Speak the Truth

We all are guilty of it. We tell blind lies to spare the present vibe, but that tiny spark, no matter how innocent, will only grow into a giant bolt of lightning. Any empathetic person like myself will always want to comfort others; we hate to see anyone in pain, but life is full of pain. It is not possible to shelter anyone from all the harsh negatives. We need to learn to grasp this pain and use it to our advantage, moving forward with more strength. Let go of the emotional reaction and skip straight to the empowerment.

Upon getting a negative verdict in our lives, we instantly get the feeling of failure, a dark gloom sweeps through us. It is a natural phenomenon. It is the reaction to this occurrence that will ultimately have an impact on our lives. You can get overtaken by this immense feeling of anguish, or you use it as a stepping stone and raise yourself to a whole new level of confidence. Once you yourself learn to visualize the advantages of self-improvement from a negative incident, you will see there is no upper hand to a comforting deception. We need to learn to understand without getting emotional and grow from it.

There are many circumstances in which a white lie may seem innocent or even qualified, but for every short-term decision, there is a long-term effect. Even the smallest fib brings with it a false sense of security, which benefits no one. For the split second of what could be constructive criticism, you bring about another string in a web of lies. This seemingly minuscule lie, when found out, will cause a spiral in the trust of the person you created it to. They will question everything you ever told them, truth or not, and once this happens, it cannot be undone.

When you give someone the decency of being honest, you provide them with the opportunity to grow. This may even involve putting yourself in a state to be judged, but use this opportunity to help both yourself and the recipient. You cannot build any relationship, friend or romantic, on a fake foundation. They may not like to hear what you have to say, but you need to let them choose to keep you for your honesty, not for a fake persona. They also have the right to choose and if they don't choose to stay in your life, accept that. Stay strong and stay true to yourself, there are people out there that will accept you as you are.

In the same sense of not being deceitful, you need to learn to accept a negative outcome. Don't get offended by someone's negative opinion of you. Learn and improve yourself. Remember that an opinion is just that, someone else's judgement. You get to choose what you do with it. You can take it to heart or assess it and value it. Knowledge is powerful. Knowing yourself is a powerful tool in life. Some even say it is the key to life.

It is hard to imagine a world full of blatant truths. We are so conditioned to receiving a sugarcoated version of the truth. This leads to false judgement, our world causes us to have trust issues. We develop an instinct to question the actuality of everything around us. We have to fact check everything we hear because of the absurd amount of lies we are fed. Be the change, have the confidence to open yourself up to full judgement and help others realize the strength within this.

Honesty is valuable. Stay strong and embrace your power.