Am I Unworthy?

It's a question I have asked myself, as have many others.

Am I unworthy?

The hardest part about this question is that our psychology works in strange ways sometimes.

If we ask ourselves a question, our brains will look for evidence for that question - much like Google search.

If you ask yourself, "Am I unworthy?", your brain will begin to say...

"You are unworthy because..."

Of your fears.

Of your failures.

Of your embarrassments.

Of your struggles.

Of your flaws.

The longer you keep the question in your mind, the more "results" your brain will find.

As you live your life, your brain will continue to add to this search.

Here's another reason you are unworthy.

More proof here that you are unworthy.

Of course this happened, it is because you are unworthy.

In some ways, it might actually be true.

Maybe there are some ways that you are unworthy.

I have found that in myself at times, even recently.

We are humans after all.

It is true we have flaws.

It is true we have fears.

It is true we have embarrassment.

It is true we struggle.

It is true that we will fail.

The evidence will stack up and show us exactly how unworthy we are.

However, it is not healthy to do this to ourselves.

We do not need to approach things in this manner.

If we do not change, it will slowly destroy us from the inside out.

So, what are we to do instead?

The quality of our life will be determined by the quality of the questions we ask.

To ask, "Am I unworthy?" is a self-defeating question.

If you answer "Yes", then you lose.

If you answer "No", your brain has a lie detector that will ping off and give you all the reasons you are unworthy.

Due to our humanity, our lists will generally be long - for some of us far longer than we would ever like to admit.

This is the wrong question to be asking, yet it is sadly the one we ask ourselves very often.

What is a better question then?

What question will benefit us more?

What is the higher quality question?

"How do I become more Worthy?"

This works better for a number of reasons.

First, it acknowledges our imperfections.

The "more" gives us a recognition that we may fail, struggle, have fears and embarrassments.

It recognizes we are human.

YET.

We can become "more" Worthy despite these facts that may exist in our lives.

It gives us an opportunity to grow.

This question also changes our focus.

Instead of seeking unworthiness, we begin to seek out opportunities to become Worthier.

As we seek these opportunities, we will find more of them.

Often, we will find them in the least likely of places.

When we set our minds onto something, such as becoming more Worthy, you will become amazed at what you had missed before.

In my own life I have found many times where I felt unworthy of anything.

Unworthy of love.

Unworthy of forgiveness

Even unworthy of life.

When I asked the wrong question, I became miserable.

Even today, after successes I have had, my brain will sometimes see unworthiness.

Of this I am sure - I am still human and very flawed.

However, I also have the power to ask the better question.

How do I become more Worthy?

I will fall, feel embarrassed, have fears, and I will struggle along the way.

However, keeping the focus on those does nothing to benefit anyone, least of all ourselves.

Changing the focus to growth, to Worthiness, allows us to become more.

If we ask the right questions long enough, and continue to grow, we may find ourselves Worthier than we realize possible.