Women's use of validation to manipulate men.

How much validation males require from women, what they need verifying, and whether it is in their nature to demand affirmation.

It's more complicated than that, though, as men actually require four or five different things from women in addition to merely female affirmation. These additional needs include companionship, sex, reproduction.

Consequently, validation is simply when a woman tells you, "Oh, you did such a good job," and you think, "Oh, I did a good job she likes me," and then you just kind of feel happy and stupid and go on to do more nice things. This is flattery, then, and flattery is the manipulation, the validation that women give men to encourage them to do more of the things that they want us to do.

Okay, so what is it in men's instincts that makes them so susceptible to flattery? Why does it why is it?

Simply said, I believe it to be a basic programming in the genetic makeup of men. I'm not sure if it's primarily genetic or societal, but I suspect it's a mix of the two.But it's just kind of like a gauge or a metre; when we receive praise, we think, "Oh, we're going in the right direction, okay. We'll keep doing more of this because we're getting positive reinforcement," so we'll keep doing more of it. I believe that element of mothering kind of carries over into adulthood because it's like when your mother says, "Oh, you did a good job on the assignment or school," and you just grin and think, "Oh, you get that validation." That makes sense. Men seek approval, and sex provides that approval. However, as I previously stated, sex is a combination of factors that include reproduction, which results in childbirth, sexual development, and finding a partner who can act as a mother figure for your offspring.After which you receive validation, which is akin to saying, "Oh, I feel complete; I have someone here to validate and give me purpose." is essentially companionship; you want someone in your life so that you are not alone and so that you know if you feel lonely.

Additionally, the younger a man is, typically between the ages of 30 and 35, the stronger his urges for sexual activity, companionship, and reproduction are. However, once he enters his late 30s or early 40s, at least for myself and many other men I've spoken to, these urges tend to wane. In order to have a successful relationship with a partner or boyfriend, a woman must first pass through the challenging 20s and 30s. How can they affirm them?

I believe that if I were a woman and I want a fulfilling relationship, I would exercise restraint and remain in the background. A woman wants to constantly know that the man loves her, so she's going to test him constantly. She'll ask, "Did you remember my anniversary?" or "Did you know our anniversary is more like her anniversary because she's the only one who really cares about it?" or "Do you know I need flowers?" or "Can you tell me you love me?" It's like a game she plays with him.

Another thing what men can do , you have to be aware of how this works so that when someone compliments you, you can take it in stride. This is because it is part of their character not to be used by manipulative women, such as not being easily moved.It's misleading because it literally lowers your guard. Whether a man or a woman gives you a compliment, you'll feel good about yourself. However, when you feel good about yourself, your brain, for some reason, shuts down certain parts, which prevents you from thinking critically.Your higher functions are being turned off because your lower base urges are being triggered when you receive that compliment because a part of your brain thinks she might want to have sex with you, so all of a sudden that deception that you know then your subconscious is like procreation, procreation, sex, procreation, right?