Living with Borderline Personality Disorder

Living with Borderline Personality Disorder is extremely stressful and difficult. Don't let recovery be any more difficult than it has to be. Educate yourself and learn as much as you can about BPD.

Living with Borderline Personality Disorder

Livng with Borderline Personality Disorder can be quite a struggle. Everything from personal relationships to your career are constantly in jeopardy. While there are no specific medications or guaranteed cures for BPD, there are ways to live a healthy and mostly happy life.

In the past, Borderline Personality Disorder was thought to be a life sentence. There wasn't much hope for those diagnosed with it, but advances in the mental health system have proved that theory wrong. It is very possible to overcome BPD if you remain determined. Just remember to do things at your pace. Everyone with BPD has a different experience with it and therefor won't recover at the same rate. Don't look down on yourself if you're not progressing in recovery as quickly as you had hoped. Just do your best and remember that your best is always enough!

A Brief Overview of BPD

While this isn't a complete list of possible symptoms, these are among the most common and easily recognizable:

- The smallest things can alter your mood before you realize it.

- Depression, extreme sadness, irritability, intense anger, anxiety and self-doubt.

- Feeling emotions much stronger than most people.

- Being unsure of how you feel or why you feel that way.

- Acting differently with almost every person you know based on how you know them and what their personality is.

- Acting impulsively and against your own morals.

- Getting really attached to certain people easily and quickly.

- Trouble keeping and sticking to a schedule.

- Always wanting to be alone but never wanting people to actually leave you alone.

- Holding a grudge for a long time, sometimes even forever.

- Having trouble properly expressing anger and sadness.

- Believing that you shouldn't feel the way you feel almost all the time.

- Feeling like you don't deserve to be happy.

- A history of self harm, suicidal ideation and/or suicide attempts.

- Panicking if plans change at the last minute.

- Having a hard time making decisions to the point where it's sometimes impossible.

- Not knowing your true identity.

- Feeling constantly like everyone will abandon you.

- Anxiety induced dissociation.

- Panic attacks and anxiety attacks.

- Being distrustful of people and their motives.

- Feeling like you are faking your symptoms and that you don't truly have BPD.

- An intense need for attention in order to feel okay.

The Struggle of Diagnosing BPD

Borderline Personality Disorder tends to be extremely difficult for even a trained professional to diagnose. This is because there are many symptoms that are tricky to pinpoint. While it is not necessary to have each and every symptom to be diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, the severity of symptoms also plays a large part. Many symptoms of BPD are felt even by mentally healthy individuals, but when combined or felt strongly enough, you may fit the criteria of a BPD diagnosis. Only a qualified professional, such as a therapist or psychiatrist, can properly diagnose Borderline Personality Disorder. While many people prefer to self-diagnose, they're really not doing themselves any favors because they aren't getting help for it.

Treating BPD

While there aren't any medicines that directly treat or cure Borderline Personality Disorder, there are meds you can take and things you can do to help treat some BPD symptoms. For best results, it is recommended that you utilize more than one of the following treatments. When they are all combined, you will see much better and consistent results.

- The first thing you should do, if you haven't already, is find a therapist that you trust. Talk therapy and group therapy, such as Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), can be extremely helpful towards your recovery process. It's important to figure out ways to deal with urges and negative thought patterns that you have developed. Having a professional guide you and help you understand your condition is essential.

- There isn't a cure all pill that will get rid of BPD, but there are meds you can take to help with some of your symptoms. The 2 main medicines that people with Borderline Personality Disorder find helpful are anti-depressants and anti-anxiety meds. These meds will generally help alleviate either depression or anxiety enough that you will be able to find ways to manage it and overcome it. While there are many other symptoms associated with BPD, there aren't meds for each and every one of them.

- Having the support of family and friends can be a huge advantage for anyone that has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. It's nearly impossible to overcome without people close to you that are rooting for you. They can help you stay on the right track as well as learn how to best support you when you are experiencing overwhelming symptoms. If you are experiencing a moment of dissociation or a panic attack, it is very helpful to have someone that you trust telling you that you will be okay. Even if you don't believe that in the moment, it will eventually become something that your brain realizes on its own. There are numerous other ways that having the support of family and friends is an integral part of recovering from Borderline Personality Disorder.

If you suspect that you or someone close to you may be suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder, please take it seriously. It may seem embarrassing or too long of a process, but I can assure you that it will be worth it in the end. Professionals are used to treating people with BPD and they will be able to guide you along your journey to recovery. You don't have to do it alone and you shouldn't have to. Borderline Personality Disorder can be a tough thing to overcome, but it is very possible. With the right people on your side, you will be able to live life without constantly feeling depressed, miserable and overwhelmed.

A Brief Overview of BPD

While this isn't a complete list of possible symptoms, these are among the most common and easily recognizable:

  • The smallest things can alter your mood before you realize it.
  • Depression, extreme sadness, irritability, intense anger, anxiety and self-doubt.
  • Feeling emotions much stronger than most people.
  • Being unsure of how you feel or why you feel that way.
  • Acting differently with almost every person you know based on how you know them and what their personality is.
  • Acting impulsively and against your own morals.
  • Getting really attached to certain people easily and quickly.
  • Trouble keeping and sticking to a schedule.
  • Always wanting to be alone but never wanting people to actually leave you alone.
  • Holding a grudge for a long time, sometimes even forever.
  • Having trouble properly expressing anger and sadness.
  • Believing that you shouldn't feel the way you feel almost all the time.
  • Feeling like you don't deserve to be happy.
  • A history of self harm, suicidal ideation and/or suicide attempts.
  • Panicking if plans change at the last minute.
  • Having a hard time making decisions to the point where it's sometimes impossible.
  • Not knowing your true identity.
  • Feeling constantly like everyone will abandon you.
  • Anxiety induced dissociation.
  • Panic attacks and anxiety attacks.
  • Being distrustful of people and their motives.
  • Feeling like you are faking your symptoms and that you don't truly have BPD.
  • An intense need for attention in order to feel okay.

The Struggle of Diagnosing BPD

Borderline Personality Disorder tends to be extremely difficult for even a trained professional to diagnose. This is because there are many symptoms that are tricky to pinpoint. While it is not necessary to have each and every symptom to be diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, the severity of symptoms also plays a large part. Many symptoms of BPD are felt even by mentally healthy individuals, but when combined or felt strongly enough, you may fit the criteria of a BPD diagnosis. Only a qualified professional, such as a therapist or psychiatrist, can properly diagnose Borderline Personality Disorder. While many people prefer to self-diagnose, they're really not doing themselves any favors because they aren't getting help for it.

Treating BPD

While there aren't any medicines that directly treat or cure Borderline Personality Disorder, there are meds you can take and things you can do to help treat some BPD symptoms. For best results, it is recommended that you utilize more than one of the following treatments. When they are all combined, you will see much better and consistent results.

  1. The first thing you should do, if you haven't already, is find a therapist that you trust. Talk therapy and group therapy, such as Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), can be extremely helpful towards your recovery process. It's important to figure out ways to deal with urges and negative thought patterns that you have developed. Having a professional guide you and help you understand your condition is essential.
  2. There isn't a cure all pill that will get rid of BPD, but there are meds you can take to help with some of your symptoms. The 2 main medicines that people with Borderline Personality Disorder find helpful are anti-depressants and anti-anxiety meds. These meds will generally help alleviate either depression or anxiety enough that you will be able to find ways to manage it and overcome it. While there are many other symptoms associated with BPD, there aren't meds for each and every one of them.
  3. Having the support of family and friends can be a huge advantage for anyone that has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. It's nearly impossible to overcome without people close to you that are rooting for you. They can help you stay on the right track as well as learn how to best support you when you are experiencing overwhelming symptoms. If you are experiencing a moment of dissociation or a panic attack, it is very helpful to have someone that you trust telling you that you will be okay. Even if you don't believe that in the moment, it will eventually become something that your brain realizes on its own. There are numerous other ways that having the support of family and friends is an integral part of recovering from Borderline Personality Disorder.

If you suspect that you or someone close to you may be suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder, please take it seriously. It may seem embarrassing or too long of a process, but I can assure you that it will be worth it in the end. Professionals are used to treating people with BPD and they will be able to guide you along your journey to recovery. You don't have to do it alone and you shouldn't have to. Borderline Personality Disorder can be a tough thing to overcome, but it is very possible. With the right people on your side, you will be able to live life without constantly feeling depressed, miserable and overwhelmed.

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Kari Ann Fallon

Kari Ann Fallon has had a passion for writing since she was 12 years old.  She enjoys writing everything from poetry and short fiction stories to blog posts and research articles.  She uses writing as a positive outlet for her emotions.

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