger always results in its own loss. More angry people lose a lot in their lives. No one would want to live with such people. Anger has opposite consequences on our health and mind; Health can deteriorate.

If you get very angry too, then you must read this article and read it completely. If you understand the essence of this article, then you can control your anger in the most. First you read and understand this short story.

Was a teenage boy. Although it was good, but he used to get angry. Sometimes he would do something in anger, which he later regretted. He used to say anything to anyone in anger, which he did not have to say and later he would regret it.

The boy's father gave him a tip to control his anger. He gave the boy a sack / bag filled with nails and said that whenever you get angry from yesterday, then put a nail on the wooden wall outside. The next day he hit 30 nails in a single day. He started doing this every day.

Whenever he got angry he would hit the nail on the wall. Gradually, in a few days, the number of his nails was reduced. Now he used to hit only one or two nails throughout the day. Now he realizes that his anger has started to come under control, his anger has started to reduce. There came a day when he did not hit a nail on the wall. He became very happy. He told his father that he had almost completely overcome his anger. Her father complimented her and said that on the day you will not get angry, remove a nail from the wall and keep doing it everyday.

The boy started doing the same. After a few weeks of passing, all the nails got out of the wall. The boy started feeling very good. He started feeling proud of himself. He went to his father and said this, his father also became very happy. He lovingly took her by the hand and took her to the wall and said, "You have removed all the nails, but the holes that have been made in the wall due to these forts, the wounds that have formed are never going to disappear, these Wound healing is almost impossible. Now this wall is not the same.

Just like whenever you angrily tell someone something wrong because of that, they feel very bad and a wound is formed in their mind which is very difficult to heal. Then later you apologize no matter how much you regret it, yet that thing remains in their mind.

This story teaches us a lot. In the office, when the boss scolds us, shouts, we do not speak anything to him, listen silently, control our anger. Because we know that if we say anything upside down in anger then our job can also go.

Sometimes the boss scolds us in front of everyone, yet we listen quietly. But when we are in the house, we get angry at parents, wife or children about small things, they tell them bad things. Because we have no fear of anyone in the house. Speaking here means that you are also in the office and you are also at home, but the response is different in both places. In the office, you remain calm and at home you become angry with anger. You can control your anger. Just like you control your anger in the office, similarly you can control your anger at home or anywhere else.

The boss of the office is still alien, but the householders are our own. They first help us in any problem. In anger, sometimes we make wounds that never heal in their mind. Think a little, in the next few moments of anger, you are not hurting your loved ones in the heart. Friends, mistakes happen to everyone, so instead of directly raging on anyone, you should explain them.

Some remedies to calm your anger:

Always think 2 minutes before you say anything in anger. You can even count up to 100 before speaking in anger.

When you calm down and start thinking calmly, then express your anger but without shouting at anyone. Clearly state your frustration and concern.

Physical activity can help reduce stress due to which you will feel angry. If you feel your anger rising, go for brisk walking or running, or spend some time doing other enjoyable physical activities. Which can calm your anger.

Give yourself a little time throughout the day, which will reduce your stress. Spend a few moments of peace, go for a walk with friends, which will relieve your irritability and reduce anger.

Try to solve the problems rather than just thinking about it. Remember, blaming someone or cursing yourself will not remove the problem and neither will your stress be removed.

Do not complain to anyone. Forgiveness is a powerful tool. If someone has hurt your heart, learn to forgive him, because of this you will not have any bitterness towards that person and you will avoid going into negative feelings. Forgiveness can make your relationship stronger.

If you like music, then listen to your favorite song. Get relaxed while listening to music and the anger will automatically calm down.

Be silent In anger, you can inadvertently use very harsh and bad words, so try to keep yourself silent until the anger subsides.

Practice empathy. Try to understand the other person and see the situation from their point of view. When you hear the story or feel the events again as they saw or heard, you can gain a new understanding and become less angry.

Write a letter. Write a letter or email to the person that made you angry. Then, delete it. Often, you just want to express your feelings in some form, even if it is something that is never visible to anyone.

Practice expressing gratitude. When everything seems wrong in life, pay attention to what is right. Focus on how many good things you have in your life that can help you neutralize anger and twist the situation.

Write in your journal. You can write what you cannot speak. Write in detail how you want to respond to what you are feeling. Writing down your emotions can make you feel calm.

Practice relaxation skills. Whenever you get flustered, try to get yourself in a relaxed state, imagine a relaxing scene, or repeat words for peace, such as 'calm down', 'relaxed, relaxed' (take it easy ), 'Everything is fine' etc.

Seek the help of experts. If you are not able to control your anger then you need help. You can take help of a psychiatrist.

Remember, in anger you will always hurt yourself and the people around you. Therefore it is very important to control it.

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Sigma

My Name is Ankit Bhatt .I’m an educator, Blogger and Writer. I blog on multi niche topics such as Personal Development, Motivation, Education,Technology . And I’m writer on Medium as well. I want to write life experiences on this platform.

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