How Accepting Yourself is the Coolest Thing in the World?

When we think of showing ourselves to others, we think of all possible gestures and sentences which can justify our ego and self esteem and also help in making a good image of ourselves for them. We do it all the time whether it is an official meeting or a casual chat with someone we’ve just met. But when we think of a long picture, these things don’t go any further because these fake sentences and gestures are not coming from us in the first place. Maybe we have taken tips from someone or read an article or watched a YouTube video about “proper etiquettes and sentences to make others feel warm” before meeting someone.

This is all good when we think of a learn and apply process. But what most of us forget that applying or adding any good thing shouldn’t be related or limited to only when we meet someone or present ourselves in public.

Whether we talk about celebrities or these so called influencers, most of them are faking it and worse thing is that they don’t even want to show their real body or face and put it forward on Instagram or any other social media platforms after applying a lot of photoshopping and skin smoothening. All of this hustle is going on to prove themselves as an awake and COOL person.

What we are missing here is an essence of genuinity and reality. We can fake these things only for a certain period of time and doing that is not any good. As I’ve mentioned earlier that knowing and learning is appropriate but the most important thing that we all misunderstand is the process of applying.

By applying it shouldn’t be taken as going and applying those “must be said in an interview monologues for a job” where you are just like a toad eater to impress your interviewer or to show off your etiquettes and sugarcoated words on your date you went last evening.

Soon your boss will be disappointed when he’ll find out that you are not even closer to an employee and person he saw in the interview making promises about growth of the company & now just thinking about his own means and free funding himself. And the Dates which you’ve got applying those tips & tricks will also realize that you’ve just crapped them all because you are not really that sweet and kind person they were introduced to and had an awesome date with.

Now comes the point what APPLYING actually means itself. So now you have to analyze what are the shortcomings and problems with your routine, habits and thinking process before searching for any solution.

When you find a solution, always ask “Why am I finding this solution useful?” When you get a satisfactory answer to your questions then introduce the process of application with your whole heart. Putting your heart into practice will give an assurance of whether you actually find it worth for yourself or not.

Accepting your even and odds then taking further applications accordingly can be one of the finest decisions of yours. When you accept your shortcomings, you are simply inviting betterment for yourself in the form of applying solutions and practices. With this amount of clearance in thought processing and actions you are free to accept things you believe and deny ideas and deeds you don’t.

So as you clear all the filters of fakeness it becomes quite clear for your mind to deliver things you actually have faith upon and to act further on the basis of it. Saying what you believe and performing acts you truly mean is really helpful when it comes to calmness of mind because you are not putting that extra effort that you were doing before to fake things and show all good and sweet manners, as now, it comes to you naturally because you own it. You stop afraiding of the fact that your fakeness would be disclosed some day.

As you step up on the ladder of acceptance you stop taking rubbish people throw at you and seek for a constructive criticism to improve yourself. You don’t take comments seriously about your aesthetics or a post you’ve just put because you know your body and mind far better than any fake compliment, hate comment or toxicity. You better learn not to compromise with your choices because of the pressure of society.

When you start knowing yourself better and better with time no one can match your calm state of mind and a person who doesn't bother too much on what others are saying about him is the true definition of COOL.