Developing a friendship with yourself

The love of your life, your own best friend, and your true unfailing advocate is you. That is, if you’re willing to do what it takes to first cultivate that relationship.

I’m not suggesting that you should be a raging egotist with extreme narcissism. No. But just here to remind that it’s okay to like who you are, to become supportive, and give yourself permission to be a friend to yourself.

True friends don’t condemn you for making a mistake. They’ll sit by you and ask what happened and love you through the difficulty.

Further, true friends won’t relentlessly remind you of every mistake you’ve ever made. They won’t call you stupid, worthless, a joke, a waste of space, better off dead. True friends won’t collude with the lie that you’re not good enough, pretty enough, or smart enough. Negative self talk is brutal. This voice does not originate from your identity at all. This is the voice of the Ego.

The ego wasn’t designed to lead. The ego is an alert system to warn of “danger, Will Robinson”. But not looked to for all the answers. Because it doesn’t know them. That would require self awareness which the ego simply does not possess. It never has.

But here is where the lines got blurred. You - the real genuine you without the bad case of the “shoulda woulda couldas” - is pure love. The true nature of the soul is rich, creative and expansive. It’s love knows no bounds.

Enter the ego. It has convinced itself - and you - that it knows better. “I will keep you safe and protected because you clearly lack common sense and besides, you’re a danger to yourself and others”, it argues. So it promoted itself from servant to ruler. And the soul went right along with the ruse.

News flash: the ego is NOT you. The ego is a fear based construct. It’s afraid. So you have to follow the ego’s rules to assuage it’s fear. Or else it will relentlessly bombard you with the nastiest treatment until you concede. It will never align with any regimen where it is left out. What drives the ego insane is when it can no longer control you. It is so controlling because it is so afraid it will lose you and therefore die.

Give the ego another job. For example, instead of being security officer, you can assign the ego sort as a helper to sort through your taxes instead. You can do this because truly, you’re in charge. The ego is a steward - not royalty. Or was before you abdicated your inner kingdom.

When you can honestly say:

“I am my best friend. I like who I am. I know who I am. I love myself. And because I do, I now have a completely full tank to show up and to love others in a far deeper and more profound way. Because I’m no longer attached. I’m no longer stuck by the negative self talk. I am my own best friend. And because I am, I can love like the angels love. For unconditional love is True Love”.

Then you’ve given yourself the best gift of the happiness that will never stop giving.

Frederick Alexander Russ is the Founder of the Spiritual Awakening Community.

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