Wise people go about excusing themselves from these useless meals.

01Dinner for real friends

Recently, just changed a new job, and the company leadership advocates that we have more good relations with customers, let us take the initiative to organize dinner, with the customers together, to enhance the feelings between them.

However, for me, who has always been reluctant to participate in dinner parties, I resist this way of working.

I felt that I needed to have sufficient business skills to get the clientclient'sval.

When I was at a loss, I contacted my respected friend to hear his thoughts and advice on the culture of dinner parties, after all, he has his unequal secrets to get his career to where it is today.

The friend said.

"In the early days of his business, he also put a lot of energy into inviting people to dinner, sometimes even to attend two or three bureaus a night, each time he ate and drank to the detriment of his body, not to mention that his wife did not understand his hard work when he got home, but would often complain to him. Because of the dinner and drinking, the couple had many fights."

However, later on, my friend found that he had attended one dinner party after another, and participated in one event after another, and his friends seemed to be getting more and more, but when he needed money to turn around and needed to make connections, many people used to call him a brother at the table, but very few people who could send charcoal in the snow.

The friend said: "Although they say more a friend more a road, and really can use the urgent help on the people, rarely is in the dinner table to meet, more is the day see true love."

The only way to make a career is to rely on your skills.

Successful people never rely on their efforts to achieve the value of life, they do not expect to rely on others, and will not rely on dinner to achieve their dreams.

02 useless dinner parties, only consume your time

Speaking of which, I also remembered that I was once invited to a dinner party with Sister Huang that I will never forget.

I thought it was just a small gathering of a few friends who usually do business with each other, to talk about starting a media company.

However, I didn't expect that my friend had invited other people that day, and it was said that they were all local leaders from important departments, so I was in a very awkward position as I had to leave with my sister.

The friend who invited us was the regional head of a newspaper, and because of his work, he was familiar with the other leaders at the table, so they had a good conversation during the meal, while Sister Huang and I found it difficult to fit in with their conversation.

After they exchanged pleasantries and mingled with each other, the meal could be considered finished.

On the way home, one of the leaders said, through the strength of his drink, that if we started a company together in the future, he had many contacts to make use of, but he wanted to give only dry shares to get dividends and did not want to invest in the capital side.

In this regard, Sister Huang and I think, at the table, these leaders talk like a very familiar friends, but, to implement the specific implementation, we will still have scruples in the heart, after all, real money to invest, say the best words, but also need the specific ability to implement.

So how can you have a meal and solve the real business?

Later, when Huang and I talked about it again, it dawned on me somewhat.

The reason why the person invited us to the meal was just to show off his connections, and everyone was just a pawn

Since then, Sister Huang and I have stayed away from similar dinner parties.

In our opinion, even if we can increase our network, we need to share the same view of each other, so that we can work together to start a business, to be more solid and permanent.

Most of the things that can be promised over a meal like this are not very reliable.

Instead of spending time eating useless meals and meeting useless people, you should spend more time refining your ability and business, and speaking with strength, to attract more people with vision and strength, and create a career together.

03 Low-quality meals, rather than high-quality alone

Very often, low-quality meals are like a kind of self-hypnosis.

It seems that knowing more and more people, at the drinking table, and having to know dad and mom, is also a way to make an effort.

Eating and drinking, are just one of the ways to socialise, if these socializing, does not bring you something useful, even a little idea, a person's way of doing things and attitude, but will make you feel very tired, such socialising and meals, really better than none.

Really smart people never waste time and overspend their lives on low-quality relationships.

They know that competence is the best calling card for a person.

Instead of spending time on those useless dinners, they should spend more time investing in themselves and spending time with their families.

Although we all know that drinking too much alcohol is not good for our health, many people cannot control themselves in life and still indulge in dinner and drinks.

My friend Ah Qiang is very keen on dinner parties, he owns a hairdressing shop and has free time.

Often looking at his circle of friends, with a group of friends to go here to eat to where to eat, seemingly behind the scenery of the wine bureau, is a waste of the body. I heard Qiang say that he sometimes gets so drunk that he doesn't even know how to get home.

Qing knows that there are not many friends at the table who can be relied on, they are just immersed in the goblets of money to each other's praise, and when they leave the meal to face reality, they are a different look.

There is no better meal than to talk freely with friends and family, not in the light stir-fry or the big fish and meat, but more in the emotion, the thought of answering all the requests.

Smart people, they know exactly what they want, and they don't waste too much time and energy on useless meals, but spend more time improving themselves and spending more time with their families, because family is the source of happiness.

A low-quality meal is better than quality time alone.

A proper understanding of the nature of socializing at the table is even more important to show one's attitude towards life and career perception.

At best, a dinner party is just a way to build a bridge and pave a road.

More energy needs to be spent on refining oneself.